FaithInTheDark Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 Ive had this man in my life for years, we've always been friends with benefits but with a deeper connection. through out the years, id realized i wanted more but he told me he didnt. i moved on even though i really really liked this guy. well a year goes by and hes back in my life, i promised myself that i wouldn't go through his bs any longer. we have been spending alot of time together and he explains again that hes got too many issues to date girls, and went into depth as to why. ie - child abuse etc i brushed it off and said that was okay, if hes not ready then fine. well, weeks has gone by and hes met my parents, we've gone out for dinners, holding hands on the beach.sleeping together, appearing to look like a couple. and i thought wtf am i doing to myself? so i straight up said that i couldn't do this anymore, it wasn't fair to me since he cant give me what i need. it makes me feel like ill never be good enough. he asked if we could just take things slow because hes not ready to jump into boyfriend&girlfriend thing. after the convo i realized i need to clarify what "taking it slow means" but we've been taking it slow for years. i dont know if he is even willing to take a step in the direction of a relationship and im so worried im gonna get hurt like hes done to me before. if a man wont commit, will be ever?
d0nnivain Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 he may eventually be ready to make a commitment to someone but it's highly unlikely that it will be you. Sorry. Make a clean break because that is what will best for you 3
ExpatInItaly Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 he may eventually be ready to make a commitment to someone but it's highly unlikely that it will be you. Sorry. Make a clean break because that is what will best for you I agree with everything above. A man who is really into you will not need that long to decide if he can commit. I think he knows you're not "the one" for him but he likes the benefits of your companionship and physical affection. Time to cut the cord here. 2
Amalyn Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 I'm sorry, but I think it's time to completely move on from this one. End all contact. Don't see him, don't text him, don't call him. Anytime a guy tells me he doesn't want to commit to a relationship, it's like he's telling me he doesn't want a relationship with me. 2
DatingDee Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 Ive had this man in my life for years, we've always been friends with benefits but with a deeper connection. through out the years, id realized i wanted more but he told me he didnt. i moved on even though i really really liked this guy. well a year goes by and hes back in my life, i promised myself that i wouldn't go through his bs any longer. we have been spending alot of time together and he explains again that hes got too many issues to date girls, and went into depth as to why. ie - child abuse etc i brushed it off and said that was okay, if hes not ready then fine. well, weeks has gone by and hes met my parents, we've gone out for dinners, holding hands on the beach.sleeping together, appearing to look like a couple. and i thought wtf am i doing to myself? so i straight up said that i couldn't do this anymore, it wasn't fair to me since he cant give me what i need. it makes me feel like ill never be good enough. he asked if we could just take things slow because hes not ready to jump into boyfriend&girlfriend thing. after the convo i realized i need to clarify what "taking it slow means" but we've been taking it slow for years. i dont know if he is even willing to take a step in the direction of a relationship and im so worried im gonna get hurt like hes done to me before. if a man wont commit, will be ever? I am sorry to say that I agree with everyone on this one. If he were going to commit, he would have done so by now. He's had plenty of time to see how he feels about you. He's just really into having you be a companion with all the benefits that come with that. And by the way, you are good enough.. you may just not be the right fit for him even though you are outstanding enough!! But the later you procrastinate on cutting him loose, the more badly you'll get hurt. Good luck! 2
Satu Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 Don't waste any more time on him. You deserve much better.
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