RoseVille Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 She replied, "I'm already seeing multiple partners." That wasn't the impression I got when she visited me last, but I didn't outright ask her. Odd, because that was the impression I got from your OP given how you described your conversations. 1
RoseVille Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 Okay, it wasn't from the OP but your descriptive update: Her story is that she's looking to build a roster of men for her high sex drive. *** She wants to see me again and we spoke about the possibility of just seeing each other. She's building a roster, and seeing just you might be possible (down the road). To me, that means she's involved with multiple men at the moment.
Author SycamoreCircle Posted August 3, 2015 Author Posted August 3, 2015 Well, she told me that she'd just broken up with her boyfriend of two months because he got too clingy, that she was building a roster of men to sleep with and that I was the first man she'd been out with from OKC.
Jonp219 Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 Also, from talking to a lady friend about the whole thing and her agreeing that something sounded off about this, I wanted to see what you thought: There was a point when we were together in bed that she asked me how many partners I'd had. I came up with a vague figure. I do remember at some point tallying the number of people I've been with, but it was something that I forgot about and really didn't care to revisit. But when I asked her, she gave me an exact number. And then she asked me if she would be my [add next number to my tally]. It seemed very...statistical. Like I was dealing with a logician. My friend also implied there may be some kind of inner turmoil there. I'm asking these questions not because I wish to somehow denigrate the woman, but because I feel she is so radically different from me. My friend and I also discussed "Nymphomaniac." Of course, Charlotte Gainsbourg is just an actress and her portrayal is not a definitive survey of who a nymphomaniac is, but...you don't get the impression that CG's character in the film is a person whose behavior is obviously overtaken by cravings for sex. For her, it's like a deeply inset motivation. For this Lithuanian woman, it's like a total consumption. Getting fncked OVERTAKES her. That's ****ing creepy. Sounds like a robot who's trying to meet a certain quota. You sure she didn't take your condom? She might keep it as a trophy. 1
Author SycamoreCircle Posted August 3, 2015 Author Posted August 3, 2015 Odd, because that was the impression I got from your OP given how you described your conversations.But I don't really fault her for that. It's not really a concern for me. I am disappointed that we couldn't have a go at it. I just think I'd be too worried for my own personal health.
Author SycamoreCircle Posted August 3, 2015 Author Posted August 3, 2015 That's ****ing creepy. Sounds like a robot who's trying to meet a certain quota. You sure she didn't take your condom? She might keep it as a trophy.I want to resist tarnishing her. She seemed very in control of herself, but also very dedicated to this idea she has. I guess, in a weird kind of way, I feel like she's glimpsing something I don't have the ability to glimpse...a sexual freedom. I tried to delay sex with her and she kept pushing, "what will change between now and our next meeting?" At one point, I pushed her off of me jokingly saying, "you're like a fncking rapist!" But it's true, I've never met a woman as aggressive as that.
Author SycamoreCircle Posted August 3, 2015 Author Posted August 3, 2015 One other question pops into my mind---when I was with this woman we talked about what it takes to get her off. Now, this is a woman who told me that she's only had 2-3 serious relationships and the rest ONS's. Of those, the only way she is able to orgasm is through the use of a large electric back massage device. She can do it with oral, but it's rare. The guy has to hit a specific spot, after a long time of very rhythmic, uniform sucking. I tried, but failed. Doesn't it seem odd that someone who's so devoted to sex and who becomes so overtaken by it, can't achieve orgasm?
SmartDude Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Doesn't it seem odd that someone who's so devoted to sex and who becomes so overtaken by it, can't achieve orgasm? hmm, ya that sounds fishy to me too. One thing is for sure though. This woman is into recreational sex.
lana-banana Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 One other question pops into my mind---when I was with this woman we talked about what it takes to get her off. Now, this is a woman who told me that she's only had 2-3 serious relationships and the rest ONS's. Of those, the only way she is able to orgasm is through the use of a large electric back massage device. She can do it with oral, but it's rare. The guy has to hit a specific spot, after a long time of very rhythmic, uniform sucking. I tried, but failed. Doesn't it seem odd that someone who's so devoted to sex and who becomes so overtaken by it, can't achieve orgasm? Um, no. Lots of women struggle with orgasm regardless of how much sex they have. It is possible to have an absolutely wonderful sexual experience sans orgasm. 1
RoseVille Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 But I don't really fault her for that. It's not really a concern for me. I am disappointed that we couldn't have a go at it. I just think I'd be too worried for my own personal health. You're all over the map with this girl. She's not suddenly going to become monogamous.
jen1447 Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 I think I made the right choice. I guess what I'm wondering is...do you think she's of sound mind? She seemed totally euphoric when she was naked on my bed. I can't think of anything I get that euphoric about!!! It's puzzling. Do I just not enjoy sex like a person should? Does she place too much emphasis on it? As I said in a previous post, she's like an animal. She also seems completely detached from the "intimacy" of it. She can do all the things two lovers do, but I guess it's just a dance for her. Is this a healthy person? What do you think? Should I not look at sex as so "meaningful?" It's 'normal,' sure, inasmuch as any of us are normal. I know exactly where she's at - for some of us, sex really is a primal need. And lots of it. I wouldn't worry about abnormality until it starts to seem like a compulsion that interferes with or damages everyday life. (Think gambling addict.) There was a point when we were together in bed that she asked me how many partners I'd had. I came up with a vague figure. I do remember at some point tallying the number of people I've been with, but it was something that I forgot about and really didn't care to revisit. But when I asked her, she gave me an exact number. And then she asked me if she would be my [add next number to my tally]. It seemed very...statistical. Like I was dealing with a logician. My friend also implied there may be some kind of inner turmoil there. Meh, some ppl are into numbers like guys watching baseball averages, others not so much. Doesn't make her crazy or even conflicted. My friend and I also discussed "Nymphomaniac." Of course, Charlotte Gainsbourg is just an actress and her portrayal is not a definitive survey of who a nymphomaniac is, but...you don't get the impression that CG's character in the film is a person whose behavior is obviously overtaken by cravings for sex. For her, it's like a deeply inset motivation. For this Lithuanian woman, it's like a total consumption. Getting fncked OVERTAKES her. I def know all about that too, and yet I don't think I'm mentally disturbed. Some of us are just freaks. One other question pops into my mind---when I was with this woman we talked about what it takes to get her off. Now, this is a woman who told me that she's only had 2-3 serious relationships and the rest ONS's. Of those, the only way she is able to orgasm is through the use of a large electric back massage device. She can do it with oral, but it's rare. The guy has to hit a specific spot, after a long time of very rhythmic, uniform sucking. I tried, but failed. Doesn't it seem odd that someone who's so devoted to sex and who becomes so overtaken by it, can't achieve orgasm? Like lana said, no. Women are physiologically different from men and for some, orgasming can be a real challenge ....even if you are a freak. That does tell me tho that possibly she hasn't been with the right lovers. I've 'unlocked' quite a few women that way who had trouble connecting the body and mind. Once you patch the two into each other, the orgasms usually come free and easy (and plentiful).
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