norudder Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 How often do you communicate with a new date between seeing each other? I met someone online and conversation went well enough to set a IRL date but he was in touch every single day via text. General good mornings hope your day is going well etc, called me hun, but to me it felt weird since we hadn't actually even met yet. Like he was treating me like I'm already a girlfriend. We had date this weekend and I just wasn't really feeling it. But all the communication prior makes me feel a little guilty. So 1. Was that kinda normal or no? 2. How to handle his next text? Should I directly say thank you for the first date but I don't see this going anywhere?
Toodaloo Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 Personally I like to have contact every 1-2 days between dates in the early stages. Both just before and after meeting. However if you have met and your not "feeling it" I think you need to tell him so he can move on. No point crying over spilt milk and also no point keeping him hanging. If you don't want to see him again. Ring him and tell him that you are sorry but you are just not feeling a connection, thank him for the date and tell him you want to leave it there. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 After physical misrepresentation, it's the biggest problem w-OLD. Instead of getting together right away, people delay the meet and text endlessly. Ultimately though, it's a waste of time. As you saw OP, it has no effect on how you actually get along. The worst part is that people get attached and let down when their expectations aren't met. I exchange 2-3 emails on day one. Get her number and call on day one. Then I set up a meet for 24-48hrs later. This eliminates texting and expectations. Real chemistry happens by being in the moment when you interact in person.
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