jam67 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 My girlfriend and I of 1.5 years broke up a little over two months ago. We had broken up twice over the course of the relationship. Both for short times, both her choice, both times she came back. I Won't bore you with the details. I was a good loyal bf, the first two times we broke up, it was her doing and the reasons made sense, and weren't my fault. Just things that were problems of her own. When we broke up the last time, I decided as much as I love her, it was time to move on. Went NC right away. Well NC that I didn't block her number, but did block social media. So, fast foreword to the past few weeks. She has been texting me, light stuff, but I assumed it was the same as before, her trying to come back to me. I stayed strong and didn't respond. I know I should've blocked her all together, but I figured I would be ok, and just ignore her if she did contact me. And I did ignore her. It did mess with me, and I contemplated talking to her, but I didnt. Tonight, I was feeling bad, just coming back from vacation, and feeling lonely. I did a little digging and found out she just got in a relationship. Again, I messed up. I shouldn't have looked, but we all know how it is... So, I decied that as much lurking as I do on this site, I might as well contribute. Listen to what other members on here say, block them completely. Go NC, and don't dig into things. I wouldn't say I set myself back, bc I know that I wasn't going to attempt to get back with her. But after tonight, I'm glad I didn't respond to her the last couple weeks. I don't know what her intentions were, but I'm glad I stayed strong and let it be. Bc I probably would've just found out more that I don't want to know, stay strong, don't snoop, and don't respond to their breadcrumbs. It's a tough road, and now I'm having a **** night. Learn from my mistakes...
darkbloom Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 Checking social media is like putting your hand on the hot stove. You've been warned and you know it's hot, but you can't help yourself. Kudos though for not responding to her texts. That takes extreme willpower and strength. At least with snooping her social media, she has no way to know you broke NC. I would encourage you to block her phone number as well so that way you take away all temptation. And you can't make bad decisons with that number when you're drunk or lonely. Keep your head up. Realizing that you don't want to continue in the same cycle with her is a huge step.
smackie9 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 Ya I can see how being replaced so soon can make you feel deflated.....but you two have been broken up for 2 months now.....it's time to shake it off. If you breakup that many times....it's not going to work....the second time should have been your last time. Whatever her issues were, they were never resolved.....pretty much why going back doesn't work. In a couple of weeks, you are going to not feel this way.....you will be back to your old self, and possibly excited to see what's next.
Author jam67 Posted July 27, 2015 Author Posted July 27, 2015 I appreciate the responses, and I started this thread in the wrong forum by accident..
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