makeupjunkie Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Hi LS He broke up with me and I have been NC with him since May 29. I thought there was a chance of working it out but I guess not. Has anyone else experienced this..seeing your ex online etc. I dont have a profile myself..I guess I just wanted to see if he had his profile up again since he had one before. We were together two years and even days before he broke it off he said he loved me. I know, I am trying to move on . To me right now the thought of dating another man does not appeal to me. It just sucks I felt my heart sink when I saw the profiles. I guess it's typical for dumpers whether male or female to move on so quick?
ravfour4 Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 I hopped on dating sites right after we broke up, it was just a self esteem booster. I chat with a lot of women on there, but have only met up with 1 or 2 that actually seemed cute, most seem desperate. Of course if he's single he's trying to find new women, doesn't mean he actually has. 1
Author makeupjunkie Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 Yes i figured it was for self esteem boost but well not holding my breath that he will come back.....I guess I was just amazed at what he wrote on there: looking for his best friend & soulmate. Yeah on a dating site good luck. Damm why did I look online:(
Fleur de cactus Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 He is your ex, and I dont understand why you don't want him to be on dating website. Stop staking him if you want to move on.
Author makeupjunkie Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 Like i said i thought there was a chance but i guess not. It's hard at least for me to turn off my feelings for someone I cared about. Geez tough crowd .
Gus Grimly Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 I tried Tinder and started chatting with a few matches. It got to a point I could tell they wanted me to ask them out, I couldn't do it. I also went on OKCupid, same thing happened. I ended up deactivating the account. Personally it's gonna take me a looooong time before I'm ready. I think your Ex is doing the same. I don't know your Ex but he could possibly be looking for a quick hookup. Never know. 1
ravfour4 Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 People can be harsh on here sometimes. They want you to forget about your ex and move forward NOW! At the same time we all understand the pain since we've all been there. Yes, it sucks to see him on a dating site, I'm sure it hurt especially reading the soulmate bit - instead of thinking he found his soulmate, think of him as pathetic for writing that on there, that probably won't attract many women, at least not good ones. If you were purposefully looking for him on the website, stop. If you happened to see him on there, he probably saw you too and may have been shocked as well. Chalk it up as a sad moment and keep pushing forward 3
Gus Grimly Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 People can be harsh on here sometimes. They want you to forget about your ex and move forward NOW! Yeah, I'm not too fond of that bandwagon. Some people deserve more options than the default Cut-all-ties-full-NC. 3
Author makeupjunkie Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 People can be harsh on here sometimes. They want you to forget about your ex and move forward NOW! At the same time we all understand the pain since we've all been there. Yes, it sucks to see him on a dating site, I'm sure it hurt especially reading the soulmate bit - instead of thinking he found his soulmate, think of him as pathetic for writing that on there, that probably won't attract many women, at least not good ones. If you were purposefully looking for him on the website, stop. If you happened to see him on there, he probably saw you too and may have been shocked as well. Chalk it up as a sad moment and keep pushing forward Yes it was dumb of me to look ...I dont have a profile myself I guess I just got curious if it was up again ...it will be two months that I have not seen him etc I miss him but I guess I have to move on it just sucks. Thank you Gus Grimly and ravfour for the male point of view on this.
aloneinaz Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Like i said i thought there was a chance but i guess not. It's hard at least for me to turn off my feelings for someone I cared about. Geez tough crowd . Don't take it personally. There's lots of good folks on here. I think people that have been here off/on for a while only want to help. What you did is natural and we've all done it. The point is, for you to worry about you and not what this guy that dumped you is doing. It will only set you back from moving on. My last ex who dumped me was on the dating sites 6-7 days later.. I wasn't surprised by then as I should of dumped her and she's a tree swinger and can't be alone. You seeing him on there is a good thing. It should be the final reinforcement that he's not interested in getting back with you. So, you can now fully accept that it's over, heal and start dating yourself when you're ready. 1
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