Charisma Posted May 7, 2005 Posted May 7, 2005 It all started several months ago at work... I worked with a a guy with whom I was instantly attracted to. I flirted with him, he asked me out, and unfortunately it never went past the first date. He didn't want another relationship. I very much wanted to continue to see this person but knew it couldn't be what I wanted it to be. I remained on a friendly basis with him but deep down inside I knew I still liked him. Here's my dilemma, I recently left the company to pursue a new job and my good-bye to him was really sad for me. I wanted to tell him how I really felt but feared that this was the wrong move and would only complicate things. I really felt like he wanted to tell me something more because it was the last time we would ever see each other. How wrong would it be to give him my phone number and ask him to keep in touch? Am I jeopardizing anything by suggesting it?
Max Zoom Posted May 7, 2005 Posted May 7, 2005 Max thinks it would not be tacky to give him your phone number. But it would be sad and depressing for you (and for Max) to sit around for several weeks/months afterwards thinking up reasons why he hasn't called. Better, Max thinks, to ask him straight off for his phone number and ask him if it would be alright for YOU to call him. Proactivity vs Reactivity.
Marshbear Posted May 7, 2005 Posted May 7, 2005 I would let it go. Do you really want to wait and wonder if the two of you will ever have anything more than a friendship? You seem to say that friendship is not enough for you so I would find someone who will like you the same way. I know you think if you stay in touch there is always that hope that he will call or somehow you will hook up but you are just hurting yourself and giving false hope. I went through a similar experience and I finally realized no matter how much I felt we were good for each other if there is only a one-sided desire you are just causing yourself grief and pain. I guess in the ideal world you two might get together but do you really want to waste yourself on a long odds? Find someone who wants you as well. Trust me on this for it is from the heart...
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