lollipopspot Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 She replied with "Aha and you don't think I'm immensely attracted to you either? I don't want to message you, you're far more interesting in person. So until I'm single, acting like we don't know each other is the 'right' thing to do?" Advice people??? Well it sounds as though she's hitting on you. So just say "Yes" (i.e., that it's the right thing to do to not spend time with her). 2
Popsicle Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 She replied with "Aha and you don't think I'm immensely attracted to you either? I don't want to message you, you're far more interesting in person. So until I'm single, acting like we don't know each other is the 'right' thing to do?" Advice people??? Say "Oh, we can say hi to each other in person, that's no problem, but the hanging out together will come later. *wink* *wink*"
CarrieT Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 Say "Oh, we can say hi to each other in person, that's no problem, but the hanging out together will come later. *wink* *wink*" I disagree. The "hanging out will come later" is just inviting it to continue. Especially the *wink* *wink* - that just continues the flirting and knowing she has a boyfriend, it needs to STOP. 2
Popsicle Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 I disagree. The "hanging out will come later" is just inviting it to continue. Especially the *wink* *wink* - that just continues the flirting and knowing she has a boyfriend, it needs to STOP. That was to let her know that they can continue AFTER she breaks up. But you're probably right, she might not ever break up with her boyfriend... Rexxy should be prepared for that and know that he did the right thing for himself.
Author Rexxy Posted August 2, 2015 Author Posted August 2, 2015 I replied with "Yes. Saying hi in person is no problem if I see you around. But apart from that, it's the 'right' thing to do until you're single" 1
Author Rexxy Posted August 2, 2015 Author Posted August 2, 2015 She replied with "f*ck you, be my friend."
Popsicle Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 She replied with "f*ck you, be my friend." Wow. How do you feel about that?
Amalyn Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 She replied with "f*ck you, be my friend." She wants to be friends to keep in contact with you while she still dates her boyfriend. I'd say, "I guess I wasn't clear before. I don't want to be friends"
Versacehottie Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 She replied with "f*ck you, be my friend." Don't answer. She is obviously intrigued by what she can't have. She will be more on a mission to get you and straighten up her situation now if she is ever going to do it. You are in your most powerful situation right now. Don't cave. She is testing you. How she handles things next (breaking up with the boyfriend or not/acting honorably) should be what you look at to decide if you want to date her or not in the future. Does she just want the chase of another guy who she is talking to behind her bf's back? Or are her feelings genuinely strong enough and timing such that there is a real possibility for you guys? By dropping it exactly where you have left it and hold firm on what you said is the only way you will get that answer and find out if she is gf worthy. Good luck 2
fitnessfan365 Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 Yep. Her saying she's really attracted to you and that you're better in person, means interacting in the flesh. But I agree that you've said what you need to say. Don't respond to her FU text and just leave the ball in her court to eventually get back to you when she's single. 1
CarrieT Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 She replied with "f*ck you, be my friend." You can throw it back in her face. "Of course I will be your friend. Invite me to a party where your boyfriend is and introduce me a friend." She is playing games. Don't take the bait.
Author Rexxy Posted August 2, 2015 Author Posted August 2, 2015 I haven't responded and won't be anytime soon. I honestly do believe I'm in the most powerful position right now and she'll start to think through her head on what she really wants. She can't have the best of both worlds with a boyfriend and a close man-friend who she's also attracted too. I'm not going to be the push-over nice guy. Time to continue my life and if anything comes about in the future then so be it. Only time will tell for now. If anything happens in the future or if I see her I'll be sure to continue on posting to this thread. 3
bubbaganoosh Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 Ask yourself this since your thinking with your little head rather than your big head. Suppose she breaks up with her current BF. Then you two get together. Then she meets another guy that's "interesting" and starts going out to dinner with him, leaving you holding the bag. How would you feel about it? She's telling you in her own way that she's not a trustworthy person and not one to take any relationship seriously so put yourself in her BF's shoes and see if their comfortable because your going to be wearing them if you start anything up with her and before you say "Oh no, not me" then you can bet the house her BF said the same thing. Think man before your on her in the infidelity section. 5
xcupid Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 I haven't responded and won't be anytime soon. I honestly do believe I'm in the most powerful position right now and she'll start to think through her head on what she really wants. She can't have the best of both worlds with a boyfriend and a close man-friend who she's also attracted too. I'm not going to be the push-over nice guy. Time to continue my life and if anything comes about in the future then so be it. Only time will tell for now. If anything happens in the future or if I see her I'll be sure to continue on posting to this thread. Good move.
