reeseyummy Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 As said in title, how often do you see your bf/gf? 2,3 times a week for a dinner or a bite? Once a week for a romantic Saturday date night? I'm 26 and most of my friends see their bfs 2,3 times a week, either its a bite or just a quick dinner. I've always thought 2,3 times a week is a lot; even if I don't have anything planned, I'd rather go home early and just rest a bit. My bf lives 2.5 hours away, so I go visit him Friday night and stay till Sunday every 2 weeks average. Each time I do this I feel like my whole weekend was taken away. Not that I don't enjoy his company, I just feel like I need some time for myself. Again, either its watching a movie alone or just surfing the net. Anyone else like me? Or am I just not that into him?
fitnessfan365 Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 1) You're seeing a guy that lives 2 1/2 hours away. So that only leaves the weekend. If you want some weekend alone time, you'd be better off seeing a guy that's local. With a closer drive, you could replace a weekend night w-a weeknight. 2) Right now, watching movies and surfing the net by yourself is more of a priority than time w-your boyfriend. So it doesn't seem like you're that into him to be honest. Now I'm curious. Does he come out to see you on the other two weekends to where you're seeing each other every week? Or are you only seeing each other 2x a month when you go out there? If you're only seeing each other 2x a month total, then you're really not into him.
Gaeta Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 My bf lives 2.5 hours away, so I go visit him Friday night and stay till Sunday every 2 weeks average. You see him 2 days out of 14 and you feel it's too much? I think you're dating the wrong man. When I date someone I want to see them and time spent with them is never wasted time. 1
jen1447 Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 How often do you see your bf/gf? How much is too much, or too less? There's no scale to determine this, depends on the ppl and the nature and dynamics of the relationship. I see someone or other virtually every day, so my schedule is very full, but not everyone has to be that way. 1
smackie9 Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 To me having a BF is someone who is an integral part of my life, not a pastime. 1
Amalyn Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 I agree with the others. When I'm dating someone I'm really into (especially once we are exclusive), I find myself wanting to spend a lot of time with them. 2 days every 2 weeks or 4 days out of a month is barely a relationship. 2
Qboro90 Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 I understand how it can be living so far away from him. Sometimes on Monday you will feel excited to see him that weekend but by the time Friday comes, depending on how your work week goes you might just feel "bleh, I really would rather just sit at home and do nothing instead of making the long trip and spending all weekend there". It becomes more work and less fun. If you're feeling this way then I think that despite you both liking one another, you may have just met at the wrong time in your lives. The distance and your schedule just aren't condusive to a healthy relationship at this point. While I see nothing wrong with seeing one another just on weekends or 1-3 times a week, I do think that you should have the option to have a weekend to yourself now and then. With the distance between you the weekends are the only time you can be together so it's forcing you to do that instead of doing it because you want to. 1
RoseVille Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/540671-how-often
Author reeseyummy Posted August 3, 2015 Author Posted August 3, 2015 1) You're seeing a guy that lives 2 1/2 hours away. So that only leaves the weekend. If you want some weekend alone time, you'd be better off seeing a guy that's local. With a closer drive, you could replace a weekend night w-a weeknight. 2) Right now, watching movies and surfing the net by yourself is more of a priority than time w-your boyfriend. So it doesn't seem like you're that into him to be honest. Now I'm curious. Does he come out to see you on the other two weekends to where you're seeing each other every week? Or are you only seeing each other 2x a month when you go out there? If you're only seeing each other 2x a month total, then you're really not into him. You have a good point... last time i spent a whole weekend with him, and the next weekend we didn't make plans. this time he was going to drive up to see me, but then he's having a really heavy cold. he might come see me during a weekday though. maybe i am not that into him, and maybe he isn't either; or maybe we just aren't that clingy? i don't know at this point yet....
Author reeseyummy Posted August 3, 2015 Author Posted August 3, 2015 You see him 2 days out of 14 and you feel it's too much? I think you're dating the wrong man. When I date someone I want to see them and time spent with them is never wasted time. yes, but those 2 days are back to back, so its 48hours straight, and though we miss each other during the weekdays we don't meet, when we're together for the send 24 hours, i feel like its a bit too much.....i would have enjoyed if it's a saturday night sleep over i guess
ExpatInItaly Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 You have a good point... last time i spent a whole weekend with him, and the next weekend we didn't make plans. this time he was going to drive up to see me, but then he's having a really heavy cold. he might come see me during a weekday though. maybe i am not that into him, and maybe he isn't either; or maybe we just aren't that clingy? i don't know at this point yet.... I think you two aren't as into each other as you could be. How long have you been together? Everyone has different needs for personal space in a relationship, but you spend much more time alone than together. Its difficult to nurture a relationship that way. But ultimately, if you're both happy with this much space, then it doesn't matter what your friends or any of us here say. Do what feels right for you.
Author reeseyummy Posted August 3, 2015 Author Posted August 3, 2015 I understand how it can be living so far away from him. Sometimes on Monday you will feel excited to see him that weekend but by the time Friday comes, depending on how your work week goes you might just feel "bleh, I really would rather just sit at home and do nothing instead of making the long trip and spending all weekend there". It becomes more work and less fun. If you're feeling this way then I think that despite you both liking one another, you may have just met at the wrong time in your lives. The distance and your schedule just aren't condusive to a healthy relationship at this point. While I see nothing wrong with seeing one another just on weekends or 1-3 times a week, I do think that you should have the option to have a weekend to yourself now and then. With the distance between you the weekends are the only time you can be together so it's forcing you to do that instead of doing it because you want to. oh that exactly how i feel.... i've been told a lot (not just here) that maybe I'm just not that into him; because it relationships you're supposed to spend a lot of time together; but i have a busy job and my job is very important to me. Plus the distance doesn't allow us to meet that often anyway. But yes, going a long way to stay with him is a lot of work; but i really miss the days waking up next to him and just watching a movie together... i would if he lives closer so i can pop in more often... maybe i'm just overthinking, it's okay not to be that clingy? or not wanting to see each other that much? I do miss him, and wish he'd move closer to me, but right now it's just not the option yet... thanks my friend.
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