DaisyBug Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 Just thought this might be an interesting topic... Does anyone notice any particular patterns when it comes to dating and relationships? This is not really for debating, what you throw out there doesn't have to be accurate necessarily, but just asking what YOU seem to notice. For me: It seems that sex seems to happen within the first 3 dates BEFORE there are any real feelings established. It also seems that, around week 3, people on LS report that the guy is losing interest at this time, OR a relationship is expected, assumed, or established. (Could be 2 to 6 weeks.) Person may even question their future together. I'm trying to decide if it seems like relationships burn out by month 3, but perhaps I'm just tempted to use "3" a 3rd time... Overall, it just seems like these days things go from 0 to 60, but quickly spin out. Everyone expects instant gratification, while having the attention span of a gnat - like having ADD, only with people. What's funny to me is hearing people on LS refer to a relationship of 2.5/3 years as a "long-term relationship." Huh? That's not long-term, that's just "a relationship." What patterns are you noticing these days??
wb1988 Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 (edited) How old are you? I'm 26 so to me anything between 6 months to a year is more serious and anything over a year is long term. I blame it on both feminism and popular media. Edited July 26, 2015 by wb1988 1
Author DaisyBug Posted July 27, 2015 Author Posted July 27, 2015 Older. What does feminism have to do with anything? 1
smackie9 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 Older. What does feminism have to do with anything? The younger generation misinterprets the true meaning of feminism. Like they think feminists are a bunch of bitchy butches that open doors for men, burn their bras so they can go out of their way to emasculate men.
smackie9 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 To me environment, culture, religion, maturity level, etc plays a key role in what pattern is followed for dating and relationships. Of course someone that is in their 20's is going to feel 2 years is long term, while someone who has been married for 25 years is going to feel it's just a quick relationship. Everyone has different values or standards in what they will allow for when to have sex or when to call it serious. If I was single today at 51, I don't think I would hop in the sack with anyone on the third date. I have always waited for about 3 weeks or seeing each other 3 to 4 times a week. I like going out and spending time with someone and also out with friends together, while you will have others that will see someone once a week....that wouldn't fly with me. 1
Gaeta Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 Does anyone notice any particular patterns when it comes to dating and relationships? This is not really for debating, what you throw out there doesn't have to be accurate necessarily, but just asking what YOU seem to notice. For me: It seems that sex seems to happen within the first 3 dates BEFORE there are any real feelings established. It also seems that, around week 3, people on LS report that the guy is losing interest at this time, OR a relationship is expected, assumed, or established. (Could be 2 to 6 weeks.) Person may even question their future together. I'm trying to decide if it seems like relationships burn out by month 3, but perhaps I'm just tempted to use "3" a 3rd time... Overall, it just seems like these days things go from 0 to 60, but quickly spin out. Everyone expects instant gratification, while having the attention span of a gnat - like having ADD, only with people. What's funny to me is hearing people on LS refer to a relationship of 2.5/3 years as a "long-term relationship." Huh? That's not long-term, that's just "a relationship." What patterns are you noticing these days?? It looks like my pattern. If ever a man I date makes it to a 4th date we usually will end up dating for a minimum of 3 months. Most men I've met I've discarded before 3 dates or they bailed on me before or on that 3rd date. There seem to be a consensus that beyond 3 dates if you're not feeling it you are then misleading the person. Which I agree with. Three dates is plenty to know if this is someone you have a genuine interest in. Interestingly I have never dated someone 5-6-7 dates then it aborted. If we survive past that 3rd date we usually make it to 3 months. At 3 months it's another and different step. The question usually is 'Are you into this as much as I am'. That's another step that needs to be past. In my past each time my relationship made it to 6 months it became a long term relationship of many years.
Author DaisyBug Posted July 27, 2015 Author Posted July 27, 2015 It looks like my pattern. If ever a man I date makes it to a 4th date we usually will end up dating for a minimum of 3 months. Most men I've met I've discarded before 3 dates or they bailed on me before or on that 3rd date. There seem to be a consensus that beyond 3 dates if you're not feeling it you are then misleading the person. Which I agree with. Three dates is plenty to know if this is someone you have a genuine interest in. Interestingly I have never dated someone 5-6-7 dates then it aborted. If we survive past that 3rd date we usually make it to 3 months. At 3 months it's another and different step. The question usually is 'Are you into this as much as I am'. That's another step that needs to be past. In my past each time my relationship made it to 6 months it became a long term relationship of many years. Ah, so I'm not imagining all these 3s!! Thanks for your detailed response. That does seem like the norm? Back in the day, there was something called "The 7-Year Itch," when a relationship would start to get stale and temptations to stray were more likely to happen. Funny, because nowadays 7 years is an eternity for a relationship. Now, it's more like the 3-year itch, if even that.
smackie9 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 I think the pattern is pretty standard for adults. I don't think much has changed except accessibility to more as sholes....and that's men and women.
smackie9 Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 Ah, so I'm not imagining all these 3s!! Thanks for your detailed response. That does seem like the norm? Back in the day, there was something called "The 7-Year Itch," when a relationship would start to get stale and temptations to stray were more likely to happen. Funny, because nowadays 7 years is an eternity for a relationship. Now, it's more like the 3-year itch, if even that. It's called the honeymoon phase.....lasts and where from 3 months to a year and a half.....that's when the infatuation dies off.
Author DaisyBug Posted July 27, 2015 Author Posted July 27, 2015 I don't think much has changed except accessibility to more as sholes.... Dude, that made me laugh!!!
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