missingu Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 My boyfriend and I have been together a year and 4 months. Everything was exceptional. Only thing was my man wasn't working at all, . My boyfriend suddenly changed . He started an anti depressant for anger called pristiq .he suffers ADHD . He got a full time job after not having one for a while . When we first started going out we had sex literally every day, now we are down to twice a week. .a close family friend died .We are talking about moving in together .he masturbate twice about everyday . He is very worried about keeping his new job . We had been fighting more. Mainly I get annoyed over small things sometimes I worry he doesn't want to be with me anymore..how would I know??
StalwartMind Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 People can change for all kinds of reasons. Have you tried talking to him about things, if so how does he react? Does he dodge issues or close off. Everyone needs to be handled differently, but none of us here know what he wants. Some valid guesses could be that his work situation, death of friend, depression, the fighting, and so on. What aggravates you and do you feel it is fair to get annoyed over small things at times? Sometimes the answers lie within yourself, but no matter what communication is important. Relationships aren't just pure perfect without the involved parts put in the effort to understand each other. How much someone is willing to do will greatly vary, I don't believe in doing something half, it's full commitment or why even bother. I'm sure that mentality doesn't appeal to some (or many) but again we are all different. Speak to your man, learn him, understand him and make him do the same with you (I hope he is wanting to by default). Sometimes it's a good idea to not judge or think poorly of someone, especially if they are struggling. That's when you need to show the support you can be. Your relationship is still young, and unfortunately too many tend to be less amazing after awhile, which can be for a variety of reasons. People become disinterested, complacent or they perhaps realize that they just aren't that in tune with how they thought things would be. There are always things one can do, to salvage, improve or just reinforce a relationship, but it depends entirely if both parts are interested in putting in the required effort.
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