Jessamine Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Got home from work today to find a bag of my things on the front porch. I feel sick. It seriously feels like I just got dumped again. I'm having a terrible time getting over it to begin with and I feel like I just got slapped in the face with a "NOPE, DON'T MISS YOU" reminder. Happy freaking birthday to me.
aloneinaz Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Is it your birthday? If so, HAPPY BIRTHDAY.. Look at it this way, you have a rebirth to the life ahead of you and all those opportunities that come with it! I'm are curious though, why didn't you get your all your stuff right after you broke up? This would have prevented this from happening. When my last ex and I ended, I TORE my house up looking for ANYTHING that may have been hers. I then texted her the next day to round my stuff up and I'd be there to return her stuff and pick my stuff up. I felt relief knowing I wouldn't have to potentially deal with returning or picking up anything down the road. You'll be fine. Yes, it will hurt for a day or two and you'll be right back on the road to recovery. 2
billion Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 That is a GOOD THING! Now, time for a CLEANSE, RESET! Happy Birthday, this year is going to be awesome! Life arranges things for the best! Forget this loser.
Author Jessamine Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 I'm are curious though, why didn't you get your all your stuff right after you broke up? This would have prevented this from happening. When my last ex and I ended, I TORE my house up looking for ANYTHING that may have been hers. I then texted her the next day to round my stuff up and I'd be there to return her stuff and pick my stuff up. I felt relief knowing I wouldn't have to potentially deal with returning or picking up anything down the road. He brought one bag to my house of stuff that couldn't be thrown out (like my glasses) but forgot to put this one in the car at the time. It's essentially just toiletries. I told him to toss them when he'd forgotten them. He lived an hour away, I wasn't going to go help find it. Just figured he'd thrown it out only to come home to it today.
pidgeon1010 Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Weird that he kept it and decided to return 3 months later. He was probably expecting you to chase after him and looks like this is his one last act of trying to claim some power over you. He is probably hoping you will say something. Do not give him the satisfaction. Good riddance to him and have a happy birthday.
aloneinaz Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 He brought one bag to my house of stuff that couldn't be thrown out (like my glasses) but forgot to put this one in the car at the time. It's essentially just toiletries. I told him to toss them when he'd forgotten them. He lived an hour away, I wasn't going to go help find it. Just figured he'd thrown it out only to come home to it today. Maybe he'd figure you'd contact him to ask about it? Either way, ignore, stay NC and you'll be fine.
thespacey1 Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 3 months later...an hour away to bring you some toiletries. That's obviously him fishing to try and signify and hope that you will contact him. Otherwise don't sweat it.
Author Jessamine Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 Eh. He only works about 15-20 mins from my house. I figure he either cleaned his place and just found it, or he's had it in the car and he was in my area for work and decided to stop, or he has a new girlfriend and had to get rid of it. And of course, since I'm depressed and that's the most hurtful option, that's what I feel is most likely.
Gus Grimly Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Eh. He only works about 15-20 mins from my house. I figure he either cleaned his place and just found it, or he's had it in the car and he was in my area for work and decided to stop, or he has a new girlfriend and had to get rid of it. And of course, since I'm depressed and that's the most hurtful option, that's what I feel is most likely. Ugh. That sucks, I can tell you're in a bad way and this just made it 10 times worse. Who knows what the motivation is. People don't usually consider the other's feelings when a breakup happens unless it was a mutual thing. Ya, I wouldn't respond. I know it kills you because it's yet another jab to your gut, but giving him a response would allow him power over you. 1
Author Jessamine Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 I couldn't respond even if I wanted, I have no idea what his number is anymore! I'm afraid I'm going to revert to dreaming about the breakup again. Have to get up in 4 hours but I'm afraid to try to sleep. Oh well.
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