xxoo Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 I was mad bc he was being serious I think if he was joking he would have said that in his defense. He doesn't touch or grab them at all unless I tell him to. There is a lot that can be done. Why do you want him to touch them more? Is it because it would give you pleasure that you are missing? Or is it because you need reassurance that your breasts are sexy? Do you need sexy breasts to be sexy? What does it mean/not mean to have sexy breasts? Think bigger. And I don't mean bigger breast size 1
stillafool Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 I confronted him about what he said he tried to deny what he said at first. Then he apologized. He said I loved you before I saw you naked. If you had to have a mastectomy I would still be with you bc you are smart funny and kind your body is amazing but I didn't fall in love with you for that. He tried to down play it. One time he was drunk and said your body is so perfect I love your legs and ass and how small you are. I was thinking um thanks I'm glad you like my tits too. After we argued about this he said he doesn't think I should get implants bc I have an unhealthy body image. I think that's bs I was just calling him out on being a dick to me. Part of the reason I was so mad at him and his comments is I was going to get implants before I met him but I spent a lot of money and took time off work to spend time with him bc he doesn't live near me. I feel like the least he could do is not make me feel like **** considering I postponed having surgery so I could be with him. I told him I never want to talk to him again and he said please don't do that and he said he's looking forward to spending my bday w me and giving me presents. I feel like I will always resent him as long as I have small boobs or as long as he prefers big ones. I know he can't help his personal preference he is not my physical ideal either. I told him we should both find other people who fit our ideals both physically and non physically and he said that's not what he wants. This wouldn't be such a big deal if he would just be more considerate of my feelings and not make stupid comments. Him hardly touching them ever just makes me feel like he is not really attracted to me. All of the guys I dated love big tits and they still played with mine. I don't even want him to touch me at this point. I get the notion he likes to show me off bc I'm pretty and fit. He tells me I'm the hottest girl ever I hate when he says that it's a lie. He also says I'm way hotter than other girls he dated. He is very touchy with me sometimes but he just doesn't like my tits. What he fails to realize is if he doesn't stop being a dick I could go be with one of the many guys who would love to take me off his hands. Oh, sorry I just read this post by you and given what you say above I think you two should break up and find other people. Good luck!
Author jessiejae Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 Why do you want him to touch them more? Is it because it would give you pleasure that you are missing? Or is it because you need reassurance that your breasts are sexy? Do you need sexy breasts to be sexy? What does it mean/not mean to have sexy breasts? Think bigger. And I don't mean bigger breast size I want him to touch them bc it turns me on but I also find it unusual that he never does i want him to touch them bc he finds them desirable not bc I told him to right now I'm at the point where I don't want him to touch me at all
xxoo Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 I want him to touch them bc it turns me on but I also find it unusual that he never does i want him to touch them bc he finds them desirable not bc I told him to right now I'm at the point where I don't want him to touch me at all Ok, but what if there is another body part of yours that brings him more pleasure and arousal to touch? Or maybe he doesn't want to focus on one body part at all, and rather wants to connect with you on a whole level? You should definitely direct him to your breasts if it turns you on, but why does that body part have to specifically turn him on?
hotpotato Posted July 30, 2015 Posted July 30, 2015 You seem to know a lot about boob jobs. A couple of serious questions: Do you think a boob job can change the quality of your relationship? How would feel about a man who liked you more after a boob job? 1)I dont know if it can change the quality if the relationship, but the sex can def get better! 2)Im cool with it. I understand that some guys just like big teddies!!!! Im sure he loved me before but wiuld now be more attracted to my breasts. I dont consider boob jobs different from say bootybuilding. If i have a large round butt, more guys are gonna ve turned on. Blame evolution, i guess.
hotpotato Posted July 30, 2015 Posted July 30, 2015 im average height and full 32c I might actually wear a 32d I wear a size 0 but my shoulders are a little broad so I think that detracts from how big they actually are I mainly want implants bc of the shape or I want some fullness (I'm not even super saggy maybe a little but nothing unusual for my size) after losing almost 30 lbs I went from a 34 d to the size I am now. I will not gain weight to get bigger boobs bc I tend to carry weight in my stomach, arms and back too I don't want the trade off. Once I cut some more body fat I will prob be just a 32c or hardly a 32c but I will have abs. They're closer to medium than small so idk why he finds them so undesirable. Before I met him once the pushup bra came off I still had guys go gaga over them so idk what his problem is he must be into huge tits. He makes me feel like I'm extra small to a normal guy I am a handful or a little less but to him I'm not. Yes, hes probably into huge breasts. I hope you can find some kind of peace! im sure he loves you. Im very sorry you are in this,situation.
hotpotato Posted July 30, 2015 Posted July 30, 2015 The trans areola incision increases your risk of having breastfeeding problems as the incision can damage some of the breast tissue and obliterate the ducts. Personally if I wished to have implants and breast feed, I would avoid this incision. It can also be highly visible too and although the scars usually fade, if you were to get infection, then it is not a great place to have bad scarring. There is a risk with any surgery. Plenty of women breastfeed just fine. I think op would be better off going to a boobie forum so she can see the good and vad and not get one sided fearmongering.
