sandy123 Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 I recently became friends with a man who has asked me out. We are both single, but I have decided not to take it beyond friendship because we work at the same company (different departments). He has made his attraction to me very clear, but he understands why I want to keep our relationship as friendship. He still flirts heavily with me, though, and says it is just "harmless flirting" and nothing serious. Recently, he traveled for a few days, and he texted me from several airports when he was leaving and returning and also from the hotel. The texts were not flirtatious...more like just checking in / touching base to let me know where he was and what time he would be boarding flights, length of the flight, the temperature, etc. He initiated all of the texts. In the past, he indirectly said that he was thinking about me when he was on vacation earlier this year, and he's also said that he misses me on weekends. He sounded genuine when he made those comments, but I don't know whether he is serious, or if it's just "harmless flirting" between friends, as how he describes our relationship. We've only been texting each other for around a month, and he's not a big texter. It's why I was so surprised that he sent me texts from multiple airports. Is it usual for man whom you are not even dating and just became friends with you to send texts when he is traveling?
jen1447 Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Is it usual for man whom you are not even dating and just became friends with you to send texts when he is traveling? It's not unusual for someone with an agenda. I don't think I buy the "harmless flirting" thing - most likely he's trying to wear you down. 1
PaperCrane Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Only if he's into you and he says it's only harmless between friends because that is what YOU labeled the 'relationship' as. Women set the pace and men test the boundaries. The texts and flirting are like taps against a wall to see if it's hollow behind it so he can move forward. I can't say what the future will hold, but he does care about you because men don't just 'check in' like that unless they feel close to someone. Choose your actions carefully because he's looking for a crumb trail.
Author sandy123 Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 Only if he's into you and he says it's only harmless between friends because that is what YOU labeled the 'relationship' as. Women set the pace and men test the boundaries. The texts and flirting are like taps against a wall to see if it's hollow behind it so he can move forward. I can't say what the future will hold, but he does care about you because men don't just 'check in' like that unless they feel close to someone. Choose your actions carefully because he's looking for a crumb trail. That is what I was wondering...whether there was real care behind the texts or not. Thank you for your advice.
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