sanne Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 Wow, I don't even know what I've gotten myself into recently. So after about a week of pleading and begging, I agreed to talk to my ex-gf who had cheated on me. She promised me she had changed and that she was seeking counseling, so I agreed that we could be friends and hang out again. Well one thing led to another, and for a whole week we were seeing each other every day and hanging out all the time and things were really great. She promised me that I was the only man she ever really loved and that she would do anything to please me. Well today I check her phone, and she's got a txt message in her inbox from her ex saying "i love you too, my test in on friday". I checked her outbox and I see a message "I love you and miss you honey, good luck on your test". I very calmly and quietly told her to get out and that we would never ever talk again. She kept swearing to me that she and him aren't seeing each other and that they are nothing more than just friends, and that her calling him honey is just a thing they always used to do. No way, I've been fooled far too many times to ever take back this lying cheating whore. I'm officially done. NC and everything will be instituted to the fullest. I thought she could change, boy was I wrong. Cheaters never change, i'll just take this as a lesson learned. What's funny is I don't even know when she had time to talk to this guy because she was basically with me the entire time and I've even been checking her phone and there haven't been any calls to him or from him this entire week. But whatever, she lied and this is suspicious enough for me to just walk away this time with no guilt. I'm done, I never thought I'd take this much crap from anyone but I did, and now I've had it. No more, never again. Lesson learned.
BrotherAaron Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 ouch oddly reminiscent of my situation... my ex and I got back together, and I went away for a weekend (because the other guy involved was in California). Anyway, I had a great weekend with my friends, but no contact to/from my ex, except a text message she said she didn't believe me I sent. It was a stupid argument, but I decided to show her on her phone record where I sent it - and what did I say except "I miss you too!" sent from the other guy. That's when I drew the line... Where are you going to draw yours? You've had your wakeup call, please don't let this become a pattern. She's not sorry, and months of pleading wont make her deserve you. Don't let her manipulate you like that. End it, and let it stay over. Block her phone and her email. It's done.
BrotherAaron Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 And - for the record - you screwed nothing up. Yeah, you had a little week fling with her, and you'll have to start getting over her again - but so what? At least you know this time that she's not worth taking back and maybe you can get rid of her with some resolve.
Author sanne Posted May 6, 2005 Author Posted May 6, 2005 i'm getting even. i told her i'd take her back if she called her ex in front of me and told him it's over, and if she IM'd him in front of me and told him its over. after she does this i'm going to throw her out anyways, that's what she gets for screwing with me.
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 Are you sure you'll throw her out anyway? From reading your posts, this little girl has an iron grip on you and it seems all she has to do is pour on the sugar and you melt. She'll tell you that she desperately loves you, will die without you, that she has 'really changed', that she only told him that because she didn't want to hurt him, blah blah blah (insert more BS here) - and if that fails, she'll come on like a nympho to get to you through your d*ck. She knows when and how to amp up her efforts. And you'll believe it. And she knows it. Don't back yourself into a situation of your own making. Cut her off cold, with no further explanation.
Illusion24 Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 Cheaters never change, i'll just take this as a lesson learned I have this theory...Once a cheater, always a cheater!!!! Did you check the dates on the text messages?? Maybe they were from the previous weeks?? I'm not trying to make it seem like it's ok what she did but it could be a possiblity. I think you were more generous that I would have been..Theirs 2 things I don't forgive a man for: Cheating or Hitting Me...any of the two you're out the door with no chance of ever coming back... Just stay strong and keep your head up, you just might find someone who really cares for you and loves you the way you need to be loved. People like that aren't worth your time or love i'm getting even. i told her i'd take her back if she called her ex in front of me and told him it's over, and if she IM'd him in front of me and told him its over. after she does this i'm going to throw her out anyways, that's what she gets for screwing with me. This is very immature...Don't waste your time, theres no point!!!
ltomlinson81 Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 Be strong. Don't let her treat you like this. Just remember that if she really cared about and respected you, she wouldn't be texting this person AT ALL - regardless of their friendship.
jp13370 Posted May 7, 2005 Posted May 7, 2005 Sanne, it's amazing how people lie to your face - but they do it! Once someone cheats on you there is a 100% chance (no matter what they say) it will happen again. My ex lied to me about everything and did the same thing - begged me to come back, give him another chance - said I was the love of his life, blah-blah-blah.......... All lies. It's interesting though if you learn how to tell when someone is lying to you. I figured out when my ex would lie his face would twitch - dead giveaway. He'd start bouncing his foot too. It'll never change - the longer you stay together the longer you're going to torture yourself and prolong the misery. Breaking up is easy - making the decision to do so is what's so difficult. If ya break up - it's easy to get over because you can spill your guts on here - we're all in the same boat and there are so many great folks to listen and help you get thru it.
Marshbear Posted May 7, 2005 Posted May 7, 2005 quote: i'm getting even. i told her i'd take her back if she called her ex in front of me and told him it's over, and if she IM'd him in front of me and told him its over. after she does this i'm going to throw her out anyways, that's what she gets for screwing with me. This is very immature...Don't waste your time, there's no point!!! I agree. This is just childish. End it and be done.
jp13370 Posted May 7, 2005 Posted May 7, 2005 My ex acted the same way - he just had to get revenge and one-up me. I told him if he wanted to claim victory by being the one to have the last say so and to tell everyone he was the one who ended it then so be it. All I could tell him is knock yourself out buddy - I really don't care. It's an ego/power struggle - I let him win so he'd leave me alone.
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