Brokenpenguin Posted July 30, 2015 Posted July 30, 2015 Hey everyone, I first posted here in January of this year after my girlfriend of a year left me for someone else, I was heartbroken and devestated to say the least. Needless to say I received a ton of great advice and support that I am very grateful for as it really did help me. However I did not take some of said advice and ended up breaking the number one rule, no contact. I realise I have no one to blame for this but myself. It was around 3 months ago she messaged me a happy birthday and to cut a long story short we got back together. It was awful to say the least it was just constant arguing, she would go from hating me one day to loving me the next. I dont claim to be perfect infact im far of it but I got the blame for everything, she never apologised for leaving me for someone else isntead I got a long detailed explanation of how horible I am and how im to blame. I put up with all of it until a couple of weeks ago until I decided I have had enough, this is where I mess up, I write her a letter most of it was just wishing her good luck and such until the end where I basically told her she has messed me up and that although she didnt care now she would one day, I really regret this Im not really sure why but it just feels so stupid and pathetic and i feel bad for saying it. Anyway here I am a few weeks after breaking up not coping very well at all, I have bearly left the house and havent been im contact with any friends, i have just locked myself away. Oh and not to mention she has already found herself a new guy, I just feel so stupid I knew I was getting played yet I went along wth it and now im dealing with the consequences and I dont have anyone to blame but myself. I mean I certainly dont want to be with her anymore but how could someone that once claimed to love you put you through all this? A year ago I was the happiest ive ever been now I feel well empty and alone. *Woops looks like I have spelt break wrong in the title
aloneinaz Posted July 30, 2015 Posted July 30, 2015 Well, You screwed up. You dropped the ball and fumbled it into the other teams end zone and they scored! Ok, a bit much, huh.. Don't beat yourself up. Everyone has to learn WHY you don't want to recycle a failed relationship. They never seem to work out very long. ALL the same BS reappears that ended it the first time after the excitement of the reconciliation fades. You know the drill. You're going to have to ride out what you're feeling and THIS TIME, stay NC. You'll feel better with time passing. When you feel better, find someone new!
na49 Posted July 30, 2015 Posted July 30, 2015 It seems like she was just lonely, and that's why she got back together with you. Her words are pretty meaningless. She just likes having a boyfriend, and you were the "better than being single" guy. Of course she has a new boyfriend already. She's probably someone who needs to be in a relationship all the time. I also got dumped twice by my ex, and she treats me like your ex treats you. I'm the "better than being single" guy. She'd rather be with me than be single, but once someone more "interesting" comes along, she drops me like a habit. Sorry you're going through this man.
Phoenixashes Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 You got through it before. The best lesson is the one you experience. Don't go there.
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