Gall99 Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 my ex and i were together longer than a year, we went through a lot. This summer we were doing fine, then his friend left and moved somewhere else, he had already lost his grandpa earlier that year so he kept losng people, he told me he didnt want to lose anyone else.. he then went on a trip, before that trip we hung out once, because before he left we had not hung ouut in a week or more. when he got back we did something but then i had to leave for a couple days so before i left we hung out again, then we stayed up really late and i had told him that i had talked to my neighbor who is my age, that he did not like... he was not happy with me,, he started questioning everything. he was not himseelf and that when i knew there was something wrong with him. When i got back we hung out twice, but then he wanted a break, we took a week break, he went on a trip and started talking with all these girls, he told me he missed me and that he loved me so i thought everything would go backkk to normal, all my friends were telling me that since he was feeling like he doesnt feel the same that maybe we need to talk in person, he refused.. the next day he broke up with me. I begged to gett him back which was wrong, but after that I gave up. but he would snapchat me and talk to me everyday. we saw eachother and later he told me he missed me kind of. then i sent him a risky text message telling him that he didnt lose me that he pushed me away and that hes not the same. yyes this was wrong. he later told me he thought about gettting back together. I dont get why he had told me that.. when we did talk he got a little jealous askinng me what boys i had been talking to.. I told him none and asked him whhat girls he was talking to. he lied and told me none, turns out that he is talking and hanging out wwith girls. but why would he lie? do you think there is a chance of getting back together, i need advice. we did take a break and went without talkiig for a while after the break up. i havent beeen nneedy or desperate. i just need help to get himm back
Trace Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 (edited) I think you need to start concentrating on you. Do you really want a guy that is lying to you? If he wanted you back he would be calling you, telling you let's try again. Get out in the world, time is a healer. Edited August 1, 2015 by Trace
Author Gall99 Posted August 2, 2015 Author Posted August 2, 2015 He has told me that he considered getting back together. He texts me more than he should. It's just all confusing
HereNorThere Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 It's not that confusing at all, but it's going to be a little harsh to admit to yourself. - He lost attraction to you somewhere along the lines. Not because there's anything wrong with you but most likely he's just immature and likes the thrill of the chase. That's the way some dudes are and you just kinda have to accept it. It'll get better as you get older. He's gonna keep you on the line because, why not? It relieves his guilt a little bit, he has a nice backup option, doesn't have to deal with the pain of a loss, etc. etc. Are you someone's backup option? Only you can decide that. Personally, I think you're better than that, but only you can decide if you're willing to endure the pain of standing up for your own principles. Admittedly, it's hard, but it's not the first time you've done something hard. I wish you the best
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