catlady11 Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 Been messaging/texting with a guy from an online dating site for a little over a week now. We were supposed to meet this afternoon at Starbucks but 2 hours before he texted me and told me that some family emergency came up and he has to watch his kids (he splits custody with his ex). He apologized and asked if we could reschedule for tomorrow night or tuesday. I said tomorrow was fine and he asked if 6:15 would work. I said fine so it's a go. He thanked me for understanding. I looked on the dating site and it shows that he was last on about 10 minutes before he texted me to cancel. Obviously there's no reason why he shouldn't be on there, we haven't even met yet. I don't want to think the worst (that he found a better date) but want to give him the benefit of the doubt. All our messaging/texting has been fairly good and for long periods of time. He initiates texting every day by sending me a good morning text. From what I've read the fact that he instantly wanted to reschedule is a good thing. Is that true?
d0nnivain Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 He said it was an emergency. As a result he couldn't leave his house to meet you. Nothing prevented him from being on line. I'd give it one more chance but I tend to believe people 2
Author catlady11 Posted August 2, 2015 Author Posted August 2, 2015 Thank you for your input. I almost want to text him and ask if he's jerking me around. I won't though. You hear so many stories of guys who flake out it's hard not to be leery.
HereNorThere Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 I've had to reschedule before. Lol, one time I was carrying my bed sheets down the stairs to the washing machine (hmm, I must have thought it was going to be a successful date) and tripped over them and fell into my screen door and cut my foot pretty bad. The other time, I took antibiotics for upper respiratory stuff and ended up with super bad "stomach" problems. Stuff happens and as long as you reschedule, it's not a big deal. Maybe dude just had a terrible case of diarrhea from taking antibiotics. 2
RoseVille Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 When dating divorced guys with kids, you gotta be suuuuper flexible. This will happen again, and you can't assume the worst. 1
Author catlady11 Posted August 2, 2015 Author Posted August 2, 2015 I have kids too so I completely understand. We even said how nice it is that we have kids so the other person realizes that things come up. It's just knowing that he was on the dating site before he texted me is what worries me. The excuse he used was that the boys' great grandmother is having issues and I'm thinking "hmm...the grandma excuse" lol.
d0nnivain Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 Don't text him & confront him. Literally do nothing. See if he contacts you to reschedule. If he doesn't, he was clearly a flake. if he does reschedule just go from there.
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