TB Rhine Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 The obligatory impotence question. I think I have a healthy enough sex drive... I fantasize, masturbate at least once every few days, etc. But whenever I find myself in a real-life sexual situation, it's like something inside me just turns off. I'm like a robot trying (vainly) to go through the motions. It's not just that I can't get hard; I don't enjoy any of it. Touching, kissing, etc. It's like I can't even FEEL anything the girl tries to do to me, let alone enjoy it. Like zero sensation at all. As stated, I'm able to rise to the occasion and achieve an orgasm during masturbation, so I'm reasonably sure it's not a medical issue. So is it a psychological thing? I'm just curious if anyone else has experienced this particular issue and, if so, what they might have been able to do in order to solve it.
Art_Critic Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 You have to be sexually attracted to the girl, ie: if your sister touched you there is no way you would rise to the occasion... , sorry for the visual Maybe you are dating women that you are not turned on by. I have dated women before that didn't turn me on and it was like kissing your sister.
elaine567 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 How a Guy's Masturbation Habits Can Affect Your Sex Life | Women's Health Magazine
Author TB Rhine Posted July 27, 2015 Author Posted July 27, 2015 That was an interesting and informative article... thank you! 1
Tom E Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 I would try to stop masturbating, it messes with a lot more than you think (T-levels and Dopamine). I stopped 100% when I was 20 or 21 and never looked back. Took a month or so before I noticed some of the benefits of not masturbating. IMO, the benefits of not masturbating out weigh the benefit(if there is any) of masturbating.
Els Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 1) What happens when you stop masturbating for, say, a week? 2) Are you attracted to those women?
Author TB Rhine Posted July 27, 2015 Author Posted July 27, 2015 I'm sure there have been periods where I've gone a week or more without masturbating, though I've never actually made a concerted effort to stop. I'm definitely going to try and abstain for at least a month, however, and see how that affects things. The strange thing is that I am attracted to them; in fact in many cases they've been girls that I've fantasized about extensively prior to trying to get intimate, etc. It's just one of those situations where the situation seems so enticing in my head, but when I'm actually there and a real live woman is right in front of me, it's like... do-duh-do-duh-do, how's the weather? All that lust I carry around with me the rest of the time is just not there.
PogoStick Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 I would consider psychological issues. There could be things that interfere with your ability to emotionally connect with a person. Abuse, parent's divorce, drug use/addictions. It would be worth exploring.
Clarence_Boddicker Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 A normal healthy straight guy gets a hard on when he's around a girl he's attracted to. Are you asexual, bi or gay? Do you look at people in public? If so, who do you look at? I'm a A/H/P guy, so that's what my eyes are drawn to on attractive girls I see in public.
Author TB Rhine Posted August 1, 2015 Author Posted August 1, 2015 Day 5 without... you know. (Per the article linked upthread). I find I get -- antsy -- around bedtime. I've also developed a tendency toward sudden giggling jags while lying in bed.
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