Marshbear Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 Some questions on pursuit. 1. In the dating world, isn't the pursuit of a women a desired trait in a man? 2.I mean don't women expect a guy to pursue them? 3.Isn't it as much fun for the women as for the guy? 4.Are there instances where you ( a women ) would not want a man to pursue you? 5.Would you ever be put-off by a man's pursuit? I think most women like a guy to pursue them but I have had some instances lately that maybe we need to tone down our pursuit. Care to comment?
alphamale Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 Welll MARSHBEAR....women are the ones who choose which man they want to be with. That being said, when a woman finds a man she really likes a lot then she will want to do the pursuing. And this is the way it should be. All the man has to do is sit back and let her know that he may be interested in her. He should also be aloof and indifferent to some extent while also giving her enough encouragement to chase him. This whole thing about men chasing the women is mostly poppy-cock. When the majority of women see a dude they really want they will take steps to get him.
HokeyReligions Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 I don't think the younger generation has changed all that much and that the majority of women do like to be pursued. Women have learned that we can also pursue others, and let others know more clearly when a pursuit is encouraged. But being sought after is still an ego boost and flattering and I would hazard to say that most women find some enjoyment out of being pursued. If a woman clearly and firmly says "NO" and tells a guy to get lost---do it. If the woman seems to be rather timid and afraid of conflict, but nicely tells a guy to get lost several times---Ask her if she's sure or if she's flirting and if she's sure -- leave her alone. If she keeps throwing out the "awe shucks" "no really?" attitude and just keeps flirting but turning you down -- leave her, she doesn't know what she wants and you probably don't want to deal with that in the long-run! I like to be pursued and back in my day I was fairly adept at subtle flirtatious invitations to pursue and I decided which guy I would allow to 'catch' me. It was fun for me, and the guys I dated too. Until I fell in love and the relationships became more serious.
purple21 Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 that's funny because I was just gonna ask the same sort of thing but the opposite way I think being pursued by a guy is fun and yeah i have to admit an ego booster - lol. I was wondering what guys think about girls asking them out?
noname Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 it is different with every woman. you have to feel them out. i will say this though... being a man, i notice that there seems to be a duality to the pursuit versus aloof argument. women seem to want to be pursued at times but would also like to pursue the man. our job is to be able to read this and act accordingly. it's like you have to meet them on their own terms. to sort of move with their ebb and flow. once you learn that each woman has a different way, you have to come to temrs with their personal fluctuations. not at all an easy job, but once you learn to understand the potential for variety, you will be able to experiment with different tactics. to sum it up. you need to treat every women on a case to case basis. and a rule of thumb- some women are easily put off by a man's pursuit. especially when they are not feeling them... oh yeah... purple21... you should probably start a new thread with that question. but i think it is perfectly fine with me for a woman to ask me out. think it's kinda cool. you just have to be ready for the breaks of it. you must be confident in yourself enough to be able to deal with rejection and not take it personal... this is a trial and error business that every man (whether it be Beetlejuice or Brad Pitt although it is easier with good looks and a whole lot of money) has been dealing with since the dawn of time. that is half the reason why men are so persistant...
purple21 Posted May 7, 2005 Posted May 7, 2005 Originally posted by noname oh yeah... purple21... you should probably start a new thread with that question. oops - sorry will do
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