HE Dumped ME and is now showing up where he knows I'll be....HELP!!!

[ErinErinErin]

Okay so please refer to my other thread for all of the details- http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t61618/ basically I was dumpeed by my bf whom had commitment issues and was afraid I was gonna hurt him, so he ended it before we could get too close...

Okay but then today (I work at a dept store in the mall) he was sitting outside of my work- so my friend and I took our break and walked around the mall to see if he would look at me- so I seen him out of the corner of my eye and then didn't look at him- my friend said he was looking right at me to see if I wuld acknowledge him but I didn't.

 

Next, he had to meet his best friend and some others that are visiting from 7 hours south to rent tuxedos for a wedding in August...Just so happens the store for rentals is right beside my work...okay so he kept walking in and out of the store and looking into my store...and then he did this about 30 times and kept looking to see if I was there... I didn't want him to think I cared and was watching him so I was hiding behind the counter doing work, and the ppl he was with (2 girls and a guy) came to where I was hiding and were pretending to be looking at the products...

 

Then he kept walking up and down in front of the store and looking in...then a lady I worked with said that he got all mad as though I wouldn't come and talk to him so he left wo his friends...

 

Okay the question is- what is going on? He was the one who broke up with me--- I sent him a text msg a few days earlier saying if you miss me call and he called but said he didn't want to be together right now...then he called me back 5 more times bc he said that he would (even though he never told me he was gonna and I never asked him to)...

 

The last time he called after we had settled everything, I ignored it and he left a message saying that we shouldn't talk now cause it is too hard on both of us...I just don't get it- he said that this was the closest relationship he was ever in since he got divorced 5 years ago and it was so scary for him....I know he partially broke up because he is scared of being hurt and told me that he is not looking for anyone and is happy alone...?

 

I have been trying NC with him but want him back- what should be my next step if he is staking me out at the mall?

[BigB]

Sounds like he has some issues, keep doing NC, if he decides to get over his fear and want's you back he'll let you know.

 

Originally posted by ErinErinErin

what should be my next step if he is staking me out at the mall?

 

If it becomes a problem, contact mall security. If you can, provide them with a picture of him, a description of him (height, weight, etc.) a description of his car, and it's license plate # if you have it.

 

Security should also be able to provide you with an escort to your car at night if needed.

 

We get this kinda thing all the time in security, so don't be afraid to ask for their help.

[ErinErinErin]

Hmm...thanks for the advice it was creepy when he was looking into the store because HE dumped ME so I don't know why he would be hanging around?/??????????????????????????