hotpotato Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 That sounds like a perfect size for a size 0! I wouldn't dare get implants if you are that slim and already have a decent sized chest. Why not just gain some weight back to a size 2 or 4? Big boobs on a very slim woman doesn't look right. Many titty men would beg to differ lol In fact plenty of guys like vulumptuous curves. Thats just how nature programmed them. I dont think its fair to say slim women dont look good with big boobs. If i said i said the inverse, peoples heads would explode. There are plenty of slim large breasted girls who look fabulous, natural or enhanced. I knew a girl with naturally very large breasts. I never heard menfolk complaining. Im not sayin op should get boobies for a man, but hayzus titty men love them some titties. I really had no idea...
SammySammy Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Something about this doesn't sound right to me. I'm a boob man too. Never seen a pair ... in person ... that I didn't like. However, I've always realized that I have to love the WOMAN I'm with not her body parts. I've dated slim, curvaceous, small boobs, large boobs ... you name it. They were all very feminine, very sexy, very ... womanly ... uniquely beautiful in their own way though they may not have had a particular body part that I found ideal. I'm quite sure I was never ideal for any of the women I've been with either. I think you should slow down the marriage talk. Take some time to get to know him better. A few months is not enough time. Make sure he loves you for you and not because you have the perfect boobs or perfect eye color. Things like that should not be considerations when you're talking about marrying somebody. 1
bubbaganoosh Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 I've been married twice. Have dated my share of women in my life, no more, no less then any other guy but I do know this. If any of the women that came and went in my life ever found out that I told my friends about her moves in bed, they would have hunted my ass down like a crazed dog. 3
hotpotato Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 When I first met my bf we were having a casual conversation he mentioned he has big hands so he likes big boobs for grabbing. When we have sex he rarely touches my boobs. He saw an old pic of me when they were bigger and he mentioned they were nice. I told him I'm going to cut body fat so they will get smaller and he said that's fine. He always tells me I'm the hottest girl he dated and the best in bed. He brags to his friends about how hot I am too. I told him I want implants. One day we were laying in bed and he said so what size implants do you want. I didn't answer. He then said can I tit **** you after you get them. When I wear a pushup bra he oogles them and grabs at them more. But sometimes he doesn't even take my bra/shirt off during sex he only touches my boobs if I tell him to. The other day he randomly sent me a text saying he loves me the way I am and he doesn't care if I get implants or not. I'm getting implants soon once we are married so idk if I should make a big deal about this but I can't help but feel like wtf in the mean time. I just feel like if they were bigger he would behave differently. I've had this,too, when I told men. At first it's how big do you want to go. Then it's DAYUM that hot. Then they come back with basically, "Oh yeah you look ok now." That kind of reaction isn't uncommon. A lot of men prefer larger breasts, but they don't want you to feel bad. *shrug*
blueskyday Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 (edited) I'm curvy, but small. My bra size is a 32 C or 34 B. I think most guys like the overall shape of a woman, and of course, the woman herself. Never had a guy complain, even from a few boob men. Most guys I date are butt guys, which is my secret weapon! Really, though, I want a guy to like all of me, so if he said he wished my boobs were bigger, I I would be be crushed..and pissed! See ya! Even if a guy thought that, what an idiot to say it and to not override the thought in his head anyway. I always say, appreciate me or someone else will. So, tell him you'd like him to have a bigger d&ck, but you like him the way he is. Get a boob job if you want, but I bet you look awesome as you are. I wonder what his reaction would be if you told him you aren't getting one. Hopefully, he'd say good! You're perfect. I'd like to think a guy I was dating would discourage me from getting one, and maybe your guy did that when he said he likes you the way you are. Just talk to him. Edited July 28, 2015 by blueskyday
d0nnivain Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 . I am a small c full b and I have a small frame I wear a size 0 so I'm not completely flat I just want a minor improvement everyone should try to look their best and improve in anyway they can. Looking your best is fine. C+ boobs on a size 0 frame will make you look out of proportion & cartoon like, not sexy. Any reputable surgeon will discourage you from getting the procedure. However there are tons of quacks out there who will take your money.
