Kiwi Guy Posted August 1, 2015 Posted August 1, 2015 To make a long story short, I dated a girl for 3 weeks, and we ended up breaking up due to no sexual contact (well fell into the friend zone). The first 3 weeks, we didn't even kiss, or hold hands either. We both have dating insecurities, and we were in mourning during this time. Her friend took her to a club, and my ex texted me saying she was still interested in me. I came to see her, and we ended up dancing, cuddling, making out, and huddling next to each other. She was pretty much acting like my girlfriend, and she even took my hand when we walked outside. I'm not 100% sure if she flaked me the whole 3 hours, or if she was just having mixed emotions. I noticed my ex and her friend kept going in and out of the bathrooms. The last time was the most obvious when they sat down at a different table, and my ex looked like she was upset. When I walked up to them, the friend pointed at my chest and said "get back on the ******* dance floor", and then my ex moved back to the original table. Was she trying to talk her out of going back to me? The signs just seem too obvious. PS: How do I move out of the friend zone? A guide on the internet said as long as I get sexual and emotional with her, this is all it takes.
mllebanana Posted August 1, 2015 Posted August 1, 2015 You need to ask her what's going on and what happened. Thinking about it over and over again in your mind will just drive you crazy over a while - you will only get a true answer about why she did this if you ask her.
mllebanana Posted August 1, 2015 Posted August 1, 2015 Also, is there a reason why there was no sexual contact? If its because you are both insecure, one of you is going to have to take a risk and do something about it --- if no sexual contact (I mean even holding hands, kissing, etc.) occurs, it's not really a romantic relationship (in my opinion). Life is all about taking risks, sure you could get hurt but... what have you got to lose?
Author Kiwi Guy Posted August 1, 2015 Author Posted August 1, 2015 You need to ask her what's going on and what happened. Thinking about it over and over again in your mind will just drive you crazy over a while - you will only get a true answer about why she did this if you ask her. I asked her to the movies on MON, but she didn't give me the OK. I'm just going to wait it out.
Author Kiwi Guy Posted August 1, 2015 Author Posted August 1, 2015 Also, is there a reason why there was no sexual contact? If its because you are both insecure, one of you is going to have to take a risk and do something about it --- if no sexual contact (I mean even holding hands, kissing, etc.) occurs, it's not really a romantic relationship (in my opinion). Life is all about taking risks, sure you could get hurt but... what have you got to lose? Its because I do not know how to sexually escalate with a woman. I went on the internet and got some help, so I'm going to give it another shot.
Author Kiwi Guy Posted August 1, 2015 Author Posted August 1, 2015 I asked her to the movies on MON, but she didn't give me the OK. I'm just going to wait it out. EDIT: She said "OK", but she still seems a little iffy as if she's not sure if she wants to do it. I already tried talking to her after the club, and I told her about my emotions for her. She says she doesn't know where her emotions stand with me, and says its too early to tell.
smackie9 Posted August 1, 2015 Posted August 1, 2015 How to move out of the friends zone? Stop seeing them and find somebody else. 1
HereNorThere Posted August 1, 2015 Posted August 1, 2015 There's no trick to getting out of the friend zone but is possible. You do it by not pursuing them and generating attraction by being yourself. Remember, attraction is not a choice. You can't force it and the more you try, the lower your value is. I think you've always ruined this chance. Move along and learn from it.
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