Spunkydiva08 Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 I've been separated from my husband for about 2 years and our divorce will be final soon. Woo hoo! Anyway, I've recently started dating someone and things have been great. We've been dating about 2 months now. He's in a similar situation. His divorce will be final around November. Anyway, I've been spending a lot of time at his house and about 2 weeks ago I bought a new car. One night this week I accidentally left my car unlocked and someone went through the glove compartment and took everything out. I had money between the seats of my car but they didn't take it. It's like they were searching for something. At that point I started to assume it may be his ex or someone he'd dated. He brushed it off and said it was possibly a random break in. So we left it alone. Yesterday morning I woke up at his place and there was a nail through the tire of my car. It looked like it had been pushed through. The way it was in, I couldn't have ran over it. The way the nail is in I may have to get a new tire for a new car. Again, I'm thinking ex wife may be driving past his house and seeing my car there and is doing things. He seems to think that if it was her she would have mentioned something to him about me by now or asked who I am. He doesn't think his wife is this crazy. Now as a women, I'll admit we're sneaky and manipulative. My question is, who's imagining things here, me or him? Sorry about any poorly spelled words. I'm Slightly irritated today.
Amalyn Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 Did they steal anything when they broke into your car? My thoughts immediately would have went to a jealous ex after the nail in my tire.
Gaeta Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 I think you are imagining things unless his ex has a history of performing vandalism on his gf and seems not. Frankly if I were in your situation it would not even have crossed my mind it could be his ex I would have suspected kids in the neighborhood.
Author Spunkydiva08 Posted August 2, 2015 Author Posted August 2, 2015 He has a daughter. He lives in a great neighborhood. He even said nothing like that has ever happened.
Author Spunkydiva08 Posted August 2, 2015 Author Posted August 2, 2015 And nope, nothing was stolen from the car. They went through paperwork in the glove compartment.
tumblingdice Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 I don't think it's in your head. It's possible the ex could be the culprit. The most level people can do things out of character when it comes to break-ups/divorce. Did you file a police report for the break in?
Tread Carefully Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 What about your ex? Is it an amicable divorce? How old is his daughter? If she's old enough to have done it, Daddy's girls can become very vindictive.
Amalyn Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 And nope, nothing was stolen from the car. They went through paperwork in the glove compartment. Like I said, I would certainly lean towards these things being done in an act of jealousy. Especially since nothing was stolen from your vehicle. 1
Iron Bubba Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 Be cautious. Make sure this is something real and not jsut a rebound situation.
Tread Carefully Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 And nope, nothing was stolen from the car. They went through paperwork in the glove compartment. Ahhh, recon.
brok3npromise Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 What do you know about his ex? Why are they getting divorced? Did it end badly? What about your divorce?
Author Spunkydiva08 Posted August 2, 2015 Author Posted August 2, 2015 Daughter is only 9. Ugh. I've been very afraid this could be a rebound situation. But I will say he has dated a few women since his separation. So I'm not his first relationship.
Author Spunkydiva08 Posted August 2, 2015 Author Posted August 2, 2015 The only thing I know about his situation is his wife has been very distant the past few years. They stopped sleeping in the same bed prior to a year before his moving out. It's like they drifted apart. She slipped into a depression from what he's said. She stopped caring, stopped communicating with him, wouldn't touch him. It's like she tuned out. We have mutual friends so I've asked friends and family what happened between them and they've pretty much said the same thing he said. She didn't want him anymore.
Tread Carefully Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 Sounds like she might not want anyone else to have him either.
Amalyn Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 Sounds like she might not want anyone else to have him either. I agree. If she slipped into a depression, I wonder how the rest of her mental state is right now. I'm still leaning towards the ex. 1
Author Spunkydiva08 Posted August 2, 2015 Author Posted August 2, 2015 From what I'm gathering the separation was amicable.
Popsicle Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 You have reason to worry. Dating a separated person who is not officially divorced will do that to you.
Tread Carefully Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 From what I'm gathering the separation was amicable. It could've been amicable in the beginning. Sometimes it takes awhile for the shock and numbness to wear off and then the anger kicks in. Just like love, anger can make people do some crazy chit.
Author Spunkydiva08 Posted August 2, 2015 Author Posted August 2, 2015 I think he's underestimating his wife. He thinks if it was her, she would have said something to him by now. I think she's being smart and waiting to see what we'll do. Love or obsession will make you do some crazy stuff. I'll admit, when I found out my ex was dating someone 10 years younger than him I reacted irrationally but I didn't do anything stupid. 1
Amalyn Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 She's not going to mention anything to him about you two dating because she doesn't want to seem jealous. 1
Tread Carefully Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 Why would she admit to him that she did it? Especially since she could possibly get into big trouble legally. That's crazy for him to think she'd admit that to him. She's not happy therefore he has no right to be happy either. She's probably thinking how dare he move on so quickly, we're not even divorced yet! Etc...
Tread Carefully Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 She's not going to mention anything to him about you two dating because she doesn't want to seem jealous. Yep, that too.
Author Spunkydiva08 Posted August 2, 2015 Author Posted August 2, 2015 I hate women! Lol. We do crazy things. I'm kidding. But seriously, I understand what you're saying she wouldn't admit to it because it's vandalism. And she's a teacher.
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