Carey34 Posted July 30, 2015 Posted July 30, 2015 I'm in my mid 20's and have been with my boyfriend going on 3 years. We moved in together after 6 months of dating. Looking back, I wish I would've waited. I wasn't financially or emotionally ready, but I hated my living arrangements with my mother and couldn't afford to live on my own; still can't. I don't even know where to begin. I feel like a terrible person because ever since we've moved in together, I've had daydreams of leaving and living my own life. He's a great guy, but I don't know if I've ever been in love with him; he just makes me feel comfortable and secure. I think he's been catching on lately because I've basically said that I'm nowhere near ready to get married. So, we don't talk about the future. I'm so scared to leave because he's the only person I go to for everything, and he's my first relationship. I'm so scared of the unknown and being single for the rest of my life; how ironic.. I've thought about living with my mom for a few months to figure things out, but I feel like that won't go well with my boyfriend or his family. What should I do?
Redhead14 Posted July 30, 2015 Posted July 30, 2015 I'm in my mid 20's and have been with my boyfriend going on 3 years. We moved in together after 6 months of dating. Looking back, I wish I would've waited. I wasn't financially or emotionally ready, but I hated my living arrangements with my mother and couldn't afford to live on my own; still can't. I don't even know where to begin. I feel like a terrible person because ever since we've moved in together, I've had daydreams of leaving and living my own life. He's a great guy, but I don't know if I've ever been in love with him; he just makes me feel comfortable and secure. I think he's been catching on lately because I've basically said that I'm nowhere near ready to get married. So, we don't talk about the future. I'm so scared to leave because he's the only person I go to for everything, and he's my first relationship. I'm so scared of the unknown and being single for the rest of my life; how ironic.. I've thought about living with my mom for a few months to figure things out, but I feel like that won't go well with my boyfriend or his family. What should I do? It doesnt matter if it goes over well with your boyfriend or his family. What matters is you and what you need to do to get yourself in a position to become a strong, secure, independent woman with a life of her own. It serves no ones benefit to stay in a relationship that you are unable to be a fully functioning, supportive partner in and one that is unsatisfying to you and eventually him if he isn't already feeling that way. If nothing else, he will feel smothered by your lack of independence. Move in with your mom and make a live for yourself.
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