Shotclock Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 Just curious which scenario women prefer and why. Been looking at what men do wrong with women and thought this would give some insight. A: We go out for dinner and we have a great conversation, we flirt with each other laughing playfully touching each other. You can feel the tension in the air, I like you, you like me but neither one of us are 100% sure if the other one is interested romantically. End of the night comes and I walk you to your door. We make eye contact which I hold until I put my hand on the small of your back and pull you in and kiss you. B: exactly the same but when I walk you to your door, I don't hold eye contact, I look away once our eyes meet and I ask if I can kiss you. Looking forward to opinions.
mrldii Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 Scenario A. If I want you to kiss me, you'll know in the way I kiss you back. If I don't want you to kiss me, you'll know by the way your kiss lands on my cheek/my knee ends up in your groin. Scenario B kinda reminds me of the adage, "If you have to ask the price, you can't afford the goods..."
Redhead14 Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 Just curious which scenario women prefer and why. Been looking at what men do wrong with women and thought this would give some insight. A: We go out for dinner and we have a great conversation, we flirt with each other laughing playfully touching each other. You can feel the tension in the air, I like you, you like me but neither one of us are 100% sure if the other one is interested romantically. End of the night comes and I walk you to your door. We make eye contact which I hold until I put my hand on the small of your back and pull you in and kiss you. B: exactly the same but when I walk you to your door, I don't hold eye contact, I look away once our eyes meet and I ask if I can kiss you. Looking forward to opinions. If you have to ask me, I don't want you to kiss me 4
Vintage79 Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 You're effectively asking confidence versus no confidence. I know a lot of women that would be turned off by you asking them if you can kiss them - not many, if any, that are honestly interested would be turned off by you just going for it, and if they don't want it, you'll just get a cheek, or you can pull back en route. Option B is aptly named, as you'll be classified as a beta male...
Jejangles Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 Scenario A. If I'm interested, I'll kiss back. If I'm not, I will turn my head or step back.
Walters Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 think your real question is when do you know when a kiss is acceptable to go for. Scenario A. If I want you to kiss me, you'll know in the way I kiss you back. If I don't want you to kiss me, you'll know by the way your kiss lands on my cheek/my knee ends up in your groin To the cheek sounds like a reasonable rejection, even a spoken no or a step away. The latter to your quote seems to be an extreme.
MoreAmore Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 A, but I would absolutely love B if eye contact was maintained while asking.
Phoe Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 I will say that most of the time in the past, I was asked first before being kissed, and I was okay with that. I never had an issue with being asked, or being informed in some way that the kiss is coming. The one time a man went in for the kiss without warning, I spazzed and pulled back. Not because I didn't want to kiss him, but because I just spazzed because I wasn't expecting it. I think most women would not want you to ask, but I am an example of one who is totally okay with it.
mrldii Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 think your real question is when do you know when a kiss is acceptable to go for. To the cheek sounds like a reasonable rejection, even a spoken no or a step away. The latter to your quote seems to be an extreme. Not really. While it was originally intended to be rather tongue-in-cheek, there are situations where it may be my serious response. If the guy has gone in for a kiss because he misread the cues/I wasn't quite clear about it, landing a kiss on my cheek will soften the blow of the rejection. If I have clearly stated, "This did not go well and I do not feel a connection and would like to end this meet-and-greet and wish you the best in your future" and he continues to go in for a kiss, a knee to the groin is the perfect emphasis to a point that was already made and to which he was choosing to be deliberately obtuse.
Vintage79 Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 Not really. While it was originally intended to be rather tongue-in-cheek, there are situations where it may be my serious response. If the guy has gone in for a kiss because he misread the cues/I wasn't quite clear about it, landing a kiss on my cheek will soften the blow of the rejection. If I have clearly stated, "This did not go well and I do not feel a connection and would like to end this meet-and-greet and wish you the best in your future" and he continues to go in for a kiss, a knee to the groin is the perfect emphasis to a point that was already made and to which he was choosing to be deliberately obtuse. Perfect emphasis and potential for battery and assault charges...
Walters Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 Not really. While it was originally intended to be rather tongue-in-cheek, there are situations where it may be my serious response. If the guy has gone in for a kiss because he misread the cues/I wasn't quite clear about it, landing a kiss on my cheek will soften the blow of the rejection. If I have clearly stated, "This did not go well and I do not feel a connection and would like to end this meet-and-greet and wish you the best in your future" and he continues to go in for a kiss, a knee to the groin is the perfect emphasis to a point that was already made and to which he was choosing to be deliberately obtuse. far enough given your scenario. However the context of the scenario presented by the OP, the action is extreme.
mrldii Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 Perfect emphasis and potential for battery and assault charges... Nahhh, I'm a Big Girl. Even though he didn't bother to pay attention to my "Sorry, I'm not interested" speech and decided to go in for a kiss thus causing my knee-*jerk* reaction, I'd figure it was enough pain-and-punishment, and not bother to call the cops to press assault and battery charges on him for touching me, inappropriately. ========================= Speaking of men who can't pick up on social cues (and keep coming in for the kill anyway), did I mention in my first reply to another poster who took exception to the chosen wording in my response to OP's question, that it was originally delivered tongue-in-cheek? If I'd forgotten to mention that earlier, let me reiterate it just one more time.
DaisyBug Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 Ok, well, I prefer to be in control and would not appreciate a man making assumptions and kissing me like he was entitled to it. So, the answer is B, but not sure about the eye contact thing.
Author Shotclock Posted July 30, 2015 Author Posted July 30, 2015 Great responses, I can see that it totally depends on the girl you're with and you have to be able to read them. Hopefully you get it right, if not at least don't be an ass about rejection. I think the biggest thing I learned was about "eye contact" (which was kind of obvious to me) it's ok to ask or announce your intentions as long as you make eye contact to show your confidence. Thanks for the input! 1
Toodaloo Posted July 30, 2015 Posted July 30, 2015 It really does depend on the girl. However for me personally if a guy has to ask he has no hope with me. Purely because I am as stubborn as can be and I need/ want someone who can handle that. If he has to ask it shows that he could be timid...
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