AusGirl Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 Hi, I hope someone can help me. About 2 years ago i caught my Bf cheating...we are still together and now i find that i have trouble trusting him. I questin everything he does and i dont know how i can get over it coz it still makes me angry to this day. I love him with all my heart and just want this to go back to normal. Any suggestions?
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 Set up an appointment with a counselor to talk about your unresolved feelings and subsequent problems with trust after being betrayed. Better yet, maybe you could set up a couple's session. Seriously, those feelings you are having don't go away on their own - it takes a good deal of conscious goal-directed effort to ignore 'reminder triggers' and retrain your brain not to think in those terms, and sometimes it is easier when you have an objective third party like a counselor or therapist to help you out. I expect your b/f would benefit from it as well, as I'm sure he has his own fair share of unspoken frustrations.
Author AusGirl Posted May 9, 2005 Author Posted May 9, 2005 thanks for your advice. The only problem to that is i work full time and my bf has 2 jobs and goes to uni full time....niether of us can afford to either take a day off or pay for a session with a shrink...To make things worse he probably wouldnt go. Thanks anyway
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