Realitycol Posted July 30, 2015 Posted July 30, 2015 My ex-gf broke up with me 2 months ago. After doing the begging and saying I've worked on myself. I said my peaceful farewells and I went no contact 2 weeks ago and I am starting to see signs of her missing me. She talks about me to her friends. She logs on my accounts we shared like Skype, etc. Two days ago I guess she got into an argument with a friend about wanting to talk to me again. The friend got upset/angry/probably threw a tantrum and left my ex-gf cause they couldn't handle what's to come if she talked to me again. A full 24 hours later, I guess they somehow reconciled : A. Ex-gf agreed not to talk to me or B. Friend thought about how immature they were and came back? Anyways, she hasn't contacted me. I don't plan on breaking NC. I hit the ball over the net and it's her choice and I respect that. I'm not going to blow up her phone and say something along the lines that she caved to an immature tantrum/ultimatum throwing person. It's her choice/her loss. In the past, nothing, I mean nothing stopped her from talking to me after an argument (whether secretly or with people knowing). So my question is, do you think her friends or family can talk her out of her weak moments or prevent her from talking to me? Could friends or family stop you? Thank you for your time. I feel like this is another person test to test my inner strength and patience.
aloneinaz Posted July 30, 2015 Posted July 30, 2015 My ex-gf broke up with me 2 months ago. After doing the begging and saying I've worked on myself. I said my peaceful farewells and I went no contact 2 weeks ago and I am starting to see signs of her missing me. She talks about me to her friends. She logs on my accounts we shared like Skype, etc. To answer your questions, You're not in NC. Why? Because your spying on her w/social media. You haven't deleted yourself from your joint social media accounts. I'd also assume you don't have her blocked on all social media? You're staying in contact with mutual friends who are keeping you updated w/her drama. Go to the NC thread on this site and read it. It's to allow you time and distance away from your ex so you can heal. It means NO CONTACT with the ex, no social media spying, etc.. To your other questions, you need to make up your mind about what you want. It appears you'd like to reconcile. It appears this is a pattern w/you two where you break up over fights only to get back together again. That's no a good sign of a healthy relationship.
Author Realitycol Posted July 30, 2015 Author Posted July 30, 2015 My question is the topic. Can a friend or family hold you back from talking to your ex?
casey.lives Posted July 30, 2015 Posted July 30, 2015 friends can do anything .. break up a relationship. sleep with your SO ..yeah they can influence hugely but it depends on the guy
dumbass2 Posted July 30, 2015 Posted July 30, 2015 Yes, they can have influence, but the bottom line is that if she really wanted to be with you, she would be with you regardless of her friend.
Simon Phoenix Posted July 30, 2015 Posted July 30, 2015 That's way too much information to have for someone who is supposedly in No Contact.
GoBlue Posted July 30, 2015 Posted July 30, 2015 My take on it is very simple - if a friend can talk her out of contacting you then the relationship is not important enough to her to be maintained. There are two obvious reasons for this in my mind: maybe your relationship wasn't very good for her and this friend cares enough to point it out, or, she is just very selfish and has her own agenda and doesn't want her to be with you for some reason. The facts are the same, if her friend can talk her out of contacting you then the relationship isn't on a strong foundation no matter what. You have said your peace, she knows how you feel, to continue chasing someone who doesn't want to be chased is never a formula for success. If she is missing you as you say she is, it's her responsibility to make contact. Good luck. I'm not 100% convinced that is is a relationship you should consider anyway. Hope it all works out.
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