Amas5750 Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 So I was dating this "recently separated but the marriage was dead for years" 38 year old man with a kid. I was seeing him for 2-3 months earlier this year. He dumps me over the phone kinda outta nowhere about 2 months ago. He says his son is not coping with the separation and his son is crying all the time and dropping his grades (child is 8) He says he must move back into the family home for the sale of the non-coping child. He says he is absolutely not reconciling with her, but moving back in for the kid. So I took it gracefully. I cut contact n so did he. A month after that he sends me the "hope you're well" type of thing . Then yesterday he sends me the "how are you? Thought of u, what you doing. Etc etc ..." Then after some texting away he comes out with "the Ex wifebisbin USA for 2 weeks . I'm going in to the central part of the city on X date and he has a hotel room and would I like to honour for a fancy restaurant? Then I blast him for booty calling me. Told him he broke my heart and there's no way I'd be f***ing with him now. He insisted ALOT that it's not a booty call (alot). He says he just wants to take me to a nice dinner cos we didn't get to do much of that when dating. Is he a snake in the grass? Do you think it was PURELY a booty call? Do men ever take women they were dating out after dumping them to a good restaurant? Maybe he's bored and wants the excitement of an "affair". What do u think it is? Our relationship Was very intense n monogom
d0nnivain Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 You are right not to go because if he's still living with his wife, from your perspective this is a bigger mess then before. He's certainly not free to date you & I see no indication that he's willing to leave. I also don't believe that he & the wife have not been intimate. I'd request that he lose your contact info 1
guest569 Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 That sounds very dodgy, dont put yourself through any more pain, ignore him. He dumped you over the phone with no warning and then nothing for 2 months? Stuff him. You deserve better than this and if he wanted you back he would have to pull his socks up and have some explaining to do, dont you agree?
elaine567 Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 The core of the matter here is that he broke your heart and for that reason, stay away completely. I guess the "I have a hotel room" and the ex wife is out of town, was sending you a message, so whilst maybe not a pure booty call, he was prepared for anything that may have transpired between the two of you. Just don't get involved.
aloneinaz Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 He's looking to get laid while the wife is away.. Don't do it.. 2
seasickpeeve Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 If he and his wife are separated and no longer intimate, why would he have to wait until she is away before he can take you for a nice evening? It's also very insensitive of him to casually ask you out for dinner after breaking your heart without explaining his intentions. Does he want to start again, have a night of fun or be friends? With his wife still around, I wouldn't want any of those things.
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