cjr Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 Hi Am new to this forum so will start of with the story. I am currently overseas working and have been living away for two years. I met an amazing guy over here who was completely different to anything that had gone before. We immediately hit it off although 6 months in to our relationship he went to abroad to study for 6 months so we kept the relationship going long distance. Stupidly something happened on a drunken night with someone from my home country. It was a mistake and we remained friends whilst my partner was away. When I went to visit I admitted as soon as I saw him. He stated that there was to be no contact with this person which I accepted and we moved on from this. Another 6 months down the line I knew this guy from home was leaving so I wanted to just say a friendly goodbye. One morning I awoke with my partner having seen my message asking to say goodbye and he immediately left. The next day he arrived with all my things and said that 'a line had been crossed' and he 'couldn't do it anymore'. Despite my attempts at saying it was someone who I had seen as a friend in a foreign country. I attempted NC for two weeks and then caved in and he still was so nice with his reply but just said that 'its best for the both of us' and that we could 'catch up for a coffee one day'. He has a strong personality and I don't believe he will change his mind but I can't stop thinking I want to prove myself. Any suggestions?
ExpatInItaly Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 Can you clarify: the friend you asked to say good-bye to is the same man your partner asked you to cut contact with? Or is this someone else completely? If it's the same person, then you blew it big time. You showed your now-ex that you're not trustworthy and he was right to leave. And you need to respect his wishes and drop it. Learn from this and don't repeat these mistakes in the future.
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