Mjm1014 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 So for the past two weeks, my gf has seemed distant with me, and very emotional. It all started about a month ago I felt my girlfriend withdrawing from me a little, but it's gotten really bad the past two weeks. No cute texts, hardly wants to talk on the phone, won't flirt with me, but when we hang out she seems fine and occasionally I get an "I love you". My parents have been planning a trip to Denver for this winter, and before my girlfriend seemed somewhat interested in going, but when I brought it up tonight she flat out said "no I'll pass, it's too cold there, and mountains aren't my thing" and said she would rather use her days off to go on a trip with her mom. I was hoping to spend some quality time with her there, and was hoping she would feel the same even if it's not her "place to go". It just really bugs me she's been like this lately...it hardly feels like I have a girlfriend. The other day I told her she was being distant and she started crying saying I'm over thinking things and she's stressed from work, doesn't have any friends anymore, and basically blew up on me saying she couldn't take me questioning her. I don't feel important to her, but what concerns me more is how she is acting...she's going through something but won't open up. What should I do? Sorry this was a bit of a vent message too. Just need some opinions or ideas to snap her out of this. I miss the old her.
fitnessfan365 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 When it comes to things like this, you can't make someone open up. The more you push, the more she'll resist. You have to allow her to come to you on her own terms and tell you when she's ready. My advice? Pull way back and give the girl space. Don't call or text her at all. Let her do all the initiating. When she does, invite her over, bang her brains out, and repeat. By getting back to basics and becoming the guy she was first attracted to, she'll probably feel more comfortable to finally open up.
Arieswoman Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 Sorry, Mjm1014, but it sounds like she's slowly checking out of the relationship and using emotional manipulation to make it seem your fault. I wouldn't be surprised if she was cheating. Personally I'd do a preemptive strike and dump her while you still have your self-respect. I'm sorry, I really am. x 1
loveforever101 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 Definetly been in that situation. I didn't realize it until after my girlfriend left though. It does seem possible that she's distant because she might be checking out as said above. It also could be that she really is just stressed from work though. Its your girlfriend you should know more than anyone if something might be wrong in any way. I suggest taking a step back and either asking about it in a very nice way and if it is just work ask her to explain what's been going on so that you could help her out emotionally. Or it could be worse and your girlfriend is really losing interest... are you sure your relationship is going well? No fighting? Nothing that would cause tension?
wb1988 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 There is only 1 parachute when it comes to breaking up, make sure that you're not the one stuck on the plane that's about to crash. Ahh who are we kidding, you're probably too much of a pussy and will probably wait it out for her to take the parachute first.
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 There is only 1 parachute when it comes to breaking up, make sure that you're not the one stuck on the plane that's about to crash. Ahh who are we kidding, you're probably too much of a pussy and will probably wait it out for her to take the parachute first. Who cares who dumps who? When the writing is on the wall, it's irrelevant who calls it.
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