hakim Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 I'm interested in this one girl, but she lives an hour away. I own my own car, but there are also regular trains that go there. I'm wondering if this is too far? Of course I'm open to meeting girls in my area, but this girl is really interesting.
Learningtowalkagain Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 My last girlfriend lived an hour away. We made it work, mostly because she was a time hog and wanted all of my time. I'd just pack for a few days, stay at her house, and we'd go into work together (we obviously worked together). An hour is nothing if you really like her. 1
Author hakim Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 My last girlfriend lived an hour away. We made it work, mostly because she was a time hog and wanted all of my time. I'd just pack for a few days, stay at her house, and we'd go into work together (we obviously worked together). An hour is nothing if you really like her. Ha, well it's far too early for all that - we haven't had our first date yet! I'm just curious to this all.
loverboy69 Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Not at all. Make the effort. Makes for a good Friday or Saturday night getaway. You guys can take turns coming over. When I lived in Los Angeles a 12 mile commute could turn to a 1.5 hr drive so I'm a bit sympathetic here.
RoseVille Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 3 miles as a bird flies could be an hour by car for me. It's not too far, but I suppose it depends on context.
carhill Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Back when my exW and I were dating, we were 60 miles apart, mostly highway so about an hour each way. That went on, at least weekly, for around 18 months until we got married. We either met in the middle for activity stuff, since we were equa-distant to a larger town, or switched off doing the whole drive. Worked out well.
Author hakim Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 Not at all. Make the effort. Makes for a good Friday or Saturday night getaway. You guys can take turns coming over. When I lived in Los Angeles a 12 mile commute could turn to a 1.5 hr drive so I'm a bit sympathetic here. How should I organise the first date though, should I just organise a date in a town that's suitable for both of us? i.e in between us? I was thinking of asking her to bowling with me ... it's a date I'm most comfortable with, and it usually gets a lot of laughs from both parties.
Author hakim Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 Back when my exW and I were dating, we were 60 miles apart, mostly highway so about an hour each way. That went on, at least weekly, for around 18 months until we got married. We either met in the middle for activity stuff, since we were equa-distant to a larger town, or switched off doing the whole drive. Worked out well. Yeah, it's the same for her and I. There's a relatively big town betweens us, so it saves her having to come to my much bigger city. I'm sure the town between us has bowling alleys.
xcupid Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 If she's worth it you'll drive more than 1 hour. Pick a town that is convenient for you both - halfway is fine - or go to where she lives. Find out what she would like. Good luck.
highseas Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 One hour of driving to me is not too far if I am interested in a woman. You can take turns visiting one another, or meet somewhere in the middle. If you haven't met her you can offer to meet her in her town and make it easier for her, unless she is interested in seeing your town.
Clarence_Boddicker Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 When I was young, putting 100 miles a day on my car was nothing. To go cruising on a Fri or Sat night was a hour drive each way to Sac. The bay area was a 2+ hour drive each way. I guess it depends on the condition of your car & the price of fuel. For a first date, pick her up at her place and take her home at the end of the night.
almond Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 For a first date, pick her up at her place and take her home at the end of the night. There is no way I'd give a guy I had never even met my address. OP, if you suggest this, do it in a way that won't put her in an uncomfortable position. Eg: "Let's do bowling in x town? If you have any trouble getting there, let me know and I'm more than happy to pick you up."
danmillar Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 When I was in Los Angeles, a 2.5 mile commute could take up to 45 minutes. I am told secondhand, that numerous people these days commute 2 hours each way to work. I think a 1 hour drive is a fantastic opportunity for self enrichment with audiobooks.
Walters Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 a lot of the population drives 1 hour to work and then 1 hour back if not more. This seems like a typical commute.
d0nnivain Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 I don't see a problem with 1 hour but some people might. Is that 1 hour with or without traffic. How does where you both work factor into this? If you know her IRL go to her for the 1st date. It's the classy thing to do. If it's a 1st meet off OLD, somewhere in the middle is probably your best bet.
Perrier Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 When I was young, putting 100 miles a day on my car was nothing. To go cruising on a Fri or Sat night was a hour drive each way to Sac. The bay area was a 2+ hour drive each way. I guess it depends on the condition of your car & the price of fuel. For a first date, pick her up at her place and take her home at the end of the night. Hell no! I never give any man I have just met my address. In fact no matter how long I have been talking prior to meeting I say I live a few neighbourhoods away from my actual one. If he walks me to bus stop after first date I may get a different bus to the one I need then change along the way. @Clarence_Boddicker - you may be a gent, but many women are wary of the above on a first date. That has led to unwanted intrusions, 'nightcaps' that have gone further than intended etc. with repercussions for the woman.
central Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Distance makes things harder, but sometimes it's worth dealing with the inconvenience. Two of my best dating relationships were 100 miles and 140 miles away. I eventually relocated to be closer to one of them, and it has worked out very well for us both. Of course, be very sure of the long term potential before you relocate!
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