DaisyBug Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 (edited) Looking your best is fine. C+ boobs on a size 0 frame will make you look out of proportion & cartoon like, not sexy. Any reputable surgeon will discourage you from getting the procedure. However there are tons of quacks out there who will take your money. Absolutely. Even celebrities with all their millions and access to the very BEST cosmetic surgeons in the world can have botched implants. Be careful where you get your "research" from. 25-40% of women who get boob jobs need another procedure to fix the first one. There are no guarantees in plastic surgery and any corrections to be made have to be paid for by YOU. Also, any complications from your implants are not covered by health insurance. Also, they DO need to be replaced every 10 to 15 years before complications, because the container loses strength and becomes fragile by this time, and serious fall on your chest can cause a rupture. Please think twice. If you were fixing an actual deformity, I could see it, but your breasts sound just fine, and you could end up with breasts you are ashamed of, depending how they turn out. Can you afford to pay for a second surgery?! Edited July 28, 2015 by DaisyBug 2
elaine567 Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Your bf has basically said he doesn't want you to get breast implants, believe him - not all men like "fake" and some don't like the feeling of implants either. Your sensation may be changed after surgery and the implants may affect breast feeding too if you want kids and want to breast feed. Plastic surgery can go wrong, are you prepared for bad scarring if it does go wrong? Sounds like your breasts are not that small either. Think very carefully here. 3
hotpotato Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Looking your best is fine. C+ boobs on a size 0 frame will make you look out of proportion & cartoon like, not sexy. Any reputable surgeon will discourage you from getting the procedure. However there are tons of quacks out there who will take your money. Well thats not what a lot of boob men think. She'd have to be up in the 30j, 30k range before looking remotely cartoonish. Let's say she goes up to a 30dd. If OP is a size 0, she might really be a 30D not a 34b/32c. That's not really that big. I think people just hear "dd" or "d" and think cartoon. Cartoon is more like in the j,k range,l range (yes these are real sizes lol) like Jordan Carver(30k) or Mia Zarring(34k). Heck, these's a member on ls who is a 32dd, and she does not look cartoonish in the least. I knew a girl who was an g cup easy, probably like a 32h. I didn't hear any dudes complaining. In this situation, it's mostly girls who say something about curvy women looking 'cartoonish' or "out of proportion' or whatever. Many reputable surgeons will happily give her a boost. Most women get just that, a 350cc boost. I do think op should go on a forum specifically for boobies and find a surgeon, but if she has already put down a deposit, it's too late for that. Also, there are surgeons who are specialize in the cartoonish look. They are not quacks, they are providing a market service. Some of them have been surgeons (not just boobies) for years and are double board certified.
hotpotato Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Your bf has basically said he doesn't want you to get breast implants, believe him - not all men like "fake" and some don't like the feeling of implants either. Your sensation may be changed after surgery and the implants may affect breast feeding too if you want kids and want to breast feed. Plastic surgery can go wrong, are you prepared for bad scarring if it does go wrong? Sounds like your breasts are not that small either. Think very carefully here. It sounds like her guy loves her and can live with her boobs but isn't crazy about them. Sounds like Op feels this way, Op Jessie please correct me if I'm wrong. As a butter boobs, I can relate to her. Guys say one thing, then react another way as in, "Gd you're gonna get big boobs" then say "Oh, oh ya your boobs are ok." This isn't something guys can help. People like what they like. That's because most guys or people don't know what implants feel like. Some girls even say the implant is softer than their natural tissue after drop and fluff. Some girls do lose sensation, but not all. Nowadays, there's tuba incisions (belly buttons). Areola incision heal quickly. I'm dark complected, and I'm getting areola or tuba. usually the doc will give scarsguard or something for marks esp for crease. When people think implants they usually think those hard look, cantaloupes. You have to *try* to get that look with overfilled saline implants over the muscles. Saline overs do have more push back than regular boobs. a lot of problems can be avoided by going to the right surgeon. I'd never pick a surgeons bc he/she was really cheap, was down the road, or for whatever reason seemed convenient.
hotpotato Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Absolutely. Even celebrities with all their millions and access to the very BEST cosmetic surgeons in the world can have botched implants. Be careful where you get your "research" from. 25-40% of women who get boob jobs need another procedure to fix the first one. There are no guarantees in plastic surgery and any corrections to be made have to be paid for by YOU. Also, any complications from your implants are not covered by health insurance. Also, they DO need to be replaced every 10 to 15 years before complications, because the container loses strength and becomes fragile by this time, and serious fall on your chest can cause a rupture. Please think twice. If you were fixing an actual deformity, I could see it, but your breasts sound just fine, and you could end up with breasts you are ashamed of, depending how they turn out. Can you afford to pay for a second surgery?! Yes, OP, just go to a boobie forum lol Depending the surgeon, you can get free revision ater 6 mos. You may still have to pay hospital feels, travel fees, and such. The problem some girls have is that one dr will botch them then they have to shell out thousands to go to another dr. This can be mostly avoided by picking the right one the first time. A lot of women get revisions to go bigger, not because of complications. No, no no, implants do not necessarily need to be replaced every 10 to 15 years. There are lot of factors as to how often they need to be replace. Like if you are a female wrestler or take a lot of bumps, then it would def be a good idea to replace them 7-10 years. Nowadays, a lot of drs say if there's nothing wrong, don't replace them. Yes, you'll be able to breast feed. No, mri every year or two isn't necessary. That was only recommended bc the silicone was new on the market. The silicone of nowadays is more cohesive, and no one was sure of failure rates. Nowadays plastic surgeons or moving away from the mri suggestions. I know someone gonna bring this up.
