EmotionallyUnstable Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 Hello guys, I have written here a couple of months ago about a woman I dated a bit: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/528589-dating-young-woman I went ahead and asked her about her feelings for me as I couldn't sit in between two chairs for much longer, and she was honest saying she didn't feel the same emotions I did. So we stopped talking for a while. a month ago, she started talking to me again. She told me about her time while we didn't talk and mentionned she tried dating another guy and it didn't work either with him, though this time it was more of a fit he had, more than she. I feel I can connect to this girl even if it's nothing more than friendship. We find each other special and such and we always enjoy time spent together. So we started watching movies together as friends. I knew I had to remain emotionally detached to not be deceived again. Everything was smooth, status quo was kept until last night. I invited her over for a supper (that she did really like). As we watch the movie, she got closer and closer and so we cuddled a bit during the movie. Turns out it was 2 movies. I felt all the emotions I kept back at once and I wanted to kiss her so badly. I think I still need to keep the brakes applied, because I'm gonna be deceived again if she ever says the same thing about this time. I need opinions on this... it's making me feel torn. Thanks for your advices!
Toodaloo Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 She is not deceiving you. She just wants to be friends with you. You however are deceiving yourself and her. You can't be "just friends" with this girl. You are going to start getting obsessive if you are not careful. You need to make sure any contact is while in groups and also calm the amount of contact down and back off for your own sanity. No more cosy film nights hugging on the sofa. You will drive yourself insane. 2
Author EmotionallyUnstable Posted August 5, 2015 Author Posted August 5, 2015 Update: Saw her again last night. After consulting many people, I was convinced to give it another try. Before I saw her, she went to see a show with some guitar and since I just started playing guitar, she felt like writing a song with me so I gave her a topic. Gave her "Roads crossing" and she wrote it in one night. I feel the song is about her and me. She mentions a guy breaking a girl's heart barriers and vice versa like I was able to pierce through her thick emotional wall. I felt it touching. So yesterday, went to her place, we had supper together, we talked and then watched a movie. We held hands and I gave her little kisses on her head. I was supposed to leave early but she kept me around until late, even though we were both working in the morning. We did not make out and nothing more happened. I feel like she's taking her time. Am I perceiving this wrong? Thank you for reading me again, I just feel like it's coming to something good and don't want to screw it up.
Vercetti Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 You want to friends with her when she starts telling you stories of cute guys she is going out with and having sex with? Want to be her friend when her boyfriend wants her to cut your " just friend " creepy ass off cause you need to find your own girl. Can you really be a friend and give objective insight when she goes after things in life not you. Finally don't you have better things to do then waste time on a girl that's not sleeping with you.
Vercetti Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 Update: Saw her again last night. After consulting many people, I was convinced to give it another try. Before I saw her, she went to see a show with some guitar and since I just started playing guitar, she felt like writing a song with me so I gave her a topic. Gave her "Roads crossing" and she wrote it in one night. I feel the song is about her and me. She mentions a guy breaking a girl's heart barriers and vice versa like I was able to pierce through her thick emotional wall. I felt it touching. So yesterday, went to her place, we had supper together, we talked and then watched a movie. We held hands and I gave her little kisses on her head. I was supposed to leave early but she kept me around until late, even though we were both working in the morning. We did not make out and nothing more happened. I feel like she's taking her time. Am I perceiving this wrong? Thank you for reading me again, I just feel like it's coming to something good and don't want to screw it up. I've never written, recorded, played a song for anyone I've been with. I'm not a sideshow clown jumping through hoops. Perhaps could workout different for you, but you're really overextending yourself and not getting much back. You held her hand, you kissed her head ( why not lips?) , you feel some touching emotion. She knows she has you, how many times going to remind her? Vanish and see if she kicks down your door.
Author EmotionallyUnstable Posted August 12, 2015 Author Posted August 12, 2015 Update: We're now dating again. This time though, she seems into me much more than before. In the end, I think waiting for her to open up was the best that could happen! End of thread
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