jessiejae Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 When I first met my bf we were having a casual conversation he mentioned he has big hands so he likes big boobs for grabbing. When we have sex he rarely touches my boobs. He saw an old pic of me when they were bigger and he mentioned they were nice. I told him I'm going to cut body fat so they will get smaller and he said that's fine. He always tells me I'm the hottest girl he dated and the best in bed. He brags to his friends about how hot I am too. I told him I want implants. One day we were laying in bed and he said so what size implants do you want. I didn't answer. He then said can I tit **** you after you get them. When I wear a pushup bra he oogles them and grabs at them more. But sometimes he doesn't even take my bra/shirt off during sex he only touches my boobs if I tell him to. The other day he randomly sent me a text saying he loves me the way I am and he doesn't care if I get implants or not. I'm getting implants soon once we are married so idk if I should make a big deal about this but I can't help but feel like wtf in the mean time. I just feel like if they were bigger he would behave differently.
Redhead14 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 When I first met my bf we were having a casual conversation he mentioned he has big hands so he likes big boobs for grabbing. When we have sex he rarely touches my boobs. He saw an old pic of me when they were bigger and he mentioned they were nice. I told him I'm going to cut body fat so they will get smaller and he said that's fine. He always tells me I'm the hottest girl he dated and the best in bed. He brags to his friends about how hot I am too. I told him I want implants. One day we were laying in bed and he said so what size implants do you want. I didn't answer. He then said can I tit **** you after you get them. When I wear a pushup bra he oogles them and grabs at them more. But sometimes he doesn't even take my bra/shirt off during sex he only touches my boobs if I tell him to. The other day he randomly sent me a text saying he loves me the way I am and he doesn't care if I get implants or not. I'm getting implants soon once we are married so idk if I should make a big deal about this but I can't help but feel like wtf in the mean time. I just feel like if they were bigger he would behave differently. How long have you been dating? What is your dating history with him? What is your current relationship status -- exclusive, boyfriend/girlfriend, engaged? Is he showing you in other ways that he loves you? And, how old are the two of you?
PegNosePete Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 He talked about grabbing your boobs when you first met? That sounds like a basis for a solid marriage..... So if they were bigger, would you really want him to behave differently? Most women would say they don't want to be judged on appearance or body shape. Most confident, happy women would tell him that he can love you as you are, or take a flying leap. Never undergo major surgery to please someone else! 6
Author jessiejae Posted July 27, 2015 Author Posted July 27, 2015 How long have you been dating? What is your dating history with him? What is your current relationship status -- exclusive, boyfriend/girlfriend, engaged? Is he showing you in other ways that he loves you? And, how old are the two of you? We've been together for a few months he said I'm the love of his life his soulmate. That he's never loved anyone or felt this way before. We are bf gf he keeps hinting around that he's proposing for my bday which is coming soon. He asked my ring size and showed me a few rings asking which one I like. I said you better give me a nice bday present and he gave me a sneaky smile he joked if he proposes for my bday it will be easy to remember our engagement anniversary. He's asked me idk how many times will I say yes if he asks I think he's scared I'll say no. We are 27.
Author jessiejae Posted July 27, 2015 Author Posted July 27, 2015 He talked about grabbing your boobs when you first met? That sounds like a basis for a solid marriage..... So if they were bigger, would you really want him to behave differently? Most women would say they don't want to be judged on appearance or body shape. Most confident, happy women would tell him that he can love you as you are, or take a flying leap. Never undergo major surgery to please someone else! We were talking about physical preferences when we first met. We are both very open minded and upfront. He was a perfect gentleman on our first date and we didn't have sex right away. I planned the surgery before I met him so it's not to please him. 1
Redhead14 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 We've been together for a few months he said I'm the love of his life his soulmate. That he's never loved anyone or felt this way before. We are bf gf he keeps hinting around that he's proposing for my bday which is coming soon. He asked my ring size and showed me a few rings asking which one I like. I said you better give me a nice bday present and he gave me a sneaky smile he joked if he proposes for my bday it will be easy to remember our engagement anniversary. He's asked me idk how many times will I say yes if he asks I think he's scared I'll say no. We are 27. Is he generally affectionate with you? Does he initiate any kind of foreplay or does he always just "go for it". And, how long is a few months? Men who skip the foreplay and aren't affectionate otherwise sometimes are not very emotionally invested in the woman. They care for them, they may talk about the future, etc. but really aren't as invested as they may seem. How did he date you in the beginning? Was he consistent with scheduling and keeping dates? Was the communication between dates consistent and of quality? Were they often sexual in nature? Talking about marriage after only a "few months" is too soon.
