Did I do the right thing by saying no?

[xobeautyxo12]

I am 19 and this guy that I met from school last year is 21. He asks me to hang out with him and I told him that we can only go out for lunch or ice cream only and he told me that he doesn t want to hang out with me unless we go on a date and then hook up after at his house. I suggested to him that we can go to my house instead and he said no. He only wants me to go over his house. I told him that I m not comfortable going to his house after to hook up with him because I don t know him very well. Was it wrong of me to say no to him when he asked to hook up?

[rlc1957]

Of course it was okay, you listened to your heart and gut. Keep doing that.

[lollipopspot]

"No" is the right answer.

"Hell no" is the even righter answer.

 

Tell him to get lost. This guy just wants to use you. Find someone better.

[d0nnivain]

Why would it be wrong of you to say No? You always have the ability to make choices in your life: how & where you spend time, who you socialize with.

 

 

He sounds like he only wanted sex. I'm not entirely sure that if you did go to his house & said no that he would have respect that.

 

 

Safety 1st.

 

 

You exercised excellent judgment. He's the one in the wrong here.

[mrldii]

No, you weren't wrong to say "No" when he told you he only wanted to go on a date with you and then take you to his house to have sex.

 

You were, however, wrong when after saying "No", you suggested that the two of you go to your place, instead.

 

 

Best of luck to you, OP...

[Vercetti]

If I won't go out during the day with you and want you to come to my place...I want sex. I'm using night and environment to control and push for such. I have boundaries...some guys do not. Keep being smart and careful. Watch out for movies at my place and or gonna have a few people over...you will encounter it. You're younger then my little sisters, doing what you feel comfortable / safe doing is not wrong. That's exactly as it should be.