SteelPanther Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 Earlier this year I met a guy who is now my best friend and we've become the best of buddies at everything. About 1.5 months ago, I started taking interest at one of his ex-colleagues who he told me was crazy and she cheated on her ex etc...basically a whole bunch of reasons to put me off from dating her but we've really hit it off in the past month and things couldn't have gone any better. An interesting development occurred today when she regretfully told me that they both got drunk last year and ended up sleeping with each other once or twice. When she told me she was on the verge of crying because she doesn't want to lose me and hates herself for the whole incident. She said that the past 4 weeks with me has been the happiest of her life and I'm the greatest guy she's met. I'm not really sure what to do here folks. I feel betrayed by my close friend. He tried to protect me by telling me stay away from her so that I wouldn't find out the truth and now I realise the truth on why she has been reluctant the whole time in becoming official with me due to her past experience with my best friend. I also feel sorry for his gf who doesn't know and he's been with her for 2 years now so both of them cheated on their gf/bfs. It's a messed up situation but any advice would help. I have told her that I need a few days to think things over and take a breather. I really don't want to lose her because things have been really wonderful but I feel like a fool and I pride myself on honesty....something which I guess hasn't been the case from the start.
Omei Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 Your having second thoughts because you dont wanna date a dishonest person and perhaps end up being cheated on in the future yourself. If it doesn't feel right dont settle you can find other girls.
Toodaloo Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 Oh the tangled webs we weave when we try to deceive... Well truth is out. I would have a chat with your mate about it first. Its never worth loosing your friends over someone. I would also chat to her. Preferably with out the tears and sobbing. A drunken night or two can be forgiven if they have both moved on. If they haven't then I am afraid to say that it is likely to happen again. In this case your better off out of it. Keep it simple. While it may hurt to say good bye now it will hurt a heck of a lot less then later if the pair of them can't keep it in their pants when they have been drinking near each other... In all honesty I think I would personally want to walk from this one. All far too much drama...
HereNorThere Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 “I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche
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