m1234 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 (edited) Hi there, This is my first time posting to this, but I feel like I need some advice. I have been talking to this girl for over a month now, non stop, every single day for hours on end. It was a completely random thing, I added her on facebook and things just clicked. After the constant messaging, we decided to start chatting on the phone, and it became a habit, something I got used to every single day, we would chat multiple times a day, 1 hour, 2 hrs, 3 hrs, we even had a 5 hour conversation on the phone. She would always tell me she wasn't ready to meet me until 2016, which I understood and respected because I love talking to her. Her birthday happened to fall not so long ago, and she invited me to it. This would be our first meeting. I have never experienced this before, chatting to someone non-stop every single day, I met her at her birthday party on saturday 25th july. Things were great, I was so happy to finally meet her and I sensed the same from her. As the night came to a close, we left the venue together, caught a taxi, and were kissing pretty much the whole way home. We got back to my place where I agreed to give her a lift home, but she jumped into my bed and I joined her. You can guess what happened next. Anyway, we woke up early on Sunday, and she said she needed to get home, so I dropped her off, came back home and went to sleep. I was awoken by a call from her from which we spoke for over 2 hours. Last night we organised a meet up, she swung by mine and we went for a drive, firstly we stopped got out of the car and were hugging and kissing for about 20 mins, we then went for a very long drive. Things seemed to be going well, but I sensed on the way home something was on her mind. I questioned her about it, but she didnt want to talk about it, instead she said something along the lines of "the nicer you are the worse it is", she then leaned over and hugged me and we kissed multiple times, after that she said "better now"? I was confused by this, but I said goodbye and went inside. When I got home i texted her saying how much I enjoyed the night and a bit of other small talk, she thanked me for joining her and said goodnight. Today, I texted her saying "goodmorning hope you arent too tired at work today" and then said hope you're having a lovely day at work, as we were out very late last night. There was no response, she saw the message, I thought nothing of it as I know shes busy when shes at work. It got to around 3pm and I felt the need to call her, she is always on my mind, I think I am in love with this girl. I called her and she said she couldnt talk right now because shes very busy at work, I said ok no problem, then she said Ill talk to you later. Still heard nothing... Later tonight she uploaded the photos from her birthday onto facebook. It got to 11pm and still nothing, she was on my mind the whole time, I hadnt heard anything from her. I decided I had to try and call her again but there was no answer, So i sent a message saying hey you how are you? and told her my parents liked the pieces of cake she gave me yesterday. I know Im probably over thinking, but I feel really really uneasy about this, I've developed such a habit of talking to her every day to not hear from her feels odd. I dont know what to do, I cant get her out of my mind, I need her in my life and I know she feels the same way, but is hesitant, because of past relationships she has had, I dont want to rush things, but at the same time I dont want to lose her and I fear that. I feel like I cant keep texting her now, I know it has only been 1 day since we've spoken and you can call me crazy, but I can't handle it, its really hard on me, I cant stop thinking about her, Usually she would return my call, or text me back, somethings up. Any advice? where to from here? What if I dont hear from her? Ive never felt this way before for someone. Edited July 27, 2015 by m1234
blidow Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 She's obviously blowing you off. You'll probably never know the real reasons so don't even try going after her to tell you why so you can get "closure" that so many dumpees seek out. Stop contacting her. She's gotten the message. 1
Author m1234 Posted July 27, 2015 Author Posted July 27, 2015 She's obviously blowing you off. You'll probably never know the real reasons so don't even try going after her to tell you why so you can get "closure" that so many dumpees seek out. Stop contacting her. She's gotten the message. what do you mean!? I dont understand... Maybe she needs time to think? Why would she do all this stuff if she didnt really like me? We arent official or anything?
Author m1234 Posted July 27, 2015 Author Posted July 27, 2015 She's obviously blowing you off. You'll probably never know the real reasons so don't even try going after her to tell you why so you can get "closure" that so many dumpees seek out. Stop contacting her. She's gotten the message. I dont want closure, its only been a day.... I am just confused...why would she post pictures on facebook, I have a feeling she does like me...but is hesitant because of her past, and doesnt want to rush things. I dont think she is the type to totally blow me off.
highseas Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 Don't overthink it too much. It has only been a day or so. I know it may be unusual, but you had a long texting/chatting past and only recently got to the next level. Maybe she needs some time to think over things and take stock of the situation. I doubt that she suddenly stops liking you. But you need to give her some space and don't act like you can't live without her (even if that's how you feel!) Otherwise she may feel chocked by you and will yearn to be free.
Author m1234 Posted July 27, 2015 Author Posted July 27, 2015 Don't overthink it too much. It has only been a day or so. I know it may be unusual, but you had a long texting/chatting past and only recently got to the next level. Maybe she needs some time to think over things and take stock of the situation. I doubt that she suddenly stops liking you. But you need to give her some space and don't act like you can't live without her (even if that's how you feel!) Otherwise she may feel chocked by you and will yearn to be free. Yes, I was thinking that, because she did say to me that she does need to think about her feelings, honestly, I feel as though she may be a bit overwhelmed with things.
Learningtowalkagain Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 You text'd and called her twice and she didn't respond/blew you off when you did talk. You're coming off as needy. If you want this to work back off. Go spend time with your friends, do something to take your mind off her. Stop obsessing. She probably does like you, but maybe she's taking a step back at the moment because she thinks things are moving too fast. Next contact between you two 100% needs to be initiated by her. I wouldn't answer her call or reply to her text until the next day. If she likes you she's not just going to never contact you again. More than likely when she doesn't hear from you she's going to start thinking "what the heck". That's good. In modern relationships, the person who cares less has the power. Sucks but it's true.
travelbug1996 Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 fall back a little bit. She seems a little overwhelmed and crowded. I would wait 3 days for a call then ask her out.
Author m1234 Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 fall back a little bit. She seems a little overwhelmed and crowded. I would wait 3 days for a call then ask her out. But people seem to think I shouldn't get in contact with her again, as I've already messaged and called. Anyways, today is the 2nd day, nothing so far.
Author m1234 Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 Ok so its been a 2 days now, still heard nothing? should i be worrying?
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