oldshirt Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 Being her boss at work will be an issue and why you need to clarify this relationship ASAP, with no room for any misunderstandings. Using her as a FB or booty call, is not going to go down well if that is NOT what she wants or expects from you, and she could land you in hot water for sexual harassment at work, if she gets upset and angry at being merely used for sex, by someone who is her direct senior. Be careful. If she was wanting a deeper R with him and he was her boss, I would agree completely. However she is fading away on her own accord. If she doesn't want any kind of dating or any kind of FWB thing, she won't. My point to all of this is she is fading away on her own. He won't have to do anything. It's just a matter of days or a couple weeks until she will start being "busy" and will be declining his date requests anyway. This is a case where if you do nothing, it will all just fade away on its own. My recommendation is to basically do nothing. If she steps up and initiates a convo on a relationship then they can cross that bridge and see where everyone stands. If she wants "closure" she can open her mouth and ask where he is at and where things are gonna go. If he stops calling and never hears from her again, he has his answer. If he asks her out on an occasional date or occasional booty call and she declines, he has his answer. If he occasionally asks her on a date or on a booty call and she accepts, he has an answer there too.
spiderowl Posted July 29, 2015 Posted July 29, 2015 She won't have had counselling, nor is that an option either. It's just foolishness and immaturity on her behalf. I have no idea what she wants from me, or this relationship and she will tell me. If she sees it as fun, fine...but I have no idea! What I don't quite get though is a few weeks ago she wouldn't leave me alone, now the contact is much less. I asked if she is bored and wants to call it quits and she replied 'no'. I can't put this girl down but for my own sanity I think I am going to back off. My feeling is she is less interested and/or confused so she is backing off a bit and not saying what she feels. Perhaps she doesn't know what she feels. I think you are right though and that you might as well back off too. Explain to her that you don't want to continue without knowing she is interested in you as you are in her, then leave her to think about it. If she doesn't come back to you with something more positive than that she's 'keeping you on your toes', I would give up.
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