lino Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 I wish I was as sharp as you at your age OP... I likely would never have stumbled across this side if that was the case! Good work and DON'T make her your girlfriend. Do you want to he the sap who wines and dines her while she spreads em for other guys for nothing?
MovingOnIsHard Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 I agree with Old. We are all going to die someday, why keep the fun out of our lifes? Cause of "integrity"? Bankers and politicians have the most fun in life. 0 integrity. Right. Since both the OP and this chick seem to have very little integrity, they deserve each other. Keep them out of the dating pool; it'll save those who are looking for a real relationship a lot of heartache.
lino Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 The problem is they don't stick to each other. I've been used by women like this in the past who saw me as nothing other than a 'ok for now guy' while I thought we were something genuine. The type of girl like this is looking for a real relationship and will have no problem getting one in the future, quite possibly with a guy that's nothing like her. Like oldshirt has said, women like this aren't a rare species... They're actually insanely common.
oldshirt Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 Let's all keep in mind these are single 21 year olds. They aren't married, they don't have small children to take care of, and they don't have any joint property or financial obligations with anyone. This was a Sat night date with a little roll in the hay afterwards. He is not contemplating marrying her nor is he considering cosigning a car loan or getting a joint checking account or credit cards with her at this time. At the moment there is not even another Sat night date being planned. If she goes back to her BF, the worst that will happen to Rex is he will go out with one of his other chicks this Sat instead of her. If she dumps her BF, he can either go out with her again if he wants or can still run around with his buds or go out with one of his other chick friends. There is no obligation either way here. Worst that could possibly happen here is her BF pays him a visit and he comes away with a black eye and a bloody nose. Even if he does fall for her and takes her on as a GF and she eventually cheats on him - too bad so sad. It's not like any other 21 year chick in the world would never do it too. I'm sorry and I didn't create the world as it is but this is the norm. 20 year old single chicks try on new guys for size before they ditch their current BF s. They give them a test drive to see if they are a step up from their current BF and they also feel them out to see if they'll still be around after they jettison the current BF. If she doesn't think Rex is a bigger better deal, or if she doesn't think he'll stick around, she'll stay with the BF for now untill someone else comes along.
oldshirt Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 Like oldshirt has said, women like this aren't a rare species... They're actually insanely common. They're the standard issue. It's the 20 year olds that don't do this that are the rare species. I guess I don't see why this is even a topic of disagreement.
Lois_Griffin Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 Any sign of of her been a skank I'll walk away with my head held high and get on with my life. Umm....you already saw it on Saturday night/Sunday morning when she went out with you and then stayed at your place. 1
Lois_Griffin Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 Let's all keep in mind these are single 21 year olds. They aren't married, they don't have small children to take care of, and they don't have any joint property or financial obligations with anyone. True dat. Kids this age change boyfriends/girlfriends as quickly as they change their ring-tones. So, there's that.
oldshirt Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 True dat. Kids this age change boyfriends/girlfriends as quickly as they change their ring-tones. So, there's that. Yep. And they don't break cleanly from their current dating before they start up with their next one. That may not be "right" but it is the reality. I realize people have an issue with that and aren't comfortable with that reality, but my point in all of this are the guys that sit and wait until a gal is completely free and clear before he makes his move, he will spend most of his days sitting on the sidelines waiting. (....and I know this firsthand because that was me back in the day. I tried to do the 'right thing' and missed many many opportunities because I sat on my hands and missed the window of opportunity. I don't want others to make my mistakes)
Clarence_Boddicker Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 I called 2 weeks for her to bang him. Anyone wanna guess how long it's gonna take for him to catch feelings for her? 2
Versacehottie Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 I called 2 weeks for her to bang him. Anyone wanna guess how long it's gonna take for him to catch feelings for her? He already does. It's clear. Re-read his post of the night the slept together.