DaisyBug Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 Implants aren't permanent. Will you have the money to have them redone years down the road? If you decide not to, what about the extra sagging skin you will have? As for the guy, it is way too early to tell if you are his "soul mate." It's early in the relationship and things are at its best right now. Please don't rush into anything... 1
mimiMobile Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 I honestly do not think men care all that much about size.. I have a smaller cup and do plump mine up with push up bras and what not and my last boyfriend put it perfectly - they are perky and fun. And he's dated all sorts of sizes. Boobs are boobs. Men get a hard on looking at boobs and a firm ass. He loves you for you, don't over think this. Get the implants because they'll make you happy. It'll be a bonus for the bf. 1
Lois_Griffin Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 When I first met my bf we were having a casual conversation he mentioned he has big hands so he likes big boobs for grabbing. When we have sex he rarely touches my boobs. He saw an old pic of me when they were bigger and he mentioned they were nice. I told him I'm going to cut body fat so they will get smaller and he said that's fine. He always tells me I'm the hottest girl he dated and the best in bed. He brags to his friends about how hot I am too. I told him I want implants. One day we were laying in bed and he said so what size implants do you want. I didn't answer. He then said can I tit **** you after you get them. When I wear a pushup bra he oogles them and grabs at them more. But sometimes he doesn't even take my bra/shirt off during sex he only touches my boobs if I tell him to. The other day he randomly sent me a text saying he loves me the way I am and he doesn't care if I get implants or not. I'm getting implants soon once we are married so idk if I should make a big deal about this but I can't help but feel like wtf in the mean time. I just feel like if they were bigger he would behave differently. How old is this guy? He sounds like an ignorant 18 year old hormonal kid. 3
Gaeta Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 Lets say you get the implants and his attitude toward your breast don't change, then what? 4
Michelle ma Belle Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 To answer your opening post, you're being overly paranoid in my humble opinion. Is it normal for men (and women) to have a roster of physical "preferences" when it comes to their partners? Yes. Can those "preferences" change or shift depending on the partner and what other great attributes they have and bring to the table? Abso-f*cking-lutely! I think this is a clear case of the latter. He sounds like he loves you and wants a future with you and bigger boobs or not, he's into you. Would he appreciate larger breasts? Sure but it doesn't sound like a deal breaker and THAT is what is important to remember. Stop over thinking it and do whatever feels right for YOU and not because you're trying to please someone else. Good luck.
central Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 As long as he likes you and loves you, he doesn't have to like every body part equally. Sure, he may prefer larger boobs, but I'll bet he wouldn't dream of trading you for someone with bigger boobs, unless they were also everything else he loves about you. And that's not going to happen. In other words, don't worry about it.
hotpotato Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 UH oh sounds like you found a t*tty man. They love big boobs, they can't help it. He has feelings for you but maybe isn't crazy about your boobs.
DKT3 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 Listen, your thinking way too much about this. I will Never understand why so many women think we (men) are so complex and complicated. We aren't. My SO has small boobs, I like them but when she wears a push up bra and low cut shirt I also give them some extra attention during the day because its so rare that she does that. It doesn't mean I don't like them or wish they were bigger. In fact back when she tossed around the idea I told her I didn't like bigger boobs on her (3 kids), it looked funny. Yet from time to time I make comments about her small boobs. Means nothing 1
stupidkittten Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 I have a close friend who is really hugely a titty man. He has an extreme obsession. Sometimes that's all he can ever talk about and it's the only porn he watches. The girl he loved the most had small boobs. He never cheated on her, never even dreamed on it. It took him well over a year and 6 months into dating a girl with larger boobs and a good personality to even remotely get over her and I'm 90% positive he ended up cheating on her with his ex (although he'll never fully admit it). Even if he is big on huge boobs, it doesn't really change his feelings for you.
