whynotme Posted May 7, 2005 Posted May 7, 2005 NEW HERE, so please don't bite my head off. As for the reply to the virgin ?? you knew what you were getting into. The name thing I kidda agree, I look at screen names and try to figure out what it means, just like most will try tofigure out mine. lol
RecordProducer Posted May 7, 2005 Posted May 7, 2005 Okay. I am a woman. If I started a relationship with a guy who refused to have sex with me for whatever reason, I wouldn't stay with him. Sex is very important to me and I am not a shallow man. I am a romantic woman. I have so many aspects I look from when hooking up with someone, but great sex is one of the most important. I can live alone, without sex, but I don't want to be in a relationship and just kiss. I dunno about you guys, but that would turn me off completely. Besides I see no point in any kind of abstinence if you like someone. She is an adult, not a child. Her only criterion for determining whether the guy is the right one is to see for how long he will wait for her to make up her mind and have sex with him. It's a very selfish way of thinking. She doesn't count on the fact that she also needs to be the right one in order that the guy waits for her for too long. And sex is a very important criterion for determining if the person is right for you or not. After sleeping with my current BF for the first time, my interest in him greatly increased. It started with passion and continued with romance. You can't know what the sex will be like with a certain person until you try it. With an attitude like that, she doesn't seem like a very sexual person. Her parents can control her only as much as she lets them do that. And she obviously gladly lets them. What she told you about the one year and a year and a half time with the ex-BFs was probably a warning, not a mere information. And she didn't sleep with them so they waited for nothing. But she was a minor then. I think you should ask her openly about this thing and don't hesitate to ask her how long she thinks it will take for her to get to know you and determine if you're the right one. If she gives you the "you're shallow" crap, I would walk away. Actually SHE is shallow for thinking that her pussy is so precious. And what if you would decide to leave her some day? She would probably accuse you of being a monster who took her virginity and then dumped her.
st8toftheheart Posted May 9, 2005 Posted May 9, 2005 Originally posted by RecordProducer Okay. I am a woman. If I started a relationship with a guy who refused to have sex with me for whatever reason, I wouldn't stay with him. Sex is very important to me and I am not a shallow man. I am a romantic woman. I have so many aspects I look from when hooking up with someone, but great sex is one of the most important. I can live alone, without sex, but I don't want to be in a relationship and just kiss. Its because of statements like these why I am never going to get out of therapy.
NutellaGirl Posted May 9, 2005 Posted May 9, 2005 Yeah, I think it's the best thing you could do - leave him. - if you were in that situation. If you cannot be understanding - then you're not the right person to accept his virginity. And better for him that you leave him - then have him regret giving it to someone like you.
Stosh Posted May 18, 2005 Posted May 18, 2005 Originally posted by whynotme NEW HERE, so please don't bite my head off. As for the reply to the virgin ?? you knew what you were getting into. The name thing I kidda agree, I look at screen names and try to figure out what it means, just like most will try tofigure out mine. lol Sounds like there is some kind of confusion in your life. Is everything going okay or are there problems?
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