Versacehottie Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 Yep. And they don't break cleanly from their current dating before they start up with their next one. That may not be "right" but it is the reality. I realize people have an issue with that and aren't comfortable with that reality, but my point in all of this are the guys that sit and wait until a gal is completely free and clear before he makes his move, he will spend most of his days sitting on the sidelines waiting. (....and I know this firsthand because that was me back in the day. I tried to do the 'right thing' and missed many many opportunities because I sat on my hands and missed the window of opportunity. I don't want others to make my mistakes) I don't think anyone should be shy of planting a seed that you are interested and flirt. I don't agree with your assertion that it's typical for girls to cheat to jump from one relationship to the next. That sounds like a very bitter, cynical, one-sided experience and doesn't match what I know. I guess if it was your experience though. If banging useless girls is the opportunity that OP needs, I guess he got it. Hope the pros outweigh the cons. And will look back on it fondly:rolleyes:. Apparently this girl isn't taking the place of any better girl that he has in his hands.
oldshirt Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 Anyone wanna guess how long it's gonna take for him to catch feelings for her? He was already there before he wrote his original post. He has feelings for her. That's ok, people get feelings all the time. As long as he doesn't knock her up,get his ass kicked or go into any kind of financial venture with her, he will be ok and this will just be another young romance. Happens every day throughout the whole world.
Author Rexxy Posted August 18, 2015 Author Posted August 18, 2015 He was already there before he wrote his original post. He has feelings for her. That's ok, people get feelings all the time. As long as he doesn't knock her up,get his ass kicked or go into any kind of financial venture with her, he will be ok and this will just be another young romance. Happens every day throughout the whole world. I just need to clear this up because you've said it a lot about this guy going to come beat me up. Her bf is 65kg and plays no sport, I'm 6ft1 91kg and been boxing for 3 years. I should be right haha But in all seriousness I had a good night and it's okay for me to make mistakes and learn from them as I grow older. Who knows what will happen next, right now I'm just living in the moment and enjoying it as it goes. The world we live in is unpredictable and short so I'm going to live it to the best of my current knowledge craving to learn more whether its something enjoyable or heartbreaking. I'll keep everyone updated as usual
oldshirt Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 I just need to clear this up because you've said it a lot about this guy going to come beat me up. Her bf is 65kg and plays no sport, I'm 6ft1 91kg and been boxing for 3 years. I should be right haha Most guys are not going to be physically confrontational regardless of anyone's size or fighting prowess. However there are a few where it is an issue of pride, honor and principle and they'll start trouble regardless of how small they are. In fact it's the little guys that that are going to be more likely to try to prove something and be confrontational about it. And of course people may bring along a bunch of their buddies. My point here is there is a very high likelihood that you'll never hear a peep out if him. But there is still always that chance and the fact that you are bigger really isn't a deterrent to the ones that will want to tangle.
Versacehottie Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 I think a more likely scenario rather than bf coming to beat rexxy up is that she will flip flop between the two of them and there will be drama surrounding that. That she may very well secretly and fully enjoy. Just a guess.
oldshirt Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 I think a more likely scenario rather than bf coming to beat rexxy up is that she will flip flop between the two of them and there will be drama surrounding that. That she may very well secretly and fully enjoy. Just a guess. Very much a possibility. The likelihood of a BF coming to look for someone is very low. The likelihood of a dinghy chick playing two guys is stratosphericly high. But as I've been saying from page 1, as long as he keeps his head on straight and keeps her in the FB box, he'll be OK.
Author Rexxy Posted August 22, 2015 Author Posted August 22, 2015 Met up with her again this weekend, I'm really enjoying the fact that I don't always need to be serious about things. Whenever I used to date a girl I thought it was normal to make her my girlfriend as fast as possible. The situation I'm in now is teaching me how to have fun with girls and not to rush or be so serious about things. This has been a positive experience for me and believe it or not but it's taught me to slow things down and enjoy the time. So yeah, going well.
Author Rexxy Posted September 10, 2015 Author Posted September 10, 2015 Fast forward a month, she's now broken up with her boyfriend and we're starting to see each other. Of course the trust issue is in the back of my mind, but I don't believe in the whole "Once a cheater, always a cheater". I'm just going to enjoy what's happening and go from there. I'm happy at this point and that's all that matters.
MovingOnIsHard Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 Im so intrigued with how this will turn out. It's like watching my favourite soap opera. Please continue to post updates, OP
Author Rexxy Posted September 12, 2015 Author Posted September 12, 2015 Im so intrigued with how this will turn out. It's like watching my favourite soap opera. Please continue to post updates, OP haha yep, soon ill be heart broken right... But I'll learn my lesson anyway, we'll see.
Author Rexxy Posted October 5, 2015 Author Posted October 5, 2015 So now we're girlfriend & boyfriend, things are going really. Thought I'd quickly update you. We see each other about 4-5 times a week. I'm happy
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