stillafool Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 My life is actually pretty sad. I have "friends" but they rarely want anything to do with me. I only see them once or twice a month. I only live alone because my family doesn't want me around. I'm living in a house on my own because my step mother hates me and my mother can't stand me. I'm living in a house that my step family owns. I am a burden. Yes, I am very lonely. I can't call my dad about my problemd because my step mom won't let him help me with my issues. I'm not sure I'm ready for a relationship either but tbh, I don't think that I'll ever be ready. Why is this? What are you doing that makes them not want to spend time with you? I think you freaked your date out by: 1. Talking about your ex (never do that on a first date) 2. Inviting him in and then start crying because you're scared (of what?) 3. Aggressively kissing his neck and putting hickeys on his chest (why?) 4. Telling him you had a blood test (for what?) and you are scared. I think you need to find out why you can't make friends (maybe personal counseling of some sort) or have a relationship with your family.
Author batjokes92 Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 (edited) Why is this? What are you doing that makes them not want to spend time with you? I think you freaked your date out by: 1. Talking about your ex (never do that on a first date) 2. Inviting him in and then start crying because you're scared (of what?) 3. Aggressively kissing his neck and putting hickeys on his chest (why?) 4. Telling him you had a blood test (for what?) and you are scared. I think you need to find out why you can't make friends (maybe personal counseling of some sort) or have a relationship with your family. I do have a relationship with my family. It's not perfect but I try. I see my dad twice a week (I try to avoid my step mom because she gets mad that I say "like" too much!) and I see my brother almost every other day. He has a girlfriend though and he'd rather spend time with her than with me. My mom has bipolar disorder and I find it difficult to get along with her. I see my friends once or twice a month. It used to be more often. When I ask them if they have a problem with me they say they don't. I don't think I'm an attention seeking monster, I just have difficulty controlling my emotions. Edited July 28, 2015 by batjokes92
mimiMobile Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Why are a lot of people so hard on this girl? Who cares? So she is confused. Here is my rule of thumb - and I quote Patti S. if sex is ever initiated, I say the magic words: "No sex before monogamy," however you want to state it, it must be clear that sex = exclusivity. Otherwise, just feel it out, don't freak out, live in the moment, don't jump 10 steps ahead of him and treat each encounter as though it would be your last. My last 3 year relationship began with me assuming it wouldn't work out (I'm such a negative Nancy) and it worked to my advantage. I dated a rock star, attraction scale 10/10, had plenty of girls chasing him, and I think that's what initially made me think he would never keep pursuing me so I kept him at bay. Men like to chase and they like to feel loved and comfortable. Offer the chase and when he is around you make him feel at ease, drama free, and loved. You got this.
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