Brokenman88 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 (edited) Hi I'm just going to share my story as I am really struggling. 2 weeks ago my fiancée walked on me, we have a 4 year old child together. I suffer from depression so I think that is what dragged her away from me and also I could of been there more for her but overall I didn't treat her bad. We moved into a rental 3 months ago after living at her parents house for over 2 years trying to save for a house but I lost my job and we had saved quite a lot so needing 1 year in a job to get a loan we decided to move out. The first few weeks in the rental were really great it was great to have the space as a family, it got to about 3 weeks ago and she just completely changed, then she broke up with me saying she is unhappy and needs to find herself and she wasn't herself anymore, I questioned if there was another man involved she said no she couldn't be with another man for a long time, she says she still loves and cares about me tho but she just can't be with me anymore, she felt trapped, We were together for 6 and a half years and engaged for nearly 2 years but we were both not into rushing into getting married. We didn't argue heaps but when we did it was normally when we were drunk and it was always about jealousy I guess, we had our ups and downs like most couples but always pulled thru in the down times. Can anyone offer me some advice on how to go about this? I'm devastated and really just want my family back. Edited July 27, 2015 by Brokenman88 Spelling error
Author Brokenman88 Posted July 27, 2015 Author Posted July 27, 2015 Also to mention her family are very dependent on her, I'm 27 and she is 26 turning 27 later on in the year. I just miss them both so much
Learningtowalkagain Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 As a single father who suffers from OCD/PTSD/depression and went through a somewhat similar situation (2 1/2 year relationship, 1 year old daughter, g/f cheated on me). Your daughter is number 1. Establish that first. The stuff with your ex sucks and you're in pain right now and I get all that, but your daughters needs need to be #1. It's not her fault you two didn't work out. Be the best father you can be. I hated my ex when we broke up but the love for my daughter carried me through the break up. Seek counseling. There are great meds for depression (hello welbutrin). Also talk to a therapist, I'm doing Cognitive Behavior Therapy and it's doing good. I suffer from PTSD from being in the military so I'm in a bit of a different situation but it works. If you're trying to reconcile, I'd stay away for a bit. She's made her intentions clear. She's unsure of the relationship. Focus on your relationship with your daughter. If your ex wants to reconcile you'll know but you have to be observant. You know her better than anyone if you've spent that much time with her. Don't fight or be nasty. Good luck.
Author Brokenman88 Posted July 27, 2015 Author Posted July 27, 2015 As a single father who suffers from OCD/PTSD/depression and went through a somewhat similar situation (2 1/2 year relationship, 1 year old daughter, g/f cheated on me). Your daughter is number 1. Establish that first. The stuff with your ex sucks and you're in pain right now and I get all that, but your daughters needs need to be #1. It's not her fault you two didn't work out. Be the best father you can be. I hated my ex when we broke up but the love for my daughter carried me through the break up. Seek counseling. There are great meds for depression (hello welbutrin). Also talk to a therapist, I'm doing Cognitive Behavior Therapy and it's doing good. I suffer from PTSD from being in the military so I'm in a bit of a different situation but it works. If you're trying to reconcile, I'd stay away for a bit. She's made her intentions clear. She's unsure of the relationship. Focus on your relationship with your daughter. If your ex wants to reconcile you'll know but you have to be observant. You know her better than anyone if you've spent that much time with her. Don't fight or be nasty. Good luck. Thanks for the advice I guess I never made an effort to sort myself out I was always too busy. I'll try and be the best Dad I can. It's not a nice situation but you have said very true words good luck,
coryreply Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's heartbreaking to be away from your family. You guys are in my prayers today. So she didn't give you a specific reason for splitting?
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