Popsicle Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 When I first met my bf we were having a casual conversation he mentioned he has big hands so he likes big boobs for grabbing. When we have sex he rarely touches my boobs. He saw an old pic of me when they were bigger and he mentioned they were nice. I told him I'm going to cut body fat so they will get smaller and he said that's fine. He always tells me I'm the hottest girl he dated and the best in bed. He brags to his friends about how hot I am too. I told him I want implants. One day we were laying in bed and he said so what size implants do you want. I didn't answer. He then said can I tit **** you after you get them. When I wear a pushup bra he oogles them and grabs at them more. But sometimes he doesn't even take my bra/shirt off during sex he only touches my boobs if I tell him to. The other day he randomly sent me a text saying he loves me the way I am and he doesn't care if I get implants or not. I'm getting implants soon once we are married so idk if I should make a big deal about this but I can't help but feel like wtf in the mean time. I just feel like if they were bigger he would behave differently. It sounds like he truly doesn't cares out this (and I mean that literally) and he's kind of retarded or has a deliberate and subtle mean streak for not picking up on the fact that you need some cheering in this area.
Vintage79 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 How old is this guy? He sounds like an ignorant 18 year old hormonal kid. I don't think he sounds like much of a hormonal kid - he didn't ask her to get implants, he tells her that he doesn't need them, and he communicates the she means a lot to him - I don't see what the issue is with his behavior - so, he gets turned on by a few things - it doesn't sound like he's ever tried to coax the OP into doing anything and that he is highly appreciative of the way she is now. The issue here is 100% on the OP - she's got crazy low self esteem (which is effectively a hallmark of anyone getting, or seriously contemplating a boob job) and she's obscenely paranoid. The fact that just casually drops into the text that when they get married into the post, and then later states that they've only known each other for a few months, further suggests her relative immaturity and naivite. OP - just get some confidence - this guy sounds like he's been nothing but supporting and appreciative of who you are - thinking that a superficial modification would change anything is a problematic view - it may be worthwhile to seek out some kind of personal counseling to work through your underlying issues...
d0nnivain Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 This sounds very problematic to me. If you want to get implants because you want them, fine. It's your body. If you are thinking about getting implants to please him, rethink the decision. The size of your boobs alone will not correct problems in your relationships. 1
hotpotato Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 I think you should get implants if thats what makes you happy. I'm getting new boobs. Feel free to ask questions. The amount of sagging you have depends on the size of the implant, your skin elasticity, etc. New silicone implants don't necessarily need to be replaced every 10 years. Nowadays they are a cohesive gel or super cohesive gel (gummy bear) and more durable. The old silicone ones were more like a syrup. Many fake boobs look better than the real thing, to be objective. Many bounce and jiggle *more* than real boobs. They don't always look like coconuts aka bolt ons. Some girls go for the coconut look, that's why they have it. Silicone wasn't available for a long time, so girls used saline which can look faker. Some girls have a gap btwn the boobs. This is not a byproduct of surgery. That's the plastic surgeons fault. Many do a fine job of closing the gap. I think I covered most of the misinfo people will tell you. Keep us posted! Men are hardwired to prefer hourglass figures. This isn't something they can help. I've had guys call me flat-ish lol. I think small ish boobs are something guys try to overlook. It's ok, but it's not like GD THAT'S HOT! Know what i mean?
hotpotato Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 How old is this guy? He sounds like an ignorant 18 year old hormonal kid. Nope, probably just a breast man.
