dowbuild Posted July 30, 2015 Posted July 30, 2015 Hi everyone, sorry I feel like in the upcoming weeks Im going to be here a lot. My bf and I broke up after 2 years and I am really reeling from the pain. He somewhat blindsided me saying he was unhappy and by the end of the dicussion he was done. We had no contact for a couple weeks then I broke it because I broke down. He is so sweet and really supportive but definitely ready to move on. This absolutely kills me. Just a couple weeks ago he was my love and best friend and I dont know how to just let the most important person in my life go. How do you move on? Im trying everything but I don't seem to be getting better and I want to keep contacting him although I know there is no point. I wake up with horrible depression and anxiety and have started to take Ativan once a day to calm me down to a normal state. I miss him every second and don't know how to leave my everything behind when he has already started.
HandsomeBoh Posted July 30, 2015 Posted July 30, 2015 I know how you feel. Ultimately I think it's a personality thing. I don't feel its fair to end a relationship out of unhappiness without working on it first, but if they do, then that leaves you alone. The real pain is in trying to reconcile what they did in the days leading to the breakup with what they said they felt. But theres no answers to be got from thinking about it.
bluebird90 Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 I know its a very difficult phase and you need to be super strong here. Let yourself mourn. Cry. Punch a pillow. Journal. Surround yourself with friends who listen. The temptation may be to pretend you’re unaffected by the breakup; don’t let pride get in the way of being real. You don’t have to sob at the office, but take some quiet moments to reflect and be honest with yourself. It’s okay to be angry, hurt or humiliated. It’s healthier to express yourself honestly than grow numb. 1
Arieswoman Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 dowbuild, Can't move on Yes, you can. You need to take time out to grieve and you can't rush the process. This may help;- https://www.mcgill.ca/counselling/files/counselling/surviving_a_break-up_-_20_strategies_0.pdf Good luck x
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