pioneer Posted May 7, 2005 Posted May 7, 2005 I was round my mates hose last night drinking, and on the way home, we drove past my ex's house. ive been split with my ex 6 months, we were together for 5 years, she ended it. Anyway, my mates told me that theyd noticed a car parked out there every night for the last few weeks, and as we drove past, it was there. My mate slowed right down and stared in it, and she was there with this lad, we drove off and she got out and he drove off, then she got on the phone to me. We scremed at each other for about 10 minutes then we talked for about an hour. I told her its got nothing to do with me if shes seeing someone else. But she refused to admit she was. She said it was a friend, but my mate has seen the car parked out there early hours in the morning on his way to work. The thing is, i cant understand why she is bothering to lie to me, we're split and its over, so why not just admit shes seeing someone, its so obvious. Its really hurt me inside seeing her with someone else like this.....
mixwell Posted May 7, 2005 Posted May 7, 2005 I had the same thing happen to me. Well I mean my ex denied that she was with someone. I basically knew she was because of things I had witnessed and I told her "hey I know you are with him why deny it" she was like " you're stupid if I were with him i'd admit it" She denied it until then end until basically something happened where she knew I knew for sure and then she had a lame excuse.. I dont know why they do that though.. Maybe becaue of guilt ?? Who knows.. If I were you I would stop calling and driving by her house.. Just ignore her ass. Seriously I have been broken up about six months also and I was with my ex for 7 years.. I am young (22) as well as her so its very hard on me to just let her go like that but theres no other options.. Think of it this way.. You cannot make someone want to be with you and love you .. I know it sucks but thats reality and I think the sooner we let it go the sooner we will begin to heal.. It sucks soo bad I know and I know exactly how you feel.. Just try to keep your mind off of it though.. take care, peace
Author pioneer Posted May 7, 2005 Author Posted May 7, 2005 Yeah, your right. I was doing ok till i found out shes with someone. Plays on your mind that they do all the things you used to do together. And id love to know why they deny it. My mates seen this car there at like 5 in the morning so i know shes lying. Another thing that pi**es me off is how fast she jumps in bed with new boyfriends. She lives with the pearents and they say nothing either.
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 7, 2005 Posted May 7, 2005 They deny and lie after a breakup because they feel they no longer have the emotional obligation to you to do otherwise. Why tell the truth, when a lie will do just as well and will allow avoidance of any unnecessary emotional turmoil? People lie because they are protecting what they are lying about - in this case, she may have not wanted you to know the truth because she may have felt that doing so would cause you to involve yourself in a situation she wants you to have absolutely no part of: not even the benefit of knowledge of the truth. I'm not justifying those actions, just trying to show it from the other side of the coin.
Author pioneer Posted May 7, 2005 Author Posted May 7, 2005 Thanks, i kind of understand a litttle better now.
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