hotpotato Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 I don't think he sounds like much of a hormonal kid - he didn't ask her to get implants, he tells her that he doesn't need them, and he communicates the she means a lot to him - I don't see what the issue is with his behavior - so, he gets turned on by a few things - it doesn't sound like he's ever tried to coax the OP into doing anything and that he is highly appreciative of the way she is now. The issue here is 100% on the OP - she's got crazy low self esteem (which is effectively a hallmark of anyone getting, or seriously contemplating a boob job) and she's obscenely paranoid. The fact that just casually drops into the text that when they get married into the post, and then later states that they've only known each other for a few months, further suggests her relative immaturity and naivite. OP - just get some confidence - this guy sounds like he's been nothing but supporting and appreciative of who you are - thinking that a superficial modification would change anything is a problematic view - it may be worthwhile to seek out some kind of personal counseling to work through your underlying issues... Well, I can sympathize. It sounds like op is really attractive and maybe has that one thing 'wrong' with her. I call myself a butter boobs-everything's hot but her boobs. No one gets worked up over plastic surgery the way people get worked up and judgmental about boob jobs. I agree, op should do it bc it makes her happy. Op, are you sure you'll be with this guy long term? What if you get boobs, and he goes?
Author jessiejae Posted July 27, 2015 Author Posted July 27, 2015 I don't think he sounds like much of a hormonal kid - he didn't ask her to get implants, he tells her that he doesn't need them, and he communicates the she means a lot to him - I don't see what the issue is with his behavior - so, he gets turned on by a few things - it doesn't sound like he's ever tried to coax the OP into doing anything and that he is highly appreciative of the way she is now. The issue here is 100% on the OP - she's got crazy low self esteem (which is effectively a hallmark of anyone getting, or seriously contemplating a boob job) and she's obscenely paranoid. The fact that just casually drops into the text that when they get married into the post, and then later states that they've only known each other for a few months, further suggests her relative immaturity and naivite. OP - just get some confidence - this guy sounds like he's been nothing but supporting and appreciative of who you are - thinking that a superficial modification would change anything is a problematic view - it may be worthwhile to seek out some kind of personal counseling to work through your underlying issues... First off I mentioned I will get implants after we are married bc he doesn't exactly live near me I have spent a lot of money visiting him. He said he will finance the surgery to make up for all the money I spent. I'm not just willing to marry him bc of that I really do love him. I always wanted implants before I met him but never got them bc I didn't need them when I weighed more. If I had perfectly shaped small boobs I wouldn't even bother. I am a small c full b and I have a small frame I wear a size 0 so I'm not completely flat I just want a minor improvement everyone should try to look their best and improve in anyway they can.
PaperCrane Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 The size you mention is pretty much perfect for a smaller frame. The girl I'm seeing is very similar, petite (4'11) and has solid B's, and they look huge on her. I consider myself a breast man, however I go for overall form over size and by your explanation I'd assume size wise they'd be fine. His reactions to it seem very honest but a little harsh, however I'm not in your guys dynamic so it may or may not be that way. If you do decide to get the surgery, make sure it really is something you want to do. If it makes you happy, thats 100% what matters. If he's happy too that's just extra. 1
DaisyBug Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 First off I mentioned I will get implants after we are married bc he doesn't exactly live near me I have spent a lot of money visiting him. He said he will finance the surgery to make up for all the money I spent. I'm not just willing to marry him bc of that I really do love him. I always wanted implants before I met him but never got them bc I didn't need them when I weighed more. If I had perfectly shaped small boobs I wouldn't even bother. I am a small c full b and I have a small frame I wear a size 0 so I'm not completely flat I just want a minor improvement everyone should try to look their best and improve in anyway they can. That sounds like a perfect size for a size 0! I wouldn't dare get implants if you are that slim and already have a decent sized chest. Why not just gain some weight back to a size 2 or 4? Big boobs on a very slim woman doesn't look right. 1
TouchedByViolet Posted July 28, 2015 Posted July 28, 2015 Sounds as though he likes your boobs currently and will like them even more after implants. You are worrying about nothing.
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