Renderman Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 Okay, I'm sorry, this might be quite a long one.. There is a girl at high school I like, and for some time now I have been reading her body language, and I came to the conclusion that she is interested in me (a bit at least). She looks at me a lot from distance, but when I come closer she stops that. It's rare of her to make eye contact when we are close, it happens only from time to time. She used to come up to me to talk now and then, but that was 2 months ago. I just let the chance slip back then, and now regret it. I let it slip because I thought I wouldn't have a chance to date her, and I was pretty much hiding my interest (wrong, I know). Then she became quiet around me and if we, for example, had to work together in class, she didn't really make good eye contact, nor did she talk to me much, she just looked down or quickly to my eyes and then back down and became silent, or answered quickly something not-so-well-related to my question. That didn't happen all the time though, sometimes when I was about to ask her something about school and called her name, she turned around and looked me into eye, but when she heard the question, started answering and kind of turned around and kept walking away. Lately I've started saying "hi" to her occasionally though. We were working again in a group just the other day, and she still didn't talk much to me, but blushed slightly when I talked to her, and she seemed to be quite nervous, too. After that class I asked her something about the lesson (trying to create a conversation), and she looked me 100% into eye and became quite giggly and blushed a bit. That wasn't a long conversation, because school ended and we went to different directions (and she had a friend with her). She said some stuff that could be interepreted in many ways, she managed to push the word "boyfriend" into such places it wouldn't have really fit into. Also she said something like "I need something different than boring books to turn me on *giggle* *looks at her friend* *giggle* *blushing all the time*". Now there's 3 ways I can interpret these: 1) It's nothing. She just said that. 2) I" have a boyfriend, you don't turn me on. Get the hint and GO AWAY!" or 3) "I don't have a boyfriend, but I sure would like you to be my boyfriend? Books don't turn me on but you do." I could keep forever listing small stuff like this but I'll spare you, and move to the not-so-fun -part of my story: the other guys: she has lots of guy friends. She treats them the same, like she touches, and kinda flirts with them a lot. Not so much of this "You're hot" -type eye contact, but lots of touch + free talk. From what I have gathered, she can't have a crush to all of those guys , so those can't be signs she gives to her crush, right? Please correct if I'm wrong here.. And then something even more nasty, she has flirted with at least 3 guys she barely knows, right under my nose. Is this a sign she gives to me: "I'm really, not interested in you! Go away!", or is it some kind of attention seeking stunt? She has done all those three in short period of time, so I doubt she can have had a crush to all of those guys either.. To me it seems like she's quite open with almost everyone around her, but around me, it changes. Is this a sign? Okay, enough of the is-she-interested-in-me -stuff. I really appreciate if you give your point of view about the matter, but let's move to the second question: What should I do now? I have gathered, that there is no way anyone can really tell what she feels, unless someone asks her and she tells the truth. Now, body language is all we get. I have decided to go and talk to her (unless you scream to me that "NO! THESE ARE NOT GOOD SIGNS! NOT AT ALL!!). If you please could give me some conversational tips, icebreakers and any ways to find out what she feels about me, and how I can create a good conversation with her. The problem is: If I have read the body language correctly, she should be interested in me. How can I make her to quit that unfruitful awkwardness we have around eachother? I have pretty much got over my shyness, but our previous conversation didn't go too well. I might sound like an @ss to say this, but I could have made a good conversation out of it, if she hadn't been there with her friend and been so giggly (now I'm not saying I didn't like that but.. I'd rather take the conversation). I know how to be a good listener, I know I should try to throw in some compliments, look into eye and so on, but I still would like to have any opinions, or advice you can give. I'm getting pretty much frustrated to just waiting around, and I'm really gonna go and talk to her again. If you give me advice, I won't screw up though so advices are really much appreciated. Thank you for reading and thanks in advance for help!
Tripgoddess Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 I am going to sum this whole thing up for you- make the neccasary arrangements- example: car, money, and all the plans. Don't ask her what she want to do, just ask her if she wants to do them with you. In simple terms- ASK HER OUT ON A DATE!!!! If she says no, Al-right, no loss because there wasn't anything to loose, if she say's yes- Rock On! You've got a date. How else will you know? Tripgoddess
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