bluebird90 Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 Hey, New person here. Was going through the forum, and its amazing how people get help here. And then i thought i could share my feelings too, it would help me take the weight out of my chest. Okay, I have a relationship problem. I am a very choosy person when it comes to relationships and i find it very hard to let go once i find a person who i can connect with. I am 25 years old and i had one serious relationship and three short (very short) almost relationships. I moved out of my serious relationship with this amazing guy because i felt like i did not love the guy enough and felt guilty every time he said he loves me and proves it. and i tried to love him back but i just couldn't and then i had to finally tell him that i dint love him and i felt so guilty that i promised him that i wouldn't move on until he finds someone. I kept my promise and he finally found someone who could reciprocate his feeling and I'm genuinely happy for them. My problem starts now, after this i was single for quite a long time because I am not very comfortable with just "hanging around" or "just flirting" and top of all that I'm choosy. After two short almost relationships which did not work out and i was still happy with my life and not so desperate to be in a relationship and this old colleague of mine shows up, and I felt like this is the right person, i got obsessed with him and never noticed the signs which said he was not ready to be in a relationship and when things got really serious for me, i told him that i like him and i got the dreading answer that he likes me all right , he likes spending time with me and talking to me but he doesn't have romantic feelings for me. Well, i was devastated. And then out of sheer desperation i try to convince him that he can give it a chance and everything (you know the mess that creates) and then he tells me its a No. And I agree gracefully and i stop contact with him and i have good progress for a week, i go out, get distracted and everything and then this guy texts me and i lose it. I lose progress and i go all weak and desperate again. This happened yesterday and Im still hungover. I want to let go but im finding it hard i keep wishing he would return even when i know he is not right for me and he drains me emotionally. I know i sound desperate but i hope its normal and would get better with time. I hope i get enough willpower to not contact him. And even when he is not my Ex as we were not in a relationship and its not actually a break up, I'm still finding it hard to let go. Sorry for the long post, i had to share it with someone. Thank you for any advice you have for me. Cheers !!
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