MissxVenomxPoison Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 Last week, I asked out a guy who really changed since high school, he found out about how my other ex hurt me and promised to never hurt me and we hit it off We fooled around and messaged each other. I felt like a queen around him, wasn't long before I gave him a blowjob. We had a really good time. The same night though, he dumped me and I was freaking out because he had given me happiness only to rip it away from me.I was devastated, cried for days and am still crying over him. I decide maybe try NC but yesterday, he blocked me on Facebook for no reason.
Learningtowalkagain Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 ehhhh...it was only 1 week? He got his BJ and moved on. Some guys are like that. Sorry you had to learn the hard way.
Author MissxVenomxPoison Posted July 26, 2015 Author Posted July 26, 2015 ehhhh...it was only 1 week? He got his BJ and moved on. Some guys are like that. Sorry you had to learn the hard way. If he didn't want me, he should have said no in the first place
devilish innocent Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 He's not worth your tears. Next time you will find somebody better. 1
Author MissxVenomxPoison Posted July 27, 2015 Author Posted July 27, 2015 What relationship? One we would have had if he wouldn't have ripped it away from me
elaine567 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 If he didn't want me, he should have said no in the first place And then he would not have got his bj... Some men can be very selfish and cruel and only want women for sex. He got his bj, which was what he was wanted in the first place and dumped you thereafter.
Seeker12 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 Sorry to hear this story really, but as all other posters said, A) there was no real relationship there and 2) he got what he wanted i.e. the bj. Just a lesson for next time, dont rush into intimacy that quick, have some guard atleast, men and i am one, tend to promise the world and shower girls who are receptive to their advances with compliments. Hey, in my serious RS (broken up now) i had to wait 6 months for a first kiss!
Learningtowalkagain Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 If he didn't want me, he should have said no in the first place But then he wouldn't have gotten his BJ. Sorry to have to break this to you, but guys will do and say just about anything for sex. That's the way we're wired. When I was in my 20's I probably would have done the same thing. Now that I'm older I realize what I did was wrong but it was only 1 week so take it as a hook up and move on.
Author MissxVenomxPoison Posted July 27, 2015 Author Posted July 27, 2015 (edited) But then he wouldn't have gotten his BJ. Sorry to have to break this to you, but guys will do and say just about anything for sex. That's the way we're wired. When I was in my 20's I probably would have done the same thing. Now that I'm older I realize what I did was wrong but it was only 1 week so take it as a hook up and move on. I still can't believe he did that to me though, a guy who was in my foods class, who I went to school with used me for sex Edited July 27, 2015 by MissxVenomxPoison
Author MissxVenomxPoison Posted July 27, 2015 Author Posted July 27, 2015 And then he would not have got his bj... Some men can be very selfish and cruel and only want women for sex. He got his bj, which was what he was wanted in the first place and dumped you thereafter. I'm devastated because we went to school together and he knew about what my ex did to me
Learningtowalkagain Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 I still can't believe he did that to me though, a guy who was in my foods class, who I went to school with used me for sex meh...you said you blew him, so at least you didn't bang him. Move on. Lesson learned for the future.
mightycpa Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 (edited) So if you both had a really good time, what's the problem? Or maybe he didn't have as good a time as you thought he did. Or maybe he lied to you... that happens, you know, without any regard to your particular sob story. Sometimes boys lie to get sex. So just find someone else to have a good time with! Edited July 27, 2015 by mightycpa
Author MissxVenomxPoison Posted July 27, 2015 Author Posted July 27, 2015 So if you both had a really good time, what's the problem? Or maybe he didn't have as good a time as you thought he did. Or maybe he lied to you... that happens, you know, without any regard to your particular sob story. Sometimes boys lie to get sex. So just find someone else to have a good time with! Trying to do that but can't forget the pain...he gave me happiness only to rip it away from me
LeslieKnope Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 Hi there Miss, Sorry you're feeling sad. Chalk this one up as a learning experience for you. Not everyone believes sex is solely connected to relationships (I certainly don't, and I've been in relationships!). So here are my recommendations, take 'em or leave 'em: 1) Don't speak to this guy ever again. Block him from your cell, email, facebook and all social media. And if you have classes with him, definitely don't socialize with him anymore. 2) Write a letter to him that you will NEVER EVER send. Just express all the feelings of sadness and anger you feel then burn or permanently delete the letter. As a matter of fact, you can even post it here to get it off your chest. The key is to get your feelings out without speaking to him. 3) Next time you want to get serious about a boy, try to take things a little slower. Some people are totally cool in engaging in sexual activity without the promise of a relationship because they're not automatically attaching further meaning to it - that's perfectly fine. But in your case, I think you took your willingness to give him oral sex as a sign of your emotional attachment to him, and vice versa. In which case, wait a bit next time until you're sure your feelings are mutual. 4) This one is just me being ultra feminist: the next time some guy asks you for sex, make sure you get something out of it too, preferably first. This way at the very least you derive some pleasure from the encounter. 5) Not all boys are lame, but a lot of them are, including this one. Take it from someone who I suspect is a few years older than you: you're going to be okay. It's okay to feel down, but you will definitely meet better, nicer, more mature guys in your lifetime. Be well! 1
aloneinaz Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 Trying to do that but can't forget the pain...he gave me happiness only to rip it away from me How old are you? I'm guessing still a teen? Either way, explore why you're so upset with a guy after ONLY spending a week with him? Really? You'll quickly learn that you should NEVER get emotionally invested IN ANYONE until you're MONTHS into a serious, committed relationship.
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