So far I've broken all of the OLD rules with this one......

[misspond]

My run of OLD dates have been pretty dreadful - not that I've done a lot, 10 dates in 5 years is pretty reserved I think.

 

Anyway the last but one was older, heavier and shorter than his profile and pics and so I disabled my account for a bit. The one that tried to grab me after walking me to my car and I told him to bugger off? Then I had a few drinks one night a couple of weeks later and thought, "Bugger it, you've got to be in it to win it..." and put it back up.

 

The next day I got a message from someone who had obviously read what I had to say and who when I looked at his profile wasn't what I would usually go for visually but his profile looked interesting. So I replied. That was three weeks ago.

 

Since then we've had daily text contact - funny, flirty, serious, engaging.....< and I've been conscious that communication via text can be misleading and a bad idea. We had one phone conversation and then went back to texting and I figured that he was obviously more confident via text than on the phone and probably in person.... I should add that he asked to meet me on the second day of texting and it took some wrangling to find a day where we were both free - I'm a single mum, he's a single dad, we both work etc...

 

I've had a very busy week, some major dental work on Thursday, my best friend's wedding on Saturday and then he and I were scheduled to meet on Sunday afternoon. I was pleasantly shocked, he looked like his photos, was a gentleman who was a bit flirty (he's flirtier via text) and responded well to my/our offbeat humour. We had awkward coffee and then I took him to play Dinosaur Crazy Golf where we laughed a lot. It also rained. After I thrashed him at Dinosaur Crazy Golf we went for beers and then I suggested we should meet again before we parted ways with a kiss on the cheek. We're going on a proper date on Friday.

 

TL;DR OLD message turns into long message fest results in a meet and greet, let's see what happens.

 

Have the "rules" of OLD (three emails, make the date, meet, decide to do it again or not?) applied to everyone?

[RoseVille]

I'm failing to see any "rules" here that were broken?

[misspond]

Don't get involved with a long textlationship. (No more than three emails, no lengthy texts).

[Jessie1231]

I had luck kind of like yours this past weekend also. I met a guy online, and we texted for about a week and a half before we were able to meet. It was lots of texts and calls getting to know each other, nothing too serious. But by the time we met Friday I did already feel quite comfortable with him.

 

Anyway we has such a good date Friday that we did it again Saturday and are supposed to have another one Wednesday. It of course could turn into a total train wreck, but so can any other relationship no matter how it starts.

 

I usually get bored with getting to know someone through text for more than a few days, but this one was able to hold my interest and was even better in person.

[misspond]

Exactly. I've had three weeks of lots of daily texts (we're not supposed to do that, right?) but it seemed to be the way this man operated and the when we met he was as he seemed to be, shy but dry/funny).

 

When I excused myself to go to the ladies he sent me a text to say, "Nice arse." We had joked that we should sit on opposite park benches and text rather than talk in person when we met. Instead we had a couple of beers after laughing about dinosaur crazy golf and it was all good. I quite like him, he seems to be a good single dad, and we're both in an older "should know better" place but we're still flirty but shy.

[misspond]

I wish you well for your Wednesday date Jessie1231, it's so refreshing to connect with someone IRL. When my date and I parted yesterday he said he'd let me know when he was free, and by 11am today he sent me his work/child free schedule for the the next month. I've found a babysitter for Friday of this week.

[Jessie1231]

I've done a bit of online dating and I really don't think it matters how long you message and text before you meet (I mean as long as it isn't years or something). I've had some that I met right off and liked and some that took a while and I didn't like. This one I was worried about meeting because he seemed great by text and phone, so I was a little more worried that in person he would suck. He seemed really great though. I'm keeping my fingers crossed.

 

Good luck on your Friday date!

[compulsivedancer]

I think maybe you just needed to get outside your comfort zone of guys you typically go for! Good for you! I hope it keeps going well.