NCgirl155 Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 (edited) I can't even really describe the pain I've been in recently so I'd appreciate any advice from people who have been through what I've been through. This may all seem ridiculous because I'm 17, so I apologize in advance. My ex and I broke up a month ago due to communication problems we were having (he never has his phone) which was making the distance a lot harder. We weren't together for years or anything but it felt like a long time to me because we would talk every single day for hours for around 6 months. He asked if we could be friends but I just can't see it working out right now. I think what hurts the most is that he's the first guy I've ever been with (I've been with guys for longer and it's never hurt like this) that told me I was truly his soulmate, that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, etc. I had never had someone say that to me before so I assumed that he meant it. But I was naive. We did speak about getting back together but he said that although he thinks I'm "beautiful and a great person" he can't do the distance. I know that I shouldn't waste my time on him anymore but I seriously can't help it. I've been forcing myself to go out with my friends every single day but no matter what, I always end up crying at night and getting just as upset as I did at the beginning of the breakup. I've been trying to talk to other guys, but it makes me feel worse because none of them are him, and they never will be him. I really poured everything into my ex and we had a great relationship (we never even fought) up until the last two weeks. I'm done talking to him until he reaches out to me first, because I know that if he wanted to be in my life he'd make a point of doing so. I just really don't know what to do. I have slight issues when it comes to feeling comfortable around guys and he's the first one that I truly felt comfortable around. I don't want him gone out of my life forever, I can't even imagine that. He was my best friend and my boyfriend, so I lost two in one. It's still so hard waking up every morning knowing that he's no longer in my life. I feel like my future relationships are going to be affected now because I'll never really believe someone when they promise to never leave me. He's the first guy I've ever met who I could actually picture spending my life with. I'm sorry that this is so long and rambly but when I try to talk to my parents and friends about it they don't really listen and tell me to just get over it. My parents don't get what I see in him because he was shy when he met them and they don't know him the way I do, and my friends don't know him. I've went through plenty of breakups but I've never had one hurt like this. What should I do? When is it going to stop hurting like this? Edited July 26, 2015 by NCgirl155
d0nnivain Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 Losing your 1st love is tough & the pain is intense. However, it is survivable. First stop thinking about him as your soulmate. He wasn't. He was a guy you loved but at 17 your life is not over. You will live to love again. Give yourself some time to grieve, a few weeks at most. Then make changes: rearrange your room, box up all his stuff, get a haircut, take a new class & concentrate on what you are going to do next.
mightycpa Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 Easy. Just wait patiently, and let the real one find you. 1
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