honey85 Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Hi everyone, I finally blocked my cheating ex from my phone, emails, calls, any form of contact possible. Even though I feel a sense of relief and a dark weight off me, I'm worried of the unknown. Before, he was able to contact me and get his message across to me, but now he knows he can't. Or he will figure it out very soon. I'm scared/anxious he will rock up at my house ( I live with my parents) or at my work. He has tried ringing my house/work previously when we argued. Has this ever happened to anyone and how best to deal with this?
Poppyolive Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 You did the right thing. Has he been bugging you? In what kinda way? Begging, pleading or arguing? My ex when you he dumped me, (I took it with relative ease, our relationship had problems, arguments because of his drinking behaviour) he harassed me. Calls, texts, Facebook, emails, commenting on friends statues etc. He would message for items left at our apartment. (Very small box of clothes) he'd come by only take one item and a few days later message again. It didn't stop for about 2 months. His messages got aggressive & bullying. I met him and asked him to stop. It continued. He showed up at my door with a sweater of mine. That's when I blocked him everywhere. I was super anxious and sick with fear. It faded. Still a few emails. Buy I never replied. He threatened to come round. I ignored. It eventually stopped. Nothing now for over a year. So, yes, you have done the right thing. Block, delete, ignore. May make your parents aware. You never really know what people can do. I never thought my ex of 6 years would bug me. It will pass. 1
Author honey85 Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 You did the right thing. Has he been bugging you? In what kinda way? Begging, pleading or arguing? My ex when you he dumped me, (I took it with relative ease, our relationship had problems, arguments because of his drinking behaviour) he harassed me. Calls, texts, Facebook, emails, commenting on friends statues etc. He would message for items left at our apartment. (Very small box of clothes) he'd come by only take one item and a few days later message again. It didn't stop for about 2 months. His messages got aggressive & bullying. I met him and asked him to stop. It continued. He showed up at my door with a sweater of mine. That's when I blocked him everywhere. I was super anxious and sick with fear. It faded. Still a few emails. Buy I never replied. He threatened to come round. I ignored. It eventually stopped. Nothing now for over a year. So, yes, you have done the right thing. Block, delete, ignore. May make your parents aware. You never really know what people can do. I never thought my ex of 6 years would bug me. It will pass. Hi, yes, he continued to message me and ringing my mobile every hour. Then he started to email me. I ignored him, then he progressed to messaging through the night til early morning. I sent him a message asking him to not contact me. He would say ok then start again after few hours. As I ignored him, he got angry and abusive. Then he'd become submissive and sorry and beg. I had to tell him to leave me alone and that it was over for good with anger and I just blocked him. Even if he is trying to contact me, I can't see anything nor want to see anything from him. I feel really anxious at the moment, but I'm just hoping he knows I'm serious and done for good. Despite previous fall outs and fighting, I have never blocked him. He's been able to speak to me after 24 hours .
Poppyolive Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 I feel you. He will certainly try to contact you, hopefully he gets the point. I'm sure you must be feeling pretty anxious. Do your parents no? If he shows up you should ask him to leave, if he doesn't have the local police on speed dial. 1
Author honey85 Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 I feel you. He will certainly try to contact you, hopefully he gets the point. I'm sure you must be feeling pretty anxious. Do your parents no? If he shows up you should ask him to leave, if he doesn't have the local police on speed dial. My parents are currently out of the country on business. He doesn't know this. It feels nice to open my emails and be able to use my phone without having to read anything from him. Heart felt messages to abusive the next. Even though I didn't contact/respond back, just reading his messages, was emotional turmoil. He was still able to mess with my head without being there. Today is day 1. Bring on day 364 x 1
Poppyolive Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 I know my ex did what he did because he was hurt and loosing control over floods of emotions. Even though it was not my problem, i felt sorry for him. It just sucks that some people don't know how to reign in emotions and process things. Stay strong
aloneinaz Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 You're way overthinking this. Blocking him was a great thing to do. Out of sight, out of mind. You don't know if he will come by your work or home. He probably won't put out the effort to do that. Let your parents know when they return so if they answer the door, they can shut it in his face while telling him to not stop by again. If he shows up at your work or home, advise him that if he does it again, you'll get a restraining order levied against him. That will scare him into stopping. Trust me, he'll get the picture that he's wasting his time bothering you.
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