Author Rexxy Posted August 2, 2015 Author Posted August 2, 2015 Ask yourself this since your thinking with your little head rather than your big head. Suppose she breaks up with her current BF. Then you two get together. Then she meets another guy that's "interesting" and starts going out to dinner with him, leaving you holding the bag. How would you feel about it? She's telling you in her own way that she's not a trustworthy person and not one to take any relationship seriously so put yourself in her BF's shoes and see if their comfortable because your going to be wearing them if you start anything up with her and before you say "Oh no, not me" then you can bet the house her BF said the same thing. Think man before your on her in the infidelity section. Yes I understand that, and don't worry I'll be watching that big time. People do eventually change over time but I know to watch out and protect myself in the long run.
fitnessfan365 Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 Yes I understand that, and don't worry I'll be watching that big time. People do eventually change over time but I know to watch out and protect myself in the long run. Already making excuses for her and haven't been slept with her yet. You're in trouble dude.
CarrieT Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 Seriously... Would you really want a girl that would/could ultimately do to you what she is doing to her current boyfriend? If you had continued the way she was laying it out, I'm sure you could have had her - easily - and what would her boyfriend had thought of all that?
Author Rexxy Posted August 2, 2015 Author Posted August 2, 2015 Seriously... Would you really want a girl that would/could ultimately do to you what she is doing to her current boyfriend? If you had continued the way she was laying it out, I'm sure you could have had her - easily - and what would her boyfriend had thought of all that? Yeah you're right. Wouldn't mind an f buddy later on, but still not going to touch her when she has a bf. Not my type of thing to do. 1
HereNorThere Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 She replied with "f*ck you, be my friend." Told you, bro
HereNorThere Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 I'd bet a bitcoin you're still gonna hit if she's baaaaad. I'm just saying, know what you're getting yourself into. Stay strapped up like you were bungee jumping and never, ever trust a woman like this. You might also be prepared to open your door to a shotgun. You know her and ole dude ain't ever gonna be over. These crazy ones don't end relationships before starting new ones or at all really. If you can handle that, cool. No excuses because you've already been warned. Good luck 1
Author Rexxy Posted August 2, 2015 Author Posted August 2, 2015 I'd bet a bitcoin you're still gonna hit if she's baaaaad. I'm just saying, know what you're getting yourself into. Stay strapped up like you were bungee jumping and never, ever trust a woman like this. You might also be prepared to open your door to a shotgun. You know her and ole dude ain't ever gonna be over. These crazy ones don't end relationships before starting new ones or at all really. If you can handle that, cool. No excuses because you've already been warned. Good luck Jesussss that sounds scary as hell, horror movie has came real. Someone save me haha Thanks for the advice
HereNorThere Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 "When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.” ― Maya Angelou.
Author Rexxy Posted August 3, 2015 Author Posted August 3, 2015 So she came into the place I work to train tonight and we ended up having a conversation in the office for 15 mins. I stuck to my guns and kept telling her that I'm only interested in seeing her when she is single, until then I'll do my own thing. She kept saying how I'm really making her think about things and what she should do. And she's confused on why she cares so much about me 'rejecting' her when we've only known each other for a week. She said she doesn't really know what to do. And she really wants to be friends so she can get to know me more and have me around. Although all of that I just stuck to my plan and said goodbye to her for the night, I'm really curious where this will go.
elaine567 Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 She replied with "f*ck you, be my friend." - great psychology. She kept saying how I'm really making her think about things and what she should do. And she's confused on why she cares so much about me 'rejecting' her when we've only known each other for a week. She is good... Just remember, when you are sitting at home cooking the steak and waiting for her to appear, she will be at the gym chatting up some guy and telling him she is soooo confused as to why she cares sooooo much, when he rejects her over having a bf, having only known him for a week...
Clarence_Boddicker Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 The force is strong with this one. I'll give it two weeks before she's banging him. 5
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