jam67 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 My girlfriend and I of 1.5 years broke up a little over two months ago. We had broken up twice over the course of the relationship. Both for short times, both her choice, both times she came back. I Won't bore you with the details. I was a good loyal bf, the first two times we broke up, it was her doing and the reasons made sense, and weren't my fault. Just things that were problems of her own. When we broke up the last time, I decided as much as I love her, it was time to move on. Went NC right away. Well NC that I didn't block her number, but did block social media. So, fast foreword to the past few weeks. She has been texting me, light stuff, but I assumed it was the same as before, her trying to come back to me. I stayed strong and didn't respond. I know I should've blocked her all together, but I figured I would be ok, and just ignore her if she did contact me. And I did ignore her. It did mess with me, and I contemplated talking to her, but I didnt. Tonight, I was feeling bad, just coming back from vacation, and feeling lonely. I did a little digging and found out she just got in a relationship. Again, I messed up. I shouldn't have looked, but we all know how it is... So, I decied that as much lurking as I do on this site, I might as well contribute. Listen to what other members on here say, block them completely. Go NC, and don't dig into things. I wouldn't say I set myself back, bc I know that I wasn't going to attempt to get back with her. But after tonight, I'm glad I didn't respond to her the last couple weeks. I don't know what her intentions were, but I'm glad I stayed strong and let it be. Bc I probably would've just found out more that I don't want to know, stay strong, don't snoop, and don't respond to their breadcrumbs. It's a tough road, and now I'm having a **** night. Learn from my mistakes...
aloneinaz Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 My girlfriend and I of 1.5 years broke up a little over two months ago. We had broken up twice over the course of the relationship. Both for short times, both her choice, both times she came back. I Won't bore you with the details. I was a good loyal bf, the first two times we broke up, it was her doing and the reasons made sense, and weren't my fault. Just things that were problems of her own. When we broke up the last time, I decided as much as I love her, it was time to move on. Went NC right away. Well NC that I didn't block her number, but did block social media. So, fast foreword to the past few weeks. She has been texting me, light stuff, but I assumed it was the same as before, her trying to come back to me. I stayed strong and didn't respond. I know I should've blocked her all together, but I figured I would be ok, and just ignore her if she did contact me. And I did ignore her. It did mess with me, and I contemplated talking to her, but I didnt. Tonight, I was feeling bad, just coming back from vacation, and feeling lonely. I did a little digging and found out she just got in a relationship. Again, I messed up. I shouldn't have looked, but we all know how it is... So, I decied that as much lurking as I do on this site, I might as well contribute. Listen to what other members on here say, block them completely. Go NC, and don't dig into things. I wouldn't say I set myself back, bc I know that I wasn't going to attempt to get back with her. But after tonight, I'm glad I didn't respond to her the last couple weeks. I don't know what her intentions were, but I'm glad I stayed strong and let it be. Bc I probably would've just found out more that I don't want to know, stay strong, don't snoop, and don't respond to their breadcrumbs. It's a tough road, and now I'm having a **** night. Learn from my mistakes... You'll be fine my friend. Just a small bump in the road. Stay NC w/her and certainly block any attempts she may make in contacting you. Her intentions in contacting you where to see if you'd reply and then stroke her ego. You not replying clearly bothered her as she kept texting. I'm sure it was silly games on her part and like you said, you're better off finding a new GF that you're more compatible with. You two have already broken up twice. That in itself speaks volumes. Don't worry about her being "in a relationship" already. It sounds like nothing but a young girls stupid games. Don't worry about her anymore. She's not your problem.
foolinlove79 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 My ex does the same. Bu with me then starts texting all casual Like nothing happened. Its to test the waters to see if you will come back. And also this time i didnt bite so he is now seeing someone else. Nc the way to go with these up/down people
Author jam67 Posted July 27, 2015 Author Posted July 27, 2015 I appreciate the response. Just sort of **** because he was a "friend" of hers while we dated. I don't know, I'm hoping in a few days or a week I'll be back on my road to recovery. Just for the time being, it's a mind ****. But again, I appreciate the responses and insight of this board. Goddamm love is a weird ride...
GoBlue Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 Does it really matter who it is? You made a decision that is best for you and she got the hint and moved on. There is no benefit to running through all of the possible scenarios of what may or may not have been going on when you were together as a couple. It was not a good connection that was going to stand the test of time. You will be back on solid footing soon - it will be ok. Stay strong.
Author jam67 Posted July 27, 2015 Author Posted July 27, 2015 Does it really matter who it is? You made a decision that is best for you and she got the hint and moved on. There is no benefit to running through all of the possible scenarios of what may or may not have been going on when you were together as a couple. It was not a good connection that was going to stand the test of time. You will be back on solid footing soon - it will be ok. Stay strong. Thank you blue. Honestly that made my evening. I have running through the scenarios all day, and you did just really put things into perspective. Much appreciated.
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