Gaeta Posted July 30, 2015 Posted July 30, 2015 im average height and full 32c I might actually wear a 32d I wear a size 0 but my shoulders are a little broad so I think that detracts from how big they actually are I mainly want implants bc of the shape or I want some fullness (I'm not even super saggy maybe a little but nothing unusual for my size) after losing almost 30 lbs I went from a 34 d to the size I am now. I will not gain weight to get bigger boobs bc I tend to carry weight in my stomach, arms and back too I don't want the trade off. Once I cut some more body fat I will prob be just a 32c or hardly a 32c but I will have abs. They're closer to medium than small so idk why he finds them so undesirable. Before I met him once the pushup bra came off I still had guys go gaga over them so idk what his problem is he must be into huge tits. He makes me feel like I'm extra small to a normal guy I am a handful or a little less but to him I'm not. You have to watch for what you're wishing for. I am a cup DD. My boobs are too big for my waist therefore I can NEVER find clothes that fits properly. If I buy something that fits at the waist then my breasts are popping out, if I buy something fitted at the bust then the waist is too big. I can never buy a top with buttons!!! ever. 75% of clothes in the stores don't fit me properly because of that. It's hard to find clothes, hard to find bras, harder to find bathing suits!! You know those nice nitewear shops for ladies? FORGET about it! Nothing in there is made for D and up. So put a cross on those cute little bras with design on them. You will be stuck in the world of wonderbra with underwire for the rest of your life. I'm not talking about people constantly meeting your boobs before they meet you. Or 99.9% of men assuming you are slvtty because you have big boobs and I am skipping the back pain and the permanent strap marks on your shoulders. Be happy with your b-c. Having your boyfriend grab your D twice a week for 30 minutes is not worth the trouble those will bring you in your day to day life.
hotpotato Posted July 30, 2015 Posted July 30, 2015 ...This is why i say go to a boobie specialty forum... Some girls go up to ds and beyond and dont need to buy new clothes. Some do. If you go up to 32m youll probably have issues. Bigger bras are easy to find if you know where to look-dillards, nordstroms, etc. They have brands like wacoal, 1st and curves, etc that make sizes like 30ddd and 34j. If someone is like a 32dd, vs even has that size. A lot of girls like polish bras. A lot of big busted bras are in the $40-$65, which is,what ive been payin for vs bras. I have a wacoal 34g (yes,g, not a typo) bra. I paid $40something at dillards.com. its beautiful and lively. Dillards also has sales like vs. Now if i can findg,h,i,j,k cup bras, theres no reason someone cant find 30band up dds. Its hard to find 30 and under bands but thats true anywhere. Plenty of girls still shop at target and walmart if they want. Someone has to be really big to have difficulty finding clothes. Like i said, i knew a girl who was huge and always dressed cute. I mean huge as having actually melons...A lot of girls dont need to buy new clothes. It varies from woman to woman. A lot of women say their clothes just fit better. Ymmv type thing. All that about you cant dress cute or beautiful bras is just not true. If we dont want the girl to have boob implants we should just say so, instead of telling her she will only be able to wear granny bras! Also, strap marks and back pain are telltale signs of wearing THE WRONG BRA. Most girls on implant sites are encouraged to go to sillards, nordstroms, or a specialty site to get fitted. A lot of times this is corrected by wearing the correct size.
hotpotato Posted July 30, 2015 Posted July 30, 2015 You have to watch for what you're wishing for. I am a cup DD. My boobs are too big for my waist therefore I can NEVER find clothes that fits properly. If I buy something that fits at the waist then my breasts are popping out, if I buy something fitted at the bust then the waist is too big. I can never buy a top with buttons!!! ever. 75% of clothes in the stores don't fit me properly because of that. It's hard to find clothes, hard to find bras, harder to find bathing suits!! You know those nice nitewear shops for ladies? FORGET about it! Nothing in there is made for D and up. So put a cross on those cute little bras with design on them. You will be stuck in the world of wonderbra with underwire for the rest of your life. I'm not talking about people constantly meeting your boobs before they meet you. Or 99.9% of men assuming you are slvtty because you have big boobs and I am skipping the back pain and the permanent strap marks on your shoulders. Be happy with your b-c. Having your boyfriend grab your D twice a week for 30 minutes is not worth the trouble those will bring you in your day to day life. That's most likely because you are wearing the wrong bra. The strap is holding the weight of your breasts. The band is supposed to hold most of the weight and provide most of the support, 85% if i remember correctly. You have straps digging into you because youre wearing the wrong bra, NOT just because you are big breasted. I'm saying this esp for people like op who may believe ill fitting bras come with the territory, by default.
Author jessiejae Posted July 30, 2015 Author Posted July 30, 2015 so after thinking about it this isn't really important. I had something terrible happen to me and he was there for me it made me realize none of this really matters he loves me for me. honestly I'm attracted to women I think big boobs look better v small ones but when it comes to the total package it is possible for the woman with a smaller chest to be more attractive if she has a pretty face and overall better body. his hair and eye color are the opposite of what I prefer but I still find him attractive. aside from that he is everything I ever wanted in a guy. he is absolutely crazy about me everyone tells me I'm all he ever talks about. he always brags about how attractive I am. But he said I could be half as pretty as I am and he would still love me just as much. That's what really matters. I will get implants eventually but right now it's not urgent. I will say after going from a 34d to a 32c smaller boobs are more comfy I didn't realize how heavy they were until I lost weight. Also after thinking about it he isn't much into foreplay he is straight to the point so maybe that's why he doesn't touch them much he doesn't really touch me much during sex anywhere. 3
Gary S Posted July 30, 2015 Posted July 30, 2015 Men are attracted to bigger ones. However, at the end of the day, it's only one of 1,000 things they like about you, so you are overthinking it, literally. What he said is true: He always tells me I'm the hottest girl he dated and the best in bed. He brags to his friends about how hot I am too. The other day he randomly sent me a text saying he loves me the way I am and he doesn't care if I get implants or not. - By the way, I'm not in favor of surgery for breast enhancement.
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