SammySammy Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Yes, OP, just go to a boobie forum lol Depending the surgeon, you can get free revision ater 6 mos. You may still have to pay hospital feels, travel fees, and such. The problem some girls have is that one dr will botch them then they have to shell out thousands to go to another dr. This can be mostly avoided by picking the right one the first time. A lot of women get revisions to go bigger, not because of complications. No, no no, implants do not necessarily need to be replaced every 10 to 15 years. There are lot of factors as to how often they need to be replace. Like if you are a female wrestler or take a lot of bumps, then it would def be a good idea to replace them 7-10 years. Nowadays, a lot of drs say if there's nothing wrong, don't replace them. Yes, you'll be able to breast feed. No, mri every year or two isn't necessary. That was only recommended bc the silicone was new on the market. The silicone of nowadays is more cohesive, and no one was sure of failure rates. Nowadays plastic surgeons or moving away from the mri suggestions. I know someone gonna bring this up. You seem to know a lot about boob jobs. A couple of serious questions: Do you think a boob job can change the quality of your relationship? How would feel about a man who liked you more after a boob job?
elaine567 Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Yes, you'll be able to breast feed. The trans areola incision increases your risk of having breastfeeding problems as the incision can damage some of the breast tissue and obliterate the ducts. Personally if I wished to have implants and breast feed, I would avoid this incision. It can also be highly visible too and although the scars usually fade, if you were to get infection, then it is not a great place to have bad scarring.
Author jessiejae Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 (edited) I confronted him about what he said he tried to deny what he said at first. Then he apologized. He said I loved you before I saw you naked. If you had to have a mastectomy I would still be with you bc you are smart funny and kind your body is amazing but I didn't fall in love with you for that. He tried to down play it. One time he was drunk and said your body is so perfect I love your legs and ass and how small you are. I was thinking um thanks I'm glad you like my tits too. After we argued about this he said he doesn't think I should get implants bc I have an unhealthy body image. I think that's bs I was just calling him out on being a dick to me. Part of the reason I was so mad at him and his comments is I was going to get implants before I met him but I spent a lot of money and took time off work to spend time with him bc he doesn't live near me. I feel like the least he could do is not make me feel like **** considering I postponed having surgery so I could be with him. I told him I never want to talk to him again and he said please don't do that and he said he's looking forward to spending my bday w me and giving me presents. I feel like I will always resent him as long as I have small boobs or as long as he prefers big ones. I know he can't help his personal preference he is not my physical ideal either. I told him we should both find other people who fit our ideals both physically and non physically and he said that's not what he wants. This wouldn't be such a big deal if he would just be more considerate of my feelings and not make stupid comments. Him hardly touching them ever just makes me feel like he is not really attracted to me. All of the guys I dated love big tits and they still played with mine. I don't even want him to touch me at this point. I get the notion he likes to show me off bc I'm pretty and fit. He tells me I'm the hottest girl ever I hate when he says that it's a lie. He also says I'm way hotter than other girls he dated. He is very touchy with me sometimes but he just doesn't like my tits. What he fails to realize is if he doesn't stop being a dick I could go be with one of the many guys who would love to take me off his hands. Edited July 28, 2015 by jessiejae
Author jessiejae Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 (edited) im average height and full 32c I might actually wear a 32d I wear a size 0 but my shoulders are a little broad so I think that detracts from how big they actually are I mainly want implants bc of the shape or I want some fullness (I'm not even super saggy maybe a little but nothing unusual for my size) after losing almost 30 lbs I went from a 34 d to the size I am now. I will not gain weight to get bigger boobs bc I tend to carry weight in my stomach, arms and back too I don't want the trade off. Once I cut some more body fat I will prob be just a 32c or hardly a 32c but I will have abs. They're closer to medium than small so idk why he finds them so undesirable. Before I met him once the pushup bra came off I still had guys go gaga over them so idk what his problem is he must be into huge tits. He makes me feel like I'm extra small to a normal guy I am a handful or a little less but to him I'm not. Edited July 28, 2015 by jessiejae
stillafool Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 He always tells me I'm the hottest girl he dated and the best in bed. He brags to his friends about how hot I am too. I told him I want implants. One day we were laying in bed and he said so what size implants do you want. He has already told you you are the hottest girl he's ever dated. So I would say he's attracted to you. Second, you were the one who brought up getting a boob job and then are upset because he asked you what size are you getting? I don't understand why you are upset. If you like your boobs why are you getting a boob job?
Author jessiejae Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 He has already told you you are the hottest girl he's ever dated. So I would say he's attracted to you. Second, you were the one who brought up getting a boob job and then are upset because he asked you what size are you getting? I don't understand why you are upset. If you like your boobs why are you getting a boob job? I'm upset bc we were laying in bed and he randomly said what size are you getting I didn't answer then he said after you get them can I tit **** you that pissed me off bc he never touches what I have now. I already stated I'm happy with my size but not fullness or shape. If they were perfectly shaped and small it would be no prob to stay natural. I lost almost 30 lbs and went from a 34d to a full 32c/small32d.
Walters Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 You said When I first met my bf we were having a casual conversation he mentioned he has big hands so he likes big boobs for grabbing. When we have sex he rarely touches my boobs. He saw an old pic of me when they were bigger and he mentioned they were nice. I told him I'm going to cut body fat so they will get smaller and he said that's fine. He always tells me I'm the hottest girl he dated and the best in bed. He brags to his friends about how hot I am too.[/Quote] Casual conversation and he said he liked boobs of a specific nature, you then procedure to take it as an insult even though he likes you no matter what. You then confront him about it (with anger) which pulls him on the defensive so he tries to correct the situation only to make it worse for you. You then tell him you never want to see him again. You don't think this is an overreaction? I believe you are over analyzing this comment. It was just a conversation that you seem to have taken the wrong way.
Author jessiejae Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 You said Casual conversation and he said he liked boobs of a specific nature, you then procedure to take it as an insult even though he likes you no matter what. You then confront him about it (with anger) which pulls him on the defensive so he tries to correct the situation only to make it worse for you. You then tell him you never want to see him again. You don't think this is an overreaction? I believe you are over analyzing this comment. It was just a conversation that you seem to have taken the wrong way. he said that to me when he first met me I didn't like it but it didn't bother me I was fine for months until he randomly said what size implants do you want after you get them can I tit **** you. I was mad bc he pays 0 attention to my boobs now. Maybe I did overreact to the situation but he was being stupid.
xxoo Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 I think he likes you the way you are, including your breasts, and you should stop talking to him about boob jobs because it is feeding your insecurity. I highly advise you think about about your breasts a lot less. You'll be better off. Is intimacy satisfying? If so, why does it matter how much he plays with your breasts, specifically?
d0nnivain Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Ihe said he doesn't think I should get implants bc I have an unhealthy body image. On the off chance that you might have an unhealthy body image, (because honestly I have concerns about your level of self esteem from your post) address this before you have surgery. 1
elaine567 Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 After we argued about this he said he doesn't think I should get implants bc I have an unhealthy body image. I guess he is right, after reading this rant from you
Walters Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 he said that to me when he first met me I didn't like it but it didn't bother me I was fine for months until he randomly said what size implants do you want after you get them can I tit **** you. I was mad bc he pays 0 attention to my boobs now. Maybe I did overreact to the situation but he was being stupid. I understand but in what context? was he joking or keeping a light mood about it? If my other half told me she wanted a boob job I would ask her what size she wants. I don't feel she needs one but if its something she wanted that's her call to make (within reason saying size JJ or something crazy is not reasonable). I could make a joke saying I would tit **** her and we would laugh about it. I cant imagine a problem with any of this. Especially if we already had several conversations about how it was NOT necessary. IMO I'm supporting your choice. On the topic that he does nothing with them, what should he do? I am not sure there is much outside of grabbing and visual stimulation. I am sure there are some clever things we can think of, but typically its not the area that gets a lot of attention outside of two things I mentioned.
Author jessiejae Posted July 28, 2015 Author Posted July 28, 2015 I understand but in what context? was he joking or keeping a light mood about it? If my other half told me she wanted a boob job I would ask her what size she wants. I don't feel she needs one but if its something she wanted that's her call to make (within reason saying size JJ or something crazy is not reasonable). I could make a joke saying I would tit **** her and we would laugh about it. I cant imagine a problem with any of this. Especially if we already had several conversations about how it was NOT necessary. IMO I'm supporting your choice. On the topic that he does nothing with them, what should he do? I am not sure there is much outside of grabbing and visual stimulation. I am sure there are some clever things we can think of, but typically its not the area that gets a lot of attention outside of two things I mentioned. I was mad bc he was being serious I think if he was joking he would have said that in his defense. He doesn't touch or grab them at all unless I tell him to. There is a lot that can be done.
stillafool Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 I'm upset bc we were laying in bed and he randomly said what size are you getting I didn't answer then he said after you get them can I tit **** you that pissed me off bc he never touches what I have now. I already stated I'm happy with my size but not fullness or shape. If they were perfectly shaped and small it would be no prob to stay natural. I lost almost 30 lbs and went from a 34d to a full 32c/small32d. I had small breasts when I was younger and it is hard to tit**** them at that size. I wanted it so bad but that size wouldn't really allow it. Still just because he asked what size you were getting is no reason to be angry. You were the one who wanted